Perhaps due to the influence of traditional thinking, many people in China begin to drastically reduce the frequency of sex when they enter middle age, and some even stop having sex, let alone the elderly. Why is there such a situation? Is it true that middle-aged and elderly people are more likely to die early if they have sex in middle age, as in the traditional concept? So how to change this situation?

How should the elderly have sex

Adjust speed

Young people act fast and furious, they get excited easily and they burst out like gunpowder. Men in their 20s can reach climax 2-3 minutes after sexual intercourse begins, but it may take more than 20 minutes for a wife to reach a high level of excitement. So it often happens that when the wife is getting better, the husband has already stopped. Surveys show that newlywed women in their twenties are the most difficult to achieve among all age groups.

As age increases, men's rhythm begins to slow down, and the blood flow rate and muscle contraction speed naturally slow down. Therefore, it takes longer for men in their forties or fifties to reach climax. This slow and affectionate one is more powerful for the wife. With the synchronization of "sexual excitement", the wife will naturally be satisfied.

Change role

Between young couples, it is always the husband's initiative to draw his wife close to her and express her desire by whispering in her ear. Over the years, the wife may become more aggressive due to changes in hormone secretion. Both men and women secrete male hormones and estrogen, but at different ages, their secretion ratios are different. After a man's secretion ratio of these two hormones changes, he may be more willing to be in a passive position. After the estrogen in women's bodies decreases, the secretion of male hormones increases accordingly, and they may become more active.

Win more with less

50% of young couples have sex two to three times a week, and 11% of them have sex more than four times a week. After the age of 35, this proportion drops to 39%. And 45% of couples may not have sex "a few times a month," but they still feel emotionally and physically satisfied. After the number of sexual intercourse is reduced, couples should realize the importance of the quality of sexual life each time. If both of them can obtain physical and mental satisfaction at the same time, even if it is only once, it will be much better than the usual dozens of times. "A breakup is better than a new marriage" also shows how important a high-quality sex life is to the relationship between husband and wife.

Doing instead of watching

A young man may have an erection even if he only sees a bra hanging out in the air, but after the age of 35, he may not take his wife's body seriously, and he will pay more attention to his wife's kisses and caresses. 51% of young husbands get excited when they see their wives taking off their clothes, while by their forties this rate drops to 40%. If couples can use their own actions instead of eyes, and use active expression instead of passive acceptance, they will get unexpected results.

Try innovation

As couples grow older, they get to know each other better. Because of their mutual familiarity and trust, they are no longer shy about discussing how to have a more satisfying sex life. You might as well learn to use new methods and new perspectives to solve old problems, such as couples bathing together, etc.

If you want to have a harmonious sex life after the age of 35, you need adjustments and adaptations from both spouses. As long as both husband and wife truly understand these normal and unavoidable changes, they can face them correctly and obtain lasting happiness, even in old age. You can even experience things that you did not dare to experience when you were young. The way to have sex is to add sex toys to your sex life. The sex toys produced by Durex are absolutely humanely designed and will make you want to stop after just one experience.

What are the benefits of sex life for the elderly

① Exercise self-confidence: Men who can control sex can more easily enhance their confidence and ability to control other complex environments. Sexual interaction can keep men sharp in their thinking and brains.

② Exercise of heart function: Sex life is equivalent to the physical expenditure of climbing up and down the stairs. Therefore, moderate sex life can strengthen the exercise and improvement of heart function, which is beneficial to the heart health of elderly men.

③ Promote sleep: After sex, both couples will feel tired due to the greater physical expenditure, especially the sleepiness of men. After sex, men always fall asleep first, which is a problem for men who have difficulty falling asleep. Especially rare.

④ Exercise for the whole body’s skeletal muscles: Sex is a good form of exercise, a whole-body exercise, which is equivalent to the physical effort of running. It can make the limbs of elderly men less stiff and move more flexibly.

⑤ Exercise for the skin: The arrival of orgasm during sexual life can make the skin and mucous membranes of the whole body very hot. The increase of skin temperature and the acceleration of blood circulation are the best way to cleanse and clean harmful substances in the skin, and can also eliminate the harmful substances in the skin. Remove some aging oxidative factors in the skin. In addition, hugging, touching and kissing each other during sex can also stimulate and activate the metabolic function of the skin, making the skin look "younger".