When Wen Ma’s marriage scandal made countless Chinese netizens lament that they “no longer believe in love,” American writer Charles Murray published an article in the Wall Street Journal summarizing several rules for a happy marriage.

Rule 1: Don’t try to change your lover after marriage

Marrying someone with similar tastes and interests may sound cliché, but it’s a time-tested rule.

If one person likes ballet and the spouse doesn't, that's okay. Any reasonable person can be tolerant of similar differences. But if you don't like the other person's friends, or don't appreciate the other person's sense of humor, especially if you don't agree with the other person's values, then break up.

If your partner has personal habits that annoy you, this may damage your marriage in the future. Historical and cultural scholar Jacques Barzun discovered that the three major minefields that test the relationship between the sexes are punctuality, neatness and frugality. No matter where you fall on the spectrum, your spouse must be on the same page, says Balzan, who says, "There are couples who are always in debt, late, and have leftover pizza under the couch cushions, but are perfectly happy."

What you see now is what you will get when you get married. If you think your lover will change after getting married, you are wrong. Either be prepared to accept your shortcomings or forget about them. There is no doubt that over the course of a long marriage, your spouse will change, but not in ways that you can predict or control.

It is absolutely important to truly like your spouse. People who are happily married always say, "I married my best friend." In fact, a more appropriate description of a soulmate is, "Your closest friend and whom you are sexually attracted to (or She) attracts".

Rule 2: Be less ambitious and learn to take fame and fortune lightly

Many young people hope to be famous, rich, or both. There's nothing wrong with that.

But if by the age of 40, you love your job, have found your soul mate, and have lovely children, and realize that you may never become rich or famous in this life, then maturely face the ambitions of your youth. Ambition, this is quite important.

Murray once watched a TV program about the American business tycoon and famous producer David Geffen, and one of the scenes remains unforgettable to him. The camera panned across Geffen's private jet, which was furnished with rows of leather seats and sofas, and he sat alone in the back row.

Murray said that when people are in their 20s and 30s, they feel paralyzed by the fear that they will not succeed. This feeling of anxiety is one of the side effects of ambition.

Fame and wealth can do some things, such as curing the anxiety of ambition, but nothing more, Murray concludes.

Rule 3: Watch "Groundhog Day" to learn how to live

Murray recommends that people watch a movie called "Groundhog Day" (also translated as "Groundhog Day") repeatedly. This film was shot more than 20 years ago, but it answers the most basic questions about happiness.

A weathercaster is sent to Punxsy, Pennsylvania to cover Groundhog Day. He hated the assignment, despised the people and things there, and couldn't wait to return to Pittsburgh. But a snowstorm arrives, trapping him in Punxsy, and every morning he wakes up, it's Groundhog Day, and the days repeat themselves.

In order to get rid of the repetitive life, he has fallen into depravity and committed suicide, but in vain. Every day he wakes up is still Groundhog Day. He complained to his sweetheart, who suggested that he take the opportunity to improve himself. From then on, he worked hard to understand his sweetheart and the small town where he lived, took the initiative to help others, learned new things, and finally embraced the beauty and ushered in a new day.

A person who can only live one day can win a satisfactory life through his own efforts. What can be more convincing than this movie?