In recent years, among the cases tried by the courts, "reverse-door" divorce cases have shown an upward trend. 80% of the plaintiffs in such cases are women and 20% are men, and the proportion of divorces through mediation or judgment is higher. Divorce cases in other circumstances. 1. The main factors that lead to the prevalence of "reverse door marriage" are: On the one hand, in the past, the traditional custom was that there were no sons in the family and all the children were girls. Parents always hoped to recruit sons-in-law for their daughters to carry on the family line. In modern times, especially in the late 1970s, with the implementation of the national family planning policy across the country, families with only one child accounted for the majority of society. Parents do not want their children raised by themselves to live in other people's homes. They all want their children to live in other people's homes. Being able to lean in.

On the other hand, in rural areas, my country's elderly care system is not yet complete. Inverted marriages must not only play a role in continuing the family line, but also fulfill the responsibility of providing for the elderly until they die. Therefore, inverted door-to-door marriages still exist in large numbers in urban and rural areas. This form of marriage does not violate the provisions of the Marriage Law. In fact, it also plays a role in reducing social burdens and stabilizing society.

2. The main reasons for filing for divorce are complex and diverse, and generally include the following: (1) Undemocratic economic income distribution and decision-making. Due to conflicts caused by unfair economic income and family expenses, most people request divorce. For example, in the divorce case between Yang Moumou and Zhao Moumou, Zhao Moumou was the son-in-law who came to the house. After Zhao Moumou returned from working, he gave all his income to his mother for safekeeping. His wife had no right to interfere, and Zhao Moumou was indifferent to family expenses. Finally, Yang Moumou filed a lawsuit with the court and asked for a divorce from Zhao Moumou.

(2) They have different personalities, living habits and values. They dislike each other and cannot live together. For example, in the divorce case between Wu XX and Xu XX, Wu XX is an urban resident and has lived a privileged life since he was a child. Spending money lavishly has become a habit, while Xu XX has lived in a rural area since he was a child. He is usually more frugal and likes to deposit money in the bank whenever he has a balance. Xu was very disgusted with Wu's spending thousands of yuan on clothes, mobile phones and other daily necessities in a month. Wu could not stand Xu's stinginess and attacked each other every day. After the conflict escalated, they divorced.

(3) The parents of a man and a woman had an endless dispute over the surnames of their grandchildren and went to court to request a divorce. There was a divorce case in which the plaintiff and defendant were the better couple (Emotional Blog, Let’s Talk About Emotions). The parents of the two parties involved in the marriage did not give in to each other over whose surname their grandchildren should have, and they argued to the point of divorce.

(4) They got married shortly after they met, but the foundation of the marriage was poor and they divorced. In a divorce case that the author tried, a man and a woman got married after a month of knowing each other, and then got divorced less than a year later.

(5) Domestic violence causes divorce. For example, in the divorce case between Qin Moumou and Liu Moumou, Liu Moumou was the son-in-law who came to live in Qin Moumou's home. Liu Moumou lived a comfortable life, but Liu Moumou had a bad temper and would beat people if he was not satisfied. Once, over a trivial matter in family life, Liu slapped Qin in a public place. Qin felt ashamed and insisted on divorcing Liu. Liu Moumou regretted it endlessly, but Qin Moumou just couldn't understand it and insisted on divorce.

(6) Interference leads to divorce. In one case, the wife felt that her husband could not make enough money to meet her material needs, so she took the initiative to leave the family and look for another job. The husband and his father did not want to go home despite repeated searches.

(7) One of the spouses is seriously ill and unable to live together and applies for divorce. For example, in the divorce case between Xu Moumou and Sun Moumou, Xu Moumou was the son-in-law who came to the house and had been married for fifteen years. In the past two years, defendant Sun Moumou has gradually lost his ability to work due to illness and cannot take care of himself. The plaintiff gradually left the family and left his wife and children with his parents-in-law. In desperation, Sun Moumou sued the court to demand that Xu Moumou fulfill his support obligations. During the court hearing, Xu Moumou also sued the court to request a divorce from Sun Moumou.

3. The main reasons for the high divorce rate of "inside-door marriages" are as follows: (1) As parents, they are not liberated and cannot let their children out and let them live independently; as children, they are dependent Parents are too overthinking, have poor living abilities, lack a sense of independence, and are unwilling to live alone. If several generations live together under the same roof, there will be some conflicts.

(2) There are many kinds of relationships in the family of "inside-door marriage", including the relationship between husband and wife, the relationship between parents and children, the relationship between grandparents and grandchildren, etc. After the son-in-law comes to live in the house, the addition of an outsider is inevitable. You will feel uncomfortable, and no one is mentally prepared to handle many relationships. In such a family, if one or two relationships are not handled well, it will easily lead to numerous conflicts, and eventually lead to a family war between the two families.

(3) Who has the dominant position in the family cannot be established, leading to constant disputes. The father-in-law wants to maintain the dignity of the father as the head of the family, and the son-in-law wants to challenge this dignity and become the head of the family, which will inevitably lead to family conflicts. As both a daughter and a wife, she is caught in the middle and is in a dilemma. In the end, she chooses family ties. In this way It will inevitably lead to divorce.

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(4) Differences in family outlook and values ​​can also easily cause family conflicts. The older generation has a more conservative outlook on marriage and values, takes marriage more seriously, and is willing to stay together until old age; they are diligent and frugal in life, and material enjoyment often takes a back seat. The younger generation's views on marriage and values ​​are relatively open. They focus on the present feeling and don't think much about the future. They get together when they get together and separate when they separate. They pursue higher freedom in marriage. They tend to focus on consumption and pursue pleasure in material matters. When two people in the family with different views and values ​​on marriage live together, many conflicts will arise, which will lead to the breakdown of the marriage relationship.

(5) As a man in an "inside-the-door marriage", the man has an inferiority complex and cannot tolerate the other party's random comments about himself and his family. For example, a young man from rural areas who enters a door-to-door marriage and lives in a city, or a man who has a door-to-door marriage and lives in a wife's home with better economic conditions because of poor economic conditions at home, is particularly afraid that the other party will talk about his origin, family conditions, etc. in a contemptuous manner. This can also easily cause conflicts and be detrimental to the stability of the relationship between husband and wife.

(6) Utilitarian thinking and money worship are becoming more and more serious. Everything is based on profit and money. They have penetrated into every aspect of the marriage relationship, giving the marriage relationship a strong smell of copper.

4. To solve the problems of unstable marriage relationships and high divorce rates in "inverted door-to-door marriages", we should start from the following aspects: (1) Do not artificially choose your spouse and form of marriage for yourself. Set certain rules and regulations, so that the scope of mate selection will be wide and the form of marriage will not be rigid.

(2) Establish a correct view of marriage and be mentally prepared for possible family conflicts. This can resolve the discomfort caused by marriage as soon as possible, reduce the occurrence of conflicts, and thus improve the quality of marriage. Greatly improve.

(3) Extend the time of love, do not rush to get married, and fully understand and adapt to each other's personality and habits before marriage. Research shows that the longer the relationship lasts, the longer the marriage lasts.

(4) Old and young people should live separately as much as possible. The living habits and lifestyles of the elderly and young people are very different. It is easy for conflicts to arise if they live together for a long time. It is often said that distance creates beauty. This also applies to families with "inverted door marriages". Living separately can effectively prevent the occurrence of family conflicts.

(5) When there are differences in personality and lifestyle between husband and wife, in order to reduce misunderstandings and inconveniences, it is best for each of them to enhance their ability to control and regulate themselves, and to provide enough food and clothing by themselves. If you want to retain your own interests and hobbies, you need to respect the interests and hobbies of the other person at the same time, so as to achieve a balance within the marriage.

(6) If you don’t like or understand your spouse’s lifestyle, you should check whether this lifestyle affects your freedom and interests in the marriage. If the other party does not interfere with you, You should appreciate the other person with a fresh perspective. If the other person inconveniences you, tell them the minimum you can tolerate.

(7) Reduce the number of quarrels between husband and wife. Fissures in the relationship between husband and wife all begin with quarrels in daily life. When one party accuses the other party of something, the other party often waits for an opportunity to retaliate. The result is often a vicious cycle. , eventually leading to a breakup.

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