"Establish a habit that no one else can give, only you can give it to him."

Just like in "A Dream of Red Mansions", if Lin Daiyu doesn't give Jia Baoyu a few harsh words for a day, he will It was uncomfortable; such harsh words, if spoken to by another person, would immediately disgust him. This kind of habit is more often a small interest in life that is slowly cultivated. It is like playing chess, playing the piano, and making couplets among ancient talented people and beauties. The feelings slowly accumulate in the passing of each other and become a tacit understanding. He feels relaxed and happy whenever he is with you.

"A man needs to sharpen his 'whetstone', but he will not fall in love with it."

In traditional Chinese ethics, women have always been educated according to the qualities of a prosperous husband, and strive to Train a woman to be a man's whetstone, sharpening him when he fails; or train a woman to be a whip, spurring him on when he shrinks; but also a safe haven when he fails, continuing to sharpen and spur him. Will a man pamper such a woman? He might respect such a woman, but who likes whetstones and whips? Except for masochism.

"Emotions are about caring about the other person's feelings and mood."

We can often be friendly to our bosses, colleagues, and even strangers, but it is love to those closest to us. A person loses his temper because he has nothing to do with him. Otherwise, what is the difference between him and those outsiders who have nothing to do with him? If he doesn't play this role, there won't be anyone else in the world playing this role. But is his meaning in your life just a trash can? In addition to being willing to share your bad moods, he also hopes to gain your warmth and love. Therefore, it doesn't matter if you "dump" on him occasionally and feel unhappy, but if you just "dump" without managing it, problems will easily arise. Hitting and scolding is true, but you must master the unique skills of one slap and three rubs.

"Finding the key to unlocking him is far more beneficial to winning love than giving without limit."

What does it mean to be "suitable" for two people to be together? Suitability means that what he wants from you happens to be something you have and you are willing to give it; what you want from him happens to be something he also has and is willing to give it to you. This is called appropriateness. Not even close. The meaning of love requires constant trying, and this is where you can gradually understand what you have, what you are willing to give, and what you absolutely cannot give.

"When you quarrel, be polite and fair."

To face quarrels between lovers maturely and wisely, you must first think clearly that the other party loses his temper without scruples because he regards me as a relative; secondly, after unconditionally accepting the other party's bad temper, you must tell him that this is I can't bear it, let the other person feel sorry for you and miss you. Then, if you are too aggrieved, you can find an opportunity to lose your temper with him, like a savage girlfriend, rather than an act of revenge similar to "9·11". It's called a "fair fight." Only when two people deal with outbursts of bad emotions wisely can they support each other and build a close relationship.

"Don't think that he is your backing, so you will always rank him last in everything."

Maybe you feel that you can't always hang around men, because you don't have your own life, so you don't In order to prioritize, always rank him behind best friends, family members, bosses, and colleagues. As time goes by, he will also put you last in everything. The clever way is to make him feel that you are on the same side as him, whether you do things for him or not, and let him come up with ideas and opinions. Whether you use them or not, you can make him feel that you care about him.

“If you do something wrong, you would rather lie in front of men than analyze and reflect on it.”

Men don’t like truth-based women. If you are always great, glorious and right, he will be too tired in front of you. Being with a particularly "noble" person will make a man feel particularly hard. In addition, when you feel that you have made a mistake, don't think that having the courage to admit your mistake, or even review and analyze yourself, is giving the man face, and in this way you are still showing your "truth" quality. In fact, men would rather you play tricks and be subdued. When he is with you, he doesn't want the concept of "right" or "wrong".

“Finding a male best friend for advice on the Love Sutra can sometimes get twice the result with half the effort than a female best friend.”

The love experiences given by female girlfriends are often limited to the people and experiences they have interacted with, and may even be biased. Sometimes they not only fail to provide constructive suggestions, but are actually helpful. You might as well find a male best friend, or any trusted male friend, to help you analyze the personalities of different men, and understand many of the deep desires and mentality of men from their own camps. Only when you know yourself and the enemy can you be prepared.

“Be a woman who can’t guess the ending, so that men will always be interested in understanding you.”

Women always want to understand men. In fact, in love, it is especially important for men to understand women. important. The key is, you can't just talk to him about it, but you have to arouse his curiosity and make him interested in getting to know you. Just like the woman who can tell the story of One Thousand and One Nights, men are always curious about women with stories. Women are not defeated by time, but by themselves. The secret of those women who are still radiant through time is that they do not insist on a certain man, but insist on themselves. They insist on following their own path, with or without love, but time will eventually turn them into endless legends.

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