There are two roots of this thought.

First, according to the analysis of sociologists, the main reason why men vigorously promote virginity is to control and manipulate women's reproductive functions. Because men are afraid that if they marry a woman who has had sexual relations with another man, the children they will have in the future may not be his biological flesh and blood. In that case, he will suffer a big loss. Not only will he contribute money and effort to raise children for other men, but his own property will also be inherited by other people's descendants in the future. However, today there is the scientific method of DNA to confirm blood relationship, and this theory of sociologists is no longer tenable.

Secondly, the reason why men value virgins is because their possessiveness plays tricks on their minds. On the one hand, men are proud that their wives have not been contaminated by other men; this mentality is no different from the mentality of an explorer who desperately strives to be the first to conquer a certain peak in the Alps. On the other hand, men are proud to have more women, which is the same as their desire to have more money, more land, and greater authority.

Although virginity is an ideological system created by men in order to dominate women, women have obediently accepted this idea of male authoritarian rule, and have spared no effort to help men spread their male authoritarianism and use it to assimilate, Teaching and restraining the female race makes all women live under the autocracy of virginity.

Below are some common people’s traditional views on virginity. ​

"Virginity is a woman's most valuable possession."

"When a woman loses her virginity, she makes a mistake and regrets it for eternity."

"Women who are not virgins are second-hand goods, no one wants them!"

　“If a woman sleeps with a man before marriage, the man will lose interest in her.”

Everyone has probably heard these words. These worldly views have a great influence on the thinking of men and women, making men regard the hymen as the most valuable thing on a woman, and making women regard the hymen as a commodity, used to "attract" their husbands. The more it is hung up and sold, the more valuable it is.

However, the thin piece of hymen was reduced to zero in an instant. Now that the man who regards the hymen as a treasure has achieved his goal, in his eyes, his wife who is no longer a virgin will soon become a worthless yellow-faced woman. No wonder many women are complaining about their husbands: "He was submissive to me before marriage, but after marriage he completely changed and looked like a tyrant!"

Moreover, today’s plastic surgery can already reinstall a hymen on a woman who is not a virgin. It is difficult to tell whether it is true or false. In this case, the hymen no longer has any meaning. It is just a woman hiding something from a man, and a man is happy to be deceived.

Now, let us first look at whether it is a blessing for a man to marry a virgin as his wife?

The answer is: That’s not necessarily the case. This answer is summarized from many examples.

The most famous examples are Britain’s Prince Charlie and the late Princess Diana. Prince Charlie was quite romantic before getting married and had various girlfriends and mistresses. When he was over 30 years old and the responsibilities of being a prince began to press on him, the time came for him to produce an heir to the throne, that is to say, he should get married.

The British royal tradition is both ancient and conservative. The future queen must be a woman without a past (meaning: a woman who is still a virgin). Among the candidates for the imperial concubine, Diana was the most qualified because she was only 19 years old and still a virgin. This was the decisive reason for her election.

However, after getting married, this marriage, which was as beautiful as a fairy tale in the eyes of the world, slowly evolved into a painful dance of death. Princess Di grew up from an innocent and pure girl to a sophisticated young woman, and her true character matured and took shape. She and Prince Charlie compete for the limelight, confront each other, and fight; a royal couple who were supposed to be working together turned into enemies like a power struggle. In the pain of mutual suffering, the couple each sought comfort outside the marriage: Prince Charlie returned to the arms of his old mistress; Princess Diana found several lovers outside the palace. Later, the couple moved their marriage battlefield to the media, where they publicly competed and exposed their family scandals.

In the end, even the most conservative-minded Queen of England could not bear to look at it. She believed that the marriage was hopeless and ordered her son to divorce his wife.

Now, let’s go back to ordinary people and find another example.

The author has an American friend named John, who is a devout Mormon. He ideologically insisted that women must marry as virgins; but men could have sex with many women. The reason he gave was that men could impregnate many women at the same time. In fact, John’s proposition is already outdated. The birth control pill was introduced in the 1960s, allowing women for the first time to control their body's reproductive functions. She can decide for herself: whether to have a baby or not! Who will you have a baby with? When to have a baby!

John was looking for a virgin until he was 36 years old. He married a 19-year-old pure woman. However, when his wife reached the age of 26, she began to have a lover outside. She frankly expressed her regrets to her friends: "John was my first man. I regret that I got married too early and don't know what other men are like!"

So what is it like to be a spiritual virgin? The modern sexual revolution began in the 1960s. The sexual revolution is not so much the liberation of sex as it is the opening of the prison door of the virginal autocracy, the release and liberalization of the minds of men and women.

Liberal-minded men and women will have a 180-degree change in their views on virginity. They can understand that a woman's virginity is not physical, but a spiritual state. In other words, a woman who is no longer a virgin physically can still retain the mental state of a virgin mentally.

There happens to be a fairy tale that can be used as an example. The virgin goddess Diana in ancient Roman mythology was not a physical virgin, but she never allowed men to possess her heart and thoughts through sex; she always remained a virgin mentally. This is the virgin goddess in the eyes of the ancient Romans.

You can also cite a real example to illustrate the subtle difference between a spiritual virgin and a physical virgin.

There is a female writer in Denmark. She is a beautiful woman with a slender figure, blond hair and daring actions. While she was studying law in college, she worked as a nude model and took nude photos to make money. After graduation, she traveled around the world to collect men. She tried men of different nationalities and races. She also wrote a book about her impressions of men from different countries having sex, which became famous for a while.

Recently, this female writer published a theory about sex on TV, which is briefly described below.

Throughout history, people everywhere have suppressed women’s sexual desires in thought and action.

For example, in the Middle Ages, when warriors went out to fight, their wives had to wear "chastity belts" to seal their vaginas. Since ancient times, the custom of circumcision has been popular in some tribes in Africa (that is, when girls reach the period of sexual development, around the age of eleven or twelve, the clitoris on their lower body is cut off; from then on, they cannot fully enjoy the pleasure of sexual intercourse. , will not do anything unfaithful to her husband).

Almost all societies are accustomed to calling women who enjoy sex sluts, otherwise they are dirty women who are no different from prostitutes.

If all these ideological and behavioral repressions are lifted, a woman’s sexual desire will be no different from a man’s. Women can also separate sex and love just like men. A woman enjoys sex just like a man, and she has sexual intercourse with a man; but she will not give her heart, her love, and her feelings to a man she does not love casually. She treasured all this; and when the man she truly loved appeared in her life, she devoted her heart, her love and her affection to him without reservation. This beautiful female writer is a typical spiritual virgin.

She was over 40 before she married an accomplished Danish industrialist, her first marriage. This marriage has lasted for more than ten years and is still harmonious and beautiful.

The businessman husband of a female writer once publicly said that he had sexual relations with many women when he was young and was very irresponsible. He publicly apologized to those women. If a woman gave birth to a child because of his carelessness, he is now willing to take responsibility and provide financial compensation. He had been married once, but the bad experience of marriage made him only want to have girlfriends and not remarry for more than 20 years after the divorce. He waited until he met this free-thinking, independent-minded woman who did not value wealth. Writer, he changed his determination to be a bachelor. In my opinion, the reason why this extraordinary marriage has been able to maintain a good state for many years is because the man once served as Don Juan, and the woman is a spiritual virgin. Their self-confidence and rich sexual experience made them deeply realize that sex without love is worthless, and only a woman's spiritual virginity is the most valuable.

To sum up this article, there are four key points.

1. Spiritual virginity is more important than physical virginity.

2. A man marrying a virgin does not necessarily guarantee that his wife will be loyal to him throughout his life.

3. If a man pursues a woman, says he loves her, and wants to marry her, but once he discovers that the woman is no longer a virgin, he immediately changes his mind and walks away. The love that this man claims is not at all It's not love, and he has a tendency to become an authoritarian husband. 4. A woman is not a virgin, and her worth has nothing to do with it. If a woman dedicates her heart, her love, and her emotions to a man who is not worthy of love, and becomes the man's spiritual possession invisibly, and becomes a meaningless emotional slave, then she is wasting her own worth. depreciation.

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