The latest statistics show that more and more white-collar women regard infidelity as a "way to vent negative emotions"

The latest statistics show that the divorce rate in several major cities in China has exceeded 30%, and extramarital affairs It has increasingly become the main "killer" of modern marriages. At the same time, some relationship experts recently released the latest statistics, which show that the cheating rate of married women is significantly and rapidly rising, and more and more white-collar women regard cheating as a "way to vent negative emotions." Many women have no idea of ​​divorce after extramarital affairs, and even chant the new emotional slogan "use cheating to save marriage." Are Extramarital Affairs Really Good for a Marriage? In a rapidly changing and developing society, how to keep marriage fresh?

"Three high" white-collar workers use cheating to release negative emotions

Su Qin has been engaged in emotional counseling and research for urban men and women for many years. She said that in the past year, in the cases she has been exposed to, about 80% of the disputes between husband and wife have focused on "extramarital affairs." Extramarital affairs have become a common problem in today's marriages. The main "killer".

She has made basic statistics on tens of thousands of emotional cases: more than 80% of emotional relationships eventually broke down due to the intervention of a third party; more than 60% of people have experienced varying degrees of emotional distress. Physical infidelity or mental infidelity; more than 50% of people believe that their infidelity is an "accident". Although they regret the consequences of the infidelity and think that they are having an extramarital affair out of nowhere, at the same time, they admit that the infidelity has brought unprecedented consequences to them. of excitement. When it comes to whether the same old tricks will happen again, everyone is generally silent and thinks "it's impossible to say."

In the past, when couples encountered extramarital affairs, it was usually men who cheated. However, in the past two years, the cheating rate of married women has increased significantly and rapidly. More and more white-collar women with high incomes, high education, and high occupations have regarded cheating as a way to vent their negative emotions. More than half of the cheating women have no intention of divorce after having extramarital affairs. They even chanted the slogan "use cheating to save your marriage". Nearly 30% of women believe that they can handle both matters within and outside marriage, and believe that their extramarital affairs will not affect their marriage, let alone get divorced because of extramarital affairs.

"They regard cheating as a necessary supplement to their emotional life, and believe that a moderate amount of cheating can become the glue of marriage and actually help marriage. cheating can continuously stimulate the spark of love and consolidate the ability to love." Su Qin said.

Marriage counselor: cheating will accelerate the "empty shell" of marriage

Children who are "competed for favor" have a higher rate of cheating after marriage

Su Qin in her The new book "Learning Mental Skills from Scratch" proposes that one of the psychological causes of the rising infidelity rate is the "competition" for only children. The more children are favored by their parents in childhood, the higher the chance of cheating after marriage. This is because parents, relatives and friends competing for his favor is a triangular or even multi-corner secret battle, which gradually develops a child's love vanity. When they grow up, they will hope to continue this competition for favor through multiple emotional relationships. She predicted that the infidelity rate in our country will only get higher and higher in the next 20 years. The reason why female infidelity occurs more among "three high" women is mainly because they are more capable of fighting for emotional freedom. They are often independent and strong, both financially and mentally. At the same time, they are under great pressure at work, have a lot of emotional needs, and tend to have the most negative emotions. Infidelity becomes a way for them to resist reality and vent their grievances at the same time. .

Although some foreign researchers believe that moderate extramarital affairs are beneficial to marriage, Su Qin does not agree with women using cheating to adjust their marriages: "Because the premise of doing this is that confidentiality measures must be done well. Many women actually know that once they are cheated by their husbands, If you know, you can only divorce, which can be said to be very risky." Marriage counselor and psychological expert Yu Donghui also believes that it is incorrect for men and women to try to save their marriages by cheating. , not advisable. Through the release of emotions by lovers, the reduction in communication between husband and wife will accelerate the "empty shell" of the marriage in the long run, which may eventually lead to the death of the marriage.

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