When Xiao Yu and Xiao Liu first met, their families said they were a perfect match. Xiao Yu is introverted, while Xiao Liu is bold and righteous. The family believes that the two complement each other perfectly, so that Xiao Yu will not suffer a disadvantage outside, and Xiao Liu's character will also be restrained under Xiao Yu's influence. However, this completely different personality led to frequent problems after marriage. Xiao Yu would go back to her parents' home every three days and refused to tell her parents the truth.

In real life, couples with very different personalities like Xiao Yu and Xiao Liu are not uncommon. Many couples who seem to have complementary personalities turn this advantage into a disadvantage because they don’t know how to get along. However, couples with absolutely identical personalities are rare. The key is to learn how to get along, and not to do everything possible to "transform" each other. They must overcome mutual friction through adjustment, adaptation and integration. The main ways for couples with different personalities to get along are as follows.

Exchange roles and be considerate of each other

A straightforward husband and an indecisive wife, or a flamboyant wife and a conservative husband, these two typical couples live together and often quarrel because of their different ways of doing things. In order to avoid this kind of unnecessary quarrel, when two people are angry, before the anger is completely burned, they can exchange roles. The husband can imitate the way his wife quarrels, or the wife can imitate the way her husband is angry. Let the other person see how he behaves when he is irrational. No matter who it is, he will laugh out loud when he sees his spouse's funny praise.

Correctly judge your spouse’s character

Everything has two sides, and human character is no exception. Therefore, you must not only see the good side of your spouse's personality, but also accurately discover the side of the other person that makes you distressed. Then tell the other person and let the other person try to overcome the bad side. For example, if your wife is a spendthrift, but you are very frugal, you can agree with your wife on how much the family's expenses will be, and they need to be agreed upon by both parties. This is definitely better than a fierce quarrel or a cold war.

Seeking self-liberation

Don't always criticize each other harshly and hold on to your spouse's mistakes. This will not only make you unhappy, but also make your relationship sink into a swamp. When a person starts a relationship, he must initially accept the person's personality. Once the two people get together, they will develop a mentality of assimilating their spouse and always ask the other person to change for him. This very different psychology before and after marriage is one of the main reasons for the discord between husband and wife. If you cannot realize this, it will be difficult to achieve a happy marriage. Therefore, both husband and wife should free themselves and not always be stuck in the dead end of asking the other person to change for themselves. They should observe more of the other person's strengths and gain some new unity.

In addition, if you are really intolerable to your spouse's character, you might as well think calmly and think about whether there is something in the other person that can offset your disgust. Because everyone cannot be full of shortcomings. If they were, you would not have chosen him in the first place. Then you would expand the things that offset your dislike to promote your good impression of your spouse. If you can "borrow" a personality that you don't have from your spouse and incorporate it into your own, I believe your life will be more comfortable.