It is a common problem for men to brag and talk big. No matter how honest a man is, he always hopes to show his machismo in front of his relatives and friends. They often show that they don't care about love or marriage at all, and women seem to be dispensable foils around them. But for women, these words sound harsh and difficult to refute face to face. After all, a man must save face in front of relatives and friends. However, when you see your husband or boyfriend becoming more and more domineering, you have to find a suitable way to remind them that women are not a tool for them to express themselves. Even if you are just pretending in front of outsiders, you must know how to be restrained and respectful.

Case 1: Find confidence by scolding your wife

Character - Li Fan

Li Fan and Zhao Qi have been married for five years. Zhao Qi is a small employee of a company with an easy-going personality and is obedient to Li Fan. He likes to follow Li Fan's arrangements in all matters big and small at home. But Li Fan discovered that Zhao Qi's temperament would change drastically as long as there were friends present. Not only does he like to brag in front of his friends, but he also likes to sarcastically mock himself to show his strength at home.

That weekend, Zhao Qi’s classmates from university had a gathering at his home. Li Fan prepared a table of wine and food to entertain everyone. At the dinner table, classmate Xiao Jia said: "Lao Qi, you have been married for so many years, why don't you have a child?" This is Zhao Qi's weakness, because last year he just went to the hospital to check that there was something wrong with his body. But that day, Zhao Qi said nonchalantly: "I can't do anything about this. Who can let my wife feel dissatisfied? We have been cheating for a few years." After hearing this, Li Fan was really angry. . But for her husband's sake, she couldn't expose it.

Li Fan left under the guise of hot food. But the kitchen door was not closed, and as a result, Zhao Qi was faintly heard telling his friend how bad he was, how he made him worry, and how he had the final say in everything at home. Who knew that Xiao Jia still didn't pick up the pot and said: "Are you really not ready to have children?" After Zhao Qi laughed, he deliberately lowered his voice and said with a pun: "How can you? Children? , I always have a way to get my own. If this doesn’t work, there are others.” The men at the table all smiled knowingly.

After so many years of getting along, Li Fan knows Zhao Qi’s character. From the beginning of his relationship, he liked to brag in front of his friends. Forget about bragging and boasting about other things. Now, it has even reached the point where they talk to each other about finding someone else to have children. Li Fan couldn't bear it and walked into the living room and said, "Zhao Qi, let's get a divorce!" Zhao Qi stood up in a daze, not knowing what happened.

Li Fan said angrily: "Go find someone who can give birth and see if you can give birth." Zhao Qi immediately turned red and stammered: "What are you talking about? Go back to the house!" "Once things break out, it's difficult to recover, and all the resentment that Li Fan had kept in his heart for so long came out. She stood in the room and said loudly: "Why do you let me go back to the house? Why do you let me listen to you? Don't act like a big man here, I don't like to listen, and I won't serve you anymore!" Li Fan pulled off his apron. , threw the spatula, and left the house angrily. Zhao Qi and a roomful of friends were left behind, looking at each other.

That night, Li Fan returned to his parents' home. Sleeping alone on a single bed, I felt a little regretful. After all, apart from pretending to be a big man in front of his friends, Zhao Qi treats himself well in life. Much better than those men who are gentle on the surface but have affairs behind their backs. However, Zhao Qi did not call until late at night. Li Fan lay on the bed irritably, unable to sleep.

Psychological analysis: It can be said that men like Zhao Qi, in their daily work, are often resigned and mediocre little people. There are not many places to express yourself. So it is often a common practice for such men to belittle their wives to show their "big man" image. Of course, this cannot be said to be an intentional act on his part. It is a reflection of their lack of self-confidence among their relatives and friends. He is afraid that others will look down on him, so he subconsciously uses his "power" over his wife to make up for his mediocrity and deficiencies in other aspects.

Tips: In fact, if you understand the psychological characteristics of this type of men, you can prescribe the right medicine. In front of relatives and friends, praise and praise your husband more. is a more appropriate method. Let him find equal self-confidence without having to "swear his wife." Of course, you should also pay attention to the method and method when praising, otherwise it will be counterproductive. For such a husband, even if he does all the housework, do not praise him in front of others for his hard work at home. You should praise him for his seriousness and excellence in his work. If his current work situation is not good, you can also praise his personality. You can say that it is because he has an upright character and refuses to join in the current trend that he is excluded and not reused. Special reminder, this method must be used before the man starts scolding. Let him feel the aura of confidence first. And when you create a classic image of your husband that values ​​affection and justice, and understands reason and love, he will probably not be able to say curse words that do not fit this image.

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Case 2: Belittle your girlfriend to show your almightiness

Character - Qi Mei

Qi Mei and Lu Bing have been in love for more than two years and have reached the stage of marriage. Lu Bing has achieved little success in his career. He works as a middle-level leader in a well-known foreign company. At the age of 28, he has what many men dream of. He has always been kind to Qi Mei and humble in everything. Although he is one year older than Qi Mei, Qi Mei always feels that he is much more mature when getting along with him, and can accommodate and tolerate her many little tempers and willfulness.

But Lu Bing also has something that Qi Mei is dissatisfied with, that is, he likes to find fault with Qi Mei in front of her family and friends, saying that this is not good and that is not good. It seems that he is omnipotent and has a broad heart of tolerance, tolerating Qi Mei, who has all the problems. Sometimes it is clear that things are not like this, but he just says the opposite, making Qi Mei embarrassed and angry.

But when Qi Mei thought about it carefully, Lu Bing did tolerate a lot of his faults in normal times and just tolerated it. But later she slowly discovered that Lu Bing was getting more serious and started talking nonsense.

Lu Bing accompanied Qi Mei home that day. He was sitting on the sofa in the living room chatting with Qi Mei's father. Lu Bing said: "Uncle Qi, you don't know that your daughter is getting more and more rude. Our company had a meeting that day, and she made several calls in a row. It made my secretary say when he saw me, you Something big happened to my girlfriend—I didn’t know what to order at the restaurant. Because of this, I became a big joke in the company.” After hearing this, my father helped me and said, “Xiaomei, you are so ignorant!” Do you know Dabing is busy?" In fact, Xiaomei made two calls in total that day. Because they had planned to have dinner together before, but Lu Bing had an impromptu meeting and it was delayed. Xiaomei made a phone call to find out the situation, and then made a second call two hours later. The meeting was not over yet, so Xiaomei asked the secretary casually. During the break, she asked Lu Bing what he wanted to eat at night.

For such a trivial matter to be exaggerated by Lu Bing into an insignificant matter, Xiaomei certainly felt unhappy. But after two years together, Lu Bing has always had this temper. She didn't care much. But that day, Lu Bing continued to add insult to injury: "Well, it's just me who can stand her. Without me, who dares to marry her?" "Don't go too far! I can't get married without you. ?I haven't agreed to marry you yet." Qi Mei finally couldn't help but replied to him. But Lu Bing was used to being "arrogant" and didn't take it seriously at all. He pointed at Qi Mei and said to his father: "Look, you still say I'm too much! I've already been very accommodating to her. I just said a few unpleasant words." Do you treat me like this?"

Qi Mei also got angry, "Are you trying to accommodate me? Please, can you be more sensible?" Having been in the mall for a long time, Lu Bing naturally knows how to watch people's behavior. Seeing that Qi Mei had really lost his temper, he quickly pulled her over and said, "Come on, let's go into the room and say, don't let uncle see the joke." As soon as he entered the room, Lu Bing's expression changed. He smiled leisurely and said, "What's wrong today? Are you making such a big deal out of a joke?" "Is this a joke? If you want to raise yourself up, don't put me down, okay?" Qi Mei said with aggrieved heart: "I still Why didn’t I marry you? If you bully me like this, you still don’t know what to say to me when I become a yellow-faced woman?"

When Lu Bing heard this, he laughed, "This is what you promised to marry me. I didn't force you."

Qi Mei would definitely laugh when she heard such a sentence in the past. . But that day, Qi Mei sat on the bed and couldn't laugh. Because for the first time, she imagined the future so clearly. Living with a man who criticizes me every day. She didn't know what else to expect. She didn't want to face endless accusations as soon as she returned to her parents' home.

Psychological analysis: For a man like Lu Bing, the pressure of work often makes him breathless. Complex social interactions force him to be careful about the interpersonal relationships around him. They like to accuse their closest girlfriend or wife of bad things in front of others, and especially like to "accuse" them at the woman's home, because they subconsciously believe that their girlfriend or wife is the only one who will not expose his lies. Moreover, doing so will make others think that he is a new good man who not only has to face high work pressure, but also knows how to take care of his feelings.

Tips: It is better to hurt your face a little than to hurt your love a lot. In fact, Lu Bing's deterioration was precisely because of Qi Mei's initial accommodation. Of course, not being accommodating does not mean that you have to get angry in person. After all, you have to save face for the man you love. It’s just that we must promptly raise our dissatisfaction afterwards. You can choose to say coquettishly: "You can't say that to me again. If you do that again, I'll be really angry." Or you can say solemnly: "You have to apologize for what you said today. You can't talk nonsense like that next time." "You have to know how to express your dissatisfaction, and you can even lose your temper in private to tell him your anger. Don't let him take it for granted that he's making sarcastic remarks about you.

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