Recently, the American magazine "Yueji" published the 8 most common sex dreams and asked a number of psychologists and sexologists to interpret them.

Dream 1: Dreaming about having intimate behaviors with superiors and colleagues. Leslie, a 26-year-old single female teacher, does not usually have much contact with her colleagues, but she often dreams that a male colleague takes her to ride horses outdoors. In the dream, the stimulation of the saddle made her enjoy the pleasure and even moaned. Leslie often felt embarrassed about this.

Dr. Pam Spar, an expert in interpersonal psychology in London, UK, said that dreaming about superiors and colleagues does not mean that you subconsciously want to have a relationship with them. It mostly means that you admire this person's ability and hope that he or she will give you guidance. and help. Horses often appear in women's sexual dreams, and women who like to masturbate may dream of petting horses.

Dream 2: Dreaming about having sex in public. 29-year-old Dina dreamed that she met a strange man at the airport. After the man struck up a conversation, he pulled her into his arms and the two began to have sex in full view of the public. The funniest thing for Dina was that she couldn't see the man's face clearly in the dream.

Carol L. Cummings, a dream analysis expert in Arizona, USA, said that this type of sex dream reveals an open mind, indicating that you are looking forward to a new relationship and are passionate about a new emotional life. "Can't see the man's face clearly" is a kind of self-protection, indicating that the heart is still preparing for the arrival of new feelings.

Dream 3: Dreaming about being intimate with someone of the same sex. Jian Yin, a 37-year-old nurse, dreamed that she met a woman in a coffee shop. As she drank the coffee, foam splashed onto her mouth, and the woman smiled and kissed her lips and neck. In reality, Jian Yin does not have homosexual tendencies.

Dr. Spahr said that dreaming about having sex with someone of the same sex does not mean that your sexual orientation has changed. It just means that you expect to receive more care and consideration in sex, and that you desire your partner to be more gentle. It also shows that you expect to be understood by people of the same sex in your life.

Dream 4: Dreaming about having sex with a celebrity. 34-year-old Cathy said that during the period when "Titanic" was on the air, she had many dreams of having crazy sex with the male lead Leonardo DiCaprio in broad daylight, even if her family members discovered it. There was no stopping.

People often have sexual dreams related to celebrities, especially women. Dreaming about having sex with a celebrity actually means that you hope that your partner will have certain qualities embodied by the celebrity, such as bravery or romance. The fact that she did not stop when her family members appeared in her dream indicates that she is very confident in her sexuality.

Dream 5: Dreaming about having sex in your childhood home. 39-year-old Mary dreamed that she had sex with a man in her mother's house, but she didn't like the man and was even disgusted. Many of her sex dreams took place in her childhood home.

Dr. Holloway said that dreaming about your childhood home indicates that current sexual concepts are greatly influenced by the family, and also indicates a desire to return to a simpler life in childhood. Dreaming about having sex with someone you hate indicates that you may have encountered some difficulties that you have to face in reality and you need to communicate with the people around you.

Dream 6: Dreaming about having an affair. 31-year-old Liz has dreamed of having affairs with her husband's brother or best friend many times. In the dream, sex is very natural, and Liz enjoys it extremely. But such a straightforward and real sex dream also made her feel "guilty about cheating."

According to Dr. Spar, this kind of dream does not mean that you want to have an affair. Maybe it's just that your life is too dull. If you have such a dream repeatedly, it means that you are tired of some part of your marriage (not necessarily your sex life). At this time, you should take measures to rekindle the passion of the couple.

Dream 7: Dreaming about old love rekindling. Stephanie, 37, is a mother of two. She often dreams about being passionate and passionate with the tutor she had a crush on in college, and her tutor's profound knowledge and connotation conquered her.

Dr. Cummings says that if we have a strong emotional connection to someone, we may dream about that person in our sexual dreams. Dreaming about an old love is very common, and it may be something that symbolizes your connection with him or her. Stephanie dreamed about her mentor, which means that she misses the youth, freedom and desire for knowledge she had at that stage.

Dream 8: Dreaming about being forced to interrupt sex. Katie, 39, dreamed of having sex with a man she liked, but it ended before she could reach orgasm. She often had sexual dreams like this, and the foreplay was excellent, but it was always interrupted when she was about to climax.

Dr Cummings said this could be a sign that on the one hand Katie's sexual needs were not being met, and on the other hand she was unhappy with the way her life was going. If you always dream about sex being interrupted or unable to reach climax, it may indicate a lack of trust in your lover or a fear of intimate sex.

The "sub-infidelity" mentality is forming between men and women

Do you have any close friends outside of marriage? This is an anonymous survey from a current popular magazine. The survey results show that 83.19% of women and 84.44% of men admit that they have close friends of the opposite sex outside of marriage. A huge community of "sub-affairs" is forming, which is an atypical emotional relationship that "starts with love, ends with sex, and ends with marriage."

Since the word "affair" was born, its function has been almost equivalent to "an immoral hat". The ancient Chinese called this behavior adultery. People at that time punished adulterers extremely severely, so they generally did not talk about it lightly. Due to the severe punishment measures, there is an old saying in China called "Catch a thief and you will see the stolen goods; if you catch an adulterer, you will see the couple", which contains a strong "sexual" color. Since the core of an affair is sexual relations, what about sub-affairs?

For a long time, different people have different understandings of what "sex" is, but almost all women agree that the most secret part of the body is "sex". The most secret parts of the body are not in contact with the most secret parts of the man. As long as it does not exceed the final limit, it is not an affair and can only be called "sub-affair".

Although compared with real affairs, adulterers do not have to bear strong moral pressure, but because of the reality of marriage and family, the inner conflict is unavoidable. Because in traditional Chinese ethics, men have far greater social space than women, and women may still be "immoral" even if they are locked away in Yanzilou. Therefore, it is normal for men to have a "confidant", but it is immoral for women to have a "confidant". Affected by traditional concepts, China has stricter restrictions on love. Isn't there a popular saying that "women cheat first"?

Inner conflicts and anxieties must find channels to vent. From many radio nighttime emotional dialogue programs to online forums, to blogs, to psychiatrists, men and women who have affairs are constantly relieving their stress. Although they all know that the nature of this relationship is "death in the light", they still run around happily. Where the next stop of the run will be, God knows.

How to grasp the sexual psychology in the relationship between the sexes?

1. Don’t be too intimate. Excessive intimacy will not only make you appear too frivolous and arouse people's disgust, but also easily cause unnecessary misunderstandings. Even lovers who have established a relationship are best not to show enthusiasm and premature intimacy at will.

2. Don’t be too cold. Because being cold will hurt the man's self-esteem and make you feel arrogant and arrogant.

3. Don’t be too formal. When interacting with men, say what you need to say, laugh when you need to smile, shake hands when you need to, and stand shoulder to shoulder if you need to. Being coy can be annoying; conversely, being too casual is not good. After all, men and women are different, and some topics You should only talk to people of the same sex. Some jokes should not be made in front of people of the opposite sex. This should be noted.

4. Don’t talk nonsense. Deliberately showing off that you are well-informed and talking non-stop, or making strong arguments and refusing to admit defeat in an argument, are not flattering; of course, don't be too silent, always keeping silent, or just "Oh", "Ah", even if he is smiling at this time, it can easily turn people off.

5. Don’t be too serious. Being too serious will make people afraid to approach and intimidating; but it should not be too frivolous either. A sense of humor is lovable, but deliberately making a fool of yourself and thinking you are humorous is counterproductive.