After many couples get married, after the baptism of time, their love becomes no longer romantic and sweet. The attraction and novelty between husband and wife gradually disappear, and they are troubled by a lot of trivial things all day long. Various real-life conflicts make the two people who originally loved each other quarrel, curse, and even fight. Most of the reasons for this phenomenon are due to the inability to grasp the appropriateness of conversation, which intensifies the conflict.

Husbands and wives should never use others to belittle their spouse

In daily conversations between husband and wife, the most taboo thing, and the thing that is most likely to arouse conflicts between the two parties, is to compare other people's husbands and wives and belittle one's own husband or wife. For example, they often say things like: "Look at XX's husband, how smart his mind is. He climbed to the senior level in just a few years. Look at you now, you are simply a loser!" "With the same income, XX's wife will be Housekeeper, what about you? You are a waste of money every month!”

As the saying goes: "Comparing people with each other will make people angry." If the other party accepts the scolding and swallows it, you are afraid that the other party will retaliate to you: "If he (she) is good, why don't you follow him (she) She) passed?" If this continues, the emotion originally caused by a small incident will expand into a fierce battle within the family, which will inevitably lead to rifts in the relationship between husband and wife. Therefore, in order to handle the relationship between husband and wife well, we should really start from speaking appropriately.

Husbands and wives should also exercise caution when quarreling

After many people get married, they think that the other person has become "one of their own" and begin to be rude and careless in language, saying whatever they want. In fact, if this happens over time, it will also affect the relationship between husband and wife. Although it is said that true feelings need to be revealed when talking between husband and wife, excessive "revelation" will arouse the disgust of the other party, and some excessive language will also hurt the self-esteem of the other party.

The husband and wife live together almost every day, so the content of their conversation is also inclusive and all-encompassing. Due to the special psychology between husband and wife, such as the desire to be loved, selfishness, randomness, etc., the conversation between husband and wife has become the easiest and most difficult conversation at the same time. This is also an important reason why it is difficult to grasp the appropriateness.

For example, some couples are used to swearing, swearing, and even saying some extreme words to humiliate each other in life, which can easily hurt the relationship between the couple, especially some men who are not willing to talk to each other and will get physical. In this kind of violence, In such a family environment, it is very difficult for a couple's relationship to not break up.

Recall that if a friend's words or actions irritate you, you can distance yourself for a period of time and then go to the friend again after the anger subsides. But no matter how angry your spouse is, you cannot avoid it with distance. As time goes by, it will only make the two parties become more and more alienated. Therefore, understanding between husband and wife is particularly important. Mutual understanding is also the basis for grasping the appropriateness of language and behavior.