Obstetricians pointed out that after giving birth, new mothers have undergone great changes both physically and mentally. Subsequently, the "intimate contact" between them and their husbands will also create many new problems. How should we respond? Incorrect practices often affect the physical and mental health of new mothers. Therefore, how to have "intimate contact" with your husband after delivery is also an important part of postpartum recovery life.

1. Understand the physical and mental state of new mothers after delivery

* Physical state

After the baby and placenta are delivered, the uterine muscles will contract strongly, causing the fundus of the uterus to contract. The height decreases by 1-2 cm every day. Usually, the uterus does not return to its original size until 6 weeks after delivery. The decidual tissue in the basal layer of the endometrium becomes necrotic 2-3 days after the baby is delivered, producing lochia and excreted from the body, usually within 10 days. Day after day gradually stops; ovarian ovulation and menstruation reappear, mostly at 6-8 weeks postpartum. However, for mothers who continue to breastfeed, the time for ovulation and menstruation to resume is much later than for mothers who do not breastfeed; The vaginal wall and vaginal opening are extremely expanded after delivery, and the mucosal folds disappear. They usually recover about 3 weeks after delivery, but they cannot fully recover.

* Mental state

Moms’ physiological changes will have a direct impact on their psychology of sexual life. Generally speaking, the main factors that affect postpartum sex life are worries about genital infection; fear of wound injuries, such as perineal incision; worry about pain during sexual intercourse or fear of getting pregnant again; not wanting your husband to see your flabby belly; and frequent sexual intercourse. Interrupted by the baby, resulting in low interest; postpartum depression, low sexual desire, etc.

Minor notes:

1. After giving birth and having a baby, not only the sexual psychology of the new mother has undergone great changes, but also the sexual psychology of the husband. He is no longer just a husband to his wife, but also appears in the family and around the baby as a father. Therefore, both husband and wife will feel depressed and prone to problems in their sexual life.

2. Although the husband has not changed physically, he has undergone considerable psychological changes. Because the baby is just a naive little baby. He cries often and needs his parents to feed him, coax him, and change his diapers, even at night. In this way, it will also consume the husband's energy and physical strength. In addition, the atmosphere and time arrangement during sexual life make it impossible to have as much fun or freedom as before, which inadvertently affects the secretion of male hormones in the husband's body, and the sexual desire will naturally decrease.

2. Understand the best time to resume sexual life

Due to various physical and psychological reasons, new mothers must be fully prepared physically and mentally when resuming sexual life. . Only in this way can the sexual life be "like a fish in water", which will help the new mother's body recover as soon as possible.

Usually, 6 weeks or 42 days after delivery, new mothers should go to the obstetrics department for a comprehensive examination, especially a more detailed examination of the reproductive system. If the doctor thinks that the reproductive organs have recovered well, that is to say, the lochia is all clean, and the wounds on the perineum, vagina and cervix have been completely healed; at the same time, the new mother will feel ready. At this time, it is the best time to resume your sexual life.

Minor notes:

1. When new mothers lack interest in, are disgusted with, or have many doubts about sex, their husbands should not force them until they feel comfortable.

2. New mothers should also be more considerate of their husbands' requirements for resuming sexual life, and try their best to cooperate with their husbands as long as their bodies allow. Both husband and wife devote themselves wholeheartedly, which can not only achieve a harmonious sexual life, but also increase the relationship between the couple. This is very important, as if it is not handled properly, it can easily lead to marital rifts. Research shows that the year after giving birth is the peak time for marital problems or affairs. Although it cannot be entirely attributed to a disharmonious sex life, it cannot be denied that this is a very important factor.

3. Avoid having sex early after childbirth

During the delivery process, most of the reproductive organs of new mothers suffer minor or severe damage. In addition, they need to expel lochia after delivery, so they need a longer period of time to recover. Generally speaking, sexual intercourse should be prohibited for 4-6 weeks after delivery. But some mothers think that as long as the lochia is cleared after giving birth, they can start sexual life. As everyone knows, having sex early will be very detrimental to the body's recovery.

First of all, it is easy to cause infection of reproductive organs. For new mothers after giving birth, the cervix will be congested and edematous, the cervical wall will become thinner, and the cervical canal will become wider. The cervical opening does not begin to close until about 10 days after delivery; the endometrium where the placenta is attached normally takes 6-8 weeks to fully heal. It grows and heals; in addition, the physical exertion during childbirth is large, the body is weak, and the resistance is reduced. Therefore, having sex early can easily introduce bacteria, which will affect the healing of endometrial wounds, prolong the discharge time of lochia, and cause gynecological diseases such as vaginitis, endometritis, salpingitis, pelvic connective tissue inflammation, and irregular menstruation.

Secondly, the vaginal wall mucosa is weak during the postpartum period, and early sexual intercourse may easily cause disharmony; if there are perineal lacerations, vaginal lacerations, cervical tears, or episiotomy, etc., sexual intercourse will be difficult. Pain, bleeding and organ damage may occur, thus affecting wound healing.

In addition, new mothers who have just given birth have low estrogen levels in their bodies, flat vaginal mucosa with few wrinkles, slow onset of sexual excitement, less vaginal secretions, dryness and poor elasticity in the vagina. Starting sexual intercourse early can easily damage the vagina, or even tear it and cause heavy bleeding.

Minor notes:

1. New mothers who give birth normally should avoid sexual intercourse within 4-6 weeks after delivery. The husband should understand this and try his best to cooperate with his wife, even if the uterus and vaginal wall have recovered completely after 4-6 weeks.

2. After 6 weeks postpartum, if the new mother still feels that the perineum is hard and swollen, she can rinse and massage with warm water in the bath to promote the softening of scarring.

4. Be careful during the first "intimate contact" after childbirth

After delivery, the cervix and vaginal opening secrete less lubricating fluid. Therefore, during the first "intimate contact" after childbirth, it is best for the husband to do more romantic and tender "pre-pre-play" before proceeding, such as whispering, kissing and caressing. When the wife feels uncomfortable or embarrassed due to changes in body posture, the husband should provide more comfort and encouragement to restore the new mother's confidence and relieve her psychological obstacles.

When having sex, you must move gently and don't be impatient. You must wait for more lubricating fluid to be secreted. Since the husband has been abstinent for a long time, he is prone to violent movements when resuming his life, causing perineal tissue damage and bleeding, especially when the new mother suffers from anemia, malnutrition or vaginal perineal inflammation.

Minor notes:

1. If you find vaginal bleeding after having sex for the first time, you should go to a doctor. Do not stop the bleeding and delay treatment because of embarrassment.

2. As long as the wound heals well, the discomfort during sex is only temporary and will naturally disappear as the organs and tissues recover. However, if you feel pain while walking, it's best to go to your doctor for a checkup.

3. During the postpartum period, the glands that lubricate the vagina often lose their normal function. If you feel vaginal dryness, you can use lubricant or lubricating cream.