Q: It’s been almost half a year since I gave birth to my baby. I haven’t had sex since I got pregnant. We were very excited when we had sex with my husband for the first time after giving birth, but after that, we became less and less passionate. The quality Not as good as before production. Is it really because of childbirth that my vagina is loose? How can I improve the quality of my postpartum sex life?

Answer: Many couples experience a decline in the quality of their sexual life after childbirth, which is related to many factors. In fact, there are many things to pay attention to in postpartum sex life. You must know how to do it and when to do it. As for how to improve postpartum sex life, there are actually techniques.

Keep the time when sex begins

As long as you and your husband feel it is appropriate. Doctors in China usually recommend that you wait until 42 days (6 weeks) postpartum for a check-up before resuming sexual intercourse.

However, some people suggest that you can try to resume your sexual life before the 42-day examination, so that if you encounter problems, you can consult a doctor during the examination. Some couples resume sexual life within 1 month after childbirth, and more people resume sexual life between 1 and 3 months after childbirth. However, there are also a small number of people who wait until 6 months or even 1 year after childbirth. . There is no specific time standard for how long you should wait before resuming sex after giving birth.

Don’t rush to start postpartum sex

For various reasons, new mothers may feel reluctant or uninterested in postpartum sex. The most direct cause is the pain caused by episiotomy and suturing. Even if you don't have a side incision or a tear, your perineum may feel bruised and sensitive for a period of time. Therefore, the wound should be allowed to heal and the sutures to be absorbed before resuming sexual life.

In addition, a difficult factor to overcome is postpartum fatigue. Taking care of your baby 24 hours a day is tiring and tiring, so as soon as you go to bed all you want to do is sleep. How you feel about your body may also affect your mood. After going through so many changes during pregnancy and birth, you need time to get back to feeling like yourself. Many mothers say that their sexual desire is very low during this period and they just feel that they are not sexy enough.

Practical tips for improving your postpartum sex life

The quality of sexual life can be greatly improved through some sexual assistance techniques. This is the key to making postpartum sexual life more passionate. Parents and mothers must learn it well!

1. Use lubricant

If your perineal area is very sensitive, using lubricant can be helpful and can also relieve the vaginal dryness that many mothers experience during this period.

2. Don't be in a hurry to have sex

The first time you feel "sexually interested", you don't necessarily have to have sex. Consider just cuddling at first, which may be easier to do, and then work your way up to sexual touch.

3. It’s also crazy during the day

When you start having sex, choose a position that won't put too much pressure on your sensitive areas. If exhaustion is your biggest problem, try having sex during the day when your baby is napping, so you're not too tired to engage.

4. Postpartum vaginal shrinkage

To restore the elasticity of vaginal muscles, you can do pelvic floor muscle exercises and participate in some postpartum fitness classes to help restore your body shape and increase your self-confidence. In addition, you can also use Durex's vaginal shrinking ball, which can effectively help postpartum women restore a tight vagina and restore sexual intercourse to its original state.

In short, eat a balanced diet and drink plenty of water. Take breaks whenever you can. Caring for a newborn baby can be tiring. If you want to have energy for other things, you have to take good care of yourself.

Be careful when starting postpartum sex

If you have been careful and gentle during sexual intercourse, and the preparation time has been long enough, but you still feel pain all the time, then it is necessary to consult a doctor. Sometimes the way a tear or episiotomy is sutured can cause prolonged discomfort and may require further surgical correction. If your vaginal discharge smells bad, you may have an infection that needs treatment. If you still have vaginal bleeding after 4 weeks, or if the amount of bleeding suddenly increases, you should see your doctor.