If the relationship between the sexes is not good, the married life will not be good either. The interests of men and women are very different due to their physiological structures, so chemical effects can occur. Only by accepting such differences and adjusting each other's expectations and attitudes can any gap in sexual interest be overcome and a good relationship between husband and wife be promoted.

The dispute in the relationship between the sexes is not about who loses or wins, but about whether an objective neutral point can be found to solve the problem. You are happy and I am happy, which is the most positive attitude.

Which of the two sexes is more interested? How to increase mutual interest?

Genders have different requirements and expectations for interest. It is normal for interest to be high and low sometimes. Men are more eager, undistracted, focused on goals, more focused on the process, and can easily achieve satisfaction. Women are often thought of as being distant and in desperate need of emotional intimacy. The difference between the sexes is not quantity, but quality.

The sexual interest of men and women can be equally high, but generally the sexual interest of men is higher than that of women. This is because of the influence of testosterone and acquired environmental stimulation.

Women want romance, men want love, the structures are very different. Sex actually comes from the brain, not technology. It is necessary to withdraw from daily life, concentrate on thinking, or use fantasy to generate sexual interest.

Methods to increase women’s sexual interest: romantic gestures (such as sending cards, flowers, gifts, compliments), more communication and intimacy, satisfying sensual needs, partners willing to spend quality time together, and reducing disputes.

Methods to promote male sexual interest: more variety or more dramatic, sudden, exciting, sexy inner beauty, and positive response from the partner.

It only takes 3 seconds for a man to feel the urge, but it takes 15 to 20 minutes for a woman to feel the urge.

How much is enough?

Surveys in medical publications show that one-third of couples have sex two or three times a month. Another survey shows that one-third of couples have no sex life for a long time, or once every two months. These couples are under 38 years old.

Genders have different interests in sex, just like food. It is best to adopt the attitude of "you are ok and I am ok".

True sexual compatibility does not refer to the same sexual interests of both sexes, but the same expectations for sexual interests, or the same views on what is normal/abnormal sexual interests. Despite differences in sexual interest, any disparity in sexual interest can be overcome as long as expectations and attitudes are the same.

What are the most common sexual problems complained about by men and women?

Men always feel that there is not enough and expect more. At the same time, he is worried that his performance will not be as good as his wife expects, and he will gradually lose interest.

Women complain about insufficient communication with their husbands and look forward to more emotional communication and intimacy. The more a woman talks, the stronger her desire becomes. Women can speak up to 12,000 words a day, while men can only speak 4,000 words a day.