Not long after the 14th International Day against Domestic Violence has passed, the topic among family members has arisen again in white-collar circles. As an elite class, they seem to have little to do with domestic violence, but what is the reality? Recently, reporters randomly interviewed 60 white-collar workers in the three major business districts of Huanshidong, Tianhe Road and Zhujiang New Town. The survey found that domestic violence is "evolving with the times". In addition to traditional domestic violence such as "insulting or beating family members", more than 60% of the respondents believe that "cold violence" such as a cold war with their partner is even more intolerable. As for the causes of domestic violence, more than 80% of the respondents said it was “caused by work pressure.” As a result, some white-collar workers complained: "You have pressure, I have pressure, pressure cannot be used as an excuse for domestic violence."

1. Domestic violence

Illegal or family matter? Most of them said "I can't figure it out"

The reporter randomly interviewed 60 white-collar workers and office workers in the three major business districts of Huanshidong, Tianhe Road and Zhujiang New Town. More than half of the interviewees said they had experienced or heard about domestic violence, most of which were "husbands committing violence against their wives." , "parents committing violence against minor children." As for the nature of domestic violence, 33% of the white-collar workers surveyed clearly believe that it is an "illegal act", but more than half of the white-collar workers surveyed think it is "difficult to describe" and "difficult to define", and more than 10% think it is a "household matter."

"Many times, it is difficult to define such issues, unless it is very serious, such as a couple fighting and one party being injured, which is definitely illegal. Many other behaviors, such as insults, are difficult to define whether they are illegal and may require comparison. Professional knowledge," said Ms. Chen, manager of a Chinese bank on Taojin Road. Mr. Deng, a white-collar worker, believes that most of the so-called domestic violence is "other people's family affairs." "I think generally speaking, (domestic violence) should belong to the category of family affairs. It is usually difficult for outsiders to grasp the real situation. Both parties are responsible. So it’s not objective to just say it’s illegal.”

2. Causes of domestic violence

During the day, the boss was angry and went home from get off work to "perpetrate violence"

As for the causes of domestic violence, more than 80% of white-collar workers and office workers surveyed believe that it is inseparable from their "high work pressure". In addition to work reasons, "differences in living habits", "the abused suffer silently", "children's education problems" and "character problems or psychological distortions" are also common reasons that many white-collar workers interviewed believe to lead to domestic violence.

Mr. Liang works as a senior executive in a foreign-funded company in Tianhe. He admitted that he had been "violent" to his wife several times due to work pressure and other reasons. "There was a time when my work was not going well, and I felt angry at the company. Once When I got home, quarreling with my wife became a common occurrence, and I even started to fight. I can’t believe it now when I think about it.” During the interview, the reporter found that it is not uncommon for family members to engage in similar domestic violence due to work pressure and other workplace-related matters. , "Including myself and many of my colleagues around me, maybe both of us are very busy at work and have less care for our families. In addition, the pace of society is so fast now, everyone usually goes home feeling angry." Mr. Ruan, a white-collar worker, said.

3. Domestic violence trends

"Cold violence" may become common domestic violence among white-collar workers

As society and family relationships continue to change, so do the forms of domestic violence. In addition to the traditional form of domestic violence - "insulting or beating family members", 61% of white-collar workers surveyed believe that "cold violence" and "soft violence" such as "long-term indifference and lack of concern for each other" are serious domestic violence behaviors and Intolerable. In addition, many interviewees believe that "making fun of the other person's weaknesses or flaws," "reprimanding the other person innocently," and "restricting the other person's freedom to make friends" are intolerable domestic violence behaviors among white-collar workers.

"Actually, real physical violence rarely occurs in my circle, but the kind of cold violence or similar methods of torturing the other person, such as not going home, deliberately not talking, or calling female colleagues at home and sending WeChat messages to provoke them. On the other hand, I have indeed heard many colleagues complain about this," Ms. Huang from the human resources department of a five-star hotel in Huanshi Dong told reporters.

4. Impact of domestic violence

When faced with domestic violence, most white-collar workers are willing to “rely on their own”

The reporter's interview found that the vast majority of white-collar workers interviewed believe that domestic violence will affect "the healthy growth of children", "relationships between family members", and "lead to divorce" and other consequences. More than 90% of the respondents believe that "enhancing self-protection awareness" is an effective way to prevent and stop domestic violence. The second is through "severe legal punishment", "media exposure", "carrying out anti-domestic violence publicity activities" and other means.

"Domestic violence, no matter what form it takes, will definitely hurt feelings and make family members unhappy or even hostile. But in fact, I think the most important thing is to start with yourself." Ms. Wang, who works for a real estate company in Zhujiang New City, told reporters, “Consider more from the other party’s perspective. Since we are all relatives, it is better to be more tolerant and less blaming. First, do not become the perpetrator of domestic violence. If you really encounter domestic violence or someone around you, Friends should be brave enough to seek help when they encounter someone else. Being patient will not bring good results. ”

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★Lawyer: There are many ways to protect domestic violence rights

Lawyer Han, who has been engaged in related legal aid services for a long time, said that the Guangzhou community now has relatively complete protection in this regard. “There are many channels for rights protection. Victims can call the police to request protection, go to the hospital for injury examination within 48 hours, seek help from the Women’s Federation, The neighborhood committees and the current comprehensive family service centers are equipped with professional social workers, and there are also complete laws and regulations as guarantees. We should actively use these resources to protect our own rights and interests.”

★Social workers: seek help as early as possible

"Domestic violence still accounts for a certain proportion of all types of family disputes. In recent years, based on actual contact cases, domestic violence has also been increasing in high-income, white-collar elite families, in the form of cold violence. "The main thing is." Director Chen of the Women and Children's Department of the Yuexiu District Women's Federation said frankly that no matter what form of domestic violence it is, it is best to intervene as soon as possible. "You or your friends should actively seek help from relevant people or organizations."

Questionnaire

●What do you think domestic violence is?

A Housework 13%

B Illegal behavior 33%

C Legal behavior 0

D Hard to tell 54%

●Which of the following behaviors do you think is domestic violence (you can select multiple)

A reprimands the other party innocently 42%

B Long-term indifference and lack of concern for the other party 61%

C Restrict the other party’s freedom to make friends by 40%

D controls 35% of the other party’s economic income and expenditure

E Insult or beat family members 86%

F Making fun of or discriminating against each other’s weaknesses or flaws 51%

G Others 18%

●What do you think are the causes of domestic violence (multiple choices available)

A 75% difference in living habits

B Emotional discord 51%

C High work pressure 81%

D Children’s education issues 61%

E Have bad habits such as gambling or alcoholism 58%

F Personality problems or psychological distortions 55%

G The abused suffer in silence 68%

H Others 14%

●When faced with domestic violence, will you seek help from relevant departments?

Legal help?

A knows 23%

B No 9%

C Hard to tell 68%

●Do you know about domestic violence laws and regulations or other rights protection

Channel?

A Understand 26%

B Normal 16%

C Don’t understand 58%

●What do you think are the effective ways to prevent and stop domestic violence?

(Multiple choices available):

A Intervention or mediation by relevant institutions or organizations 42%

B Severe punishment by law 87%

C Work unit intervention and critical education 24%

D media exposure, affecting public opinion 76%

E Enhance self-protection awareness 92%

F Relatives and friends’ involvement 66%

G Carry out more anti-domestic violence publicity activities 74%

H Others 7%