It is 80% true that women like men, but it is 100% true that women are never satisfied with men. Women always hope to transform men according to their own wishes and imagination, especially their boyfriends (even if they become husbands, this is no exception). Originally, other men have nothing to do with me, and the transformation is not as convenient as my own boyfriend, so I should just treat him as a test subject.

The project of women transforming men can be described as terrifying, like scissors cutting off excess branches and dismembering the man's character into pieces.

"Wear a suit to work, but don't wear a suit to work!"

"Wash your hands before and after meals!"

"Don't Always stare at me, let alone other women!"

"Report on time at work, and report home on time after get off work!"

"Get up at six in the morning. Go to bed at ten o'clock at night!"

Are there really so many problems with men? According to incomplete statistics, a woman's boyfriend will have at least a thousand things that need to be improved in her eyes, so no matter how she tries to improve him, she still won't be satisfied. If that's really the case, why did you choose him in the first place? If it is discovered after the fact, instead of wasting time, effort and annoyance on changing him, it is better to simply change it! Maybe it's because all men are the same, and it would be almost the same to change another one, and you have to start from scratch. But didn’t you like this kind of man in the first place? After you change him beyond recognition, will he still be the same person you originally liked?

Do you love me?

The reason sounds very simple, but there is no way. Women just like to control their boyfriends everywhere. It seems that only in this way can she satisfy the desire to conquer and control deep in her heart. Sometimes, she would even deliberately give him a chance to make a mistake, and then seize the mistake to kick him over and give him a slap in the face. She was secretly happy to see how embarrassed and trembling he was.

This is definitely a kind of wonderful control. Its motivation comes from the pleasure of satisfying a woman's desire for control, and its direct result is more strict management in the future. So over time, men discovered the pattern and began to do what they wanted. From time to time, they deliberately made small mistakes, and then admitted their mistakes with a smile and apologized. In this way, the same tricks are repeated again and again, and the same mistakes are made again and again, in order to paralyze the woman's mind, so as to prevent the woman's management from constantly escalating, thereby retaining a little independent space for herself, and at the same time, it also provides a safe space for the larger mistakes she may make. Mistakes leave a way out.

I will no longer make promises lightly, and I will no longer change myself for anyone.

As the saying goes: "Three armies can seize the commander, but an ordinary man cannot seize his will." What is "an ordinary man"? ? Of course he is a useless man. Even useless men have an unshakable will, let alone a dignified man? However, today's women just pretend not to understand this truth and insist on turning their boyfriends into clay dolls that can be transformed into any shape at any time. This is really a huge contradiction.

——It’s true that a man loves a woman, and he will love his girlfriend even more (of course, a man is lustful. While he loves his girlfriend, he also loves all the women in the world. ), so no matter how brutally his girlfriend tried to reform him, he still couldn't muster up the courage to resist. On the contrary, in the long-term struggle between reform and counter-transformation, he also developed the seventy-two transformations of the indestructible King Kong. With his own abilities, he has secured a small base area for himself.

One question that perhaps should be clarified is how much are men willing to change for love? Among all the transformation plans of women, which ones can men change for women? What are the men who are violating the law? What will a man never change whether he lives or lives?

In fact, this question is very simple. The first situation is to change for women: no one has really changed! Even if he is just asked not to pick his nose in public, as long as his girlfriend is not present and there are no other women he wants to please, he will definitely enjoy it. In the second case, almost all of them are doing it in a positive and negative way! After all, peace and development are the main themes, and chasing women is more important than anything else. The third situation is almost impossible to live and die without changing! Unless a woman's request is too outrageous, such as asking her boyfriend to stop breathing through his nose and mouth to avoid upper respiratory tract infections.

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Who is deceiving themselves?

Men have already seen through women's thoughts, but they just don't say it out loud. What's the benefit of telling the truth? If it doesn't work, there will be no chance of violating the law. Don’t you just want to have fun being a leader? Let you be the one, I will still be your boyfriend anyway, and you will eventually marry me. A man can bend and stretch, but I am a man, and I am not as experienced as you.

Men’s confusion: Why do women always try to change us?

The woman's own answer seems simple: the man she faces is not good enough. If it's good enough, why change him? Let me ask you, if it is really not good enough, then why did you choose him at that time?

When a woman chooses a man, she must think he is good, but a "good" man needs new transformation immediately after being owned by a woman. From the perspective of women's psychology, there are four reasons.

First, the advantages obtained are negligible. A woman desires something because of its benefits, for example, she desires a man because he is mature and can take care of women. But after getting it, he took the man's advantages for granted, and all he saw were his shortcomings, so he made new demands.

Second, every woman has a portrait of her “dream lover” in her mind. A woman's standard is: I can do whatever I want, and he has everything I want. Therefore, women often change men according to their own wishes. Of all animals, women are the least willing to compromise their dreams. Women are unwilling to compromise their dreams, but they lack the courage to make a complete revolution. Men are more inclined to revolution, that is, change their girlfriends when they are not satisfied, while women are inclined to reform, trying to change the men around them.

Third, women need to use sustained attention to prove their ownership. Women often say: Why do I just want to change you? Because I treat you well and care about you, I won’t worry about other people’s affairs. The nature of man is to hunt, and once he knocks down the prey, he considers it to be his, while the nature of woman is to cultivate, that is, to prove the right of possession by continuously pouring in labor. A woman needs to prove that this man belongs to her, so she will pay attention to all the details of this man and trim them to make her feel at ease.

Fourth, women want to take the leading role in emotional relationships. When a woman asks a man to make changes, the logic is the same: you need my care, you need my guidance, you need my orders, I am the protagonist in many things, I am very important in your life, Don't treat me as dispensable.

How much can a man be changed?

There are two facts: a man in love is willing to comply with a woman's request and change for her; but when a woman becomes a man's woman, the woman's desire to change often hits a wall.

Why is this?

Men in love change for each other in order to compromise, and the purpose of compromise is to strive for the progress and final establishment of the relationship. If a man doesn't compromise at this time, the woman's feeling is: you don't really love me, you won't make any changes or sacrifices for me, and I won't feel safe with you. Therefore, in order to express "loyalty" to women, men make positive changes. Because of the man's compromise, the relationship is finally established. At this time, the man no longer has the need to compromise in the face of the woman's desire for change. Therefore, a woman's desire to change will hit a wall at this time.

However, not all women’s wishes for change will hit a wall. The key is what do women want men to change, and what are the benefits of men’s changes?

If a man is the direct beneficiary of change, he is willing to change. If what a woman wants to change is a man's appearance, and the benefit is that the man's strength and charm will greatly increase, men are very willing to change and look forward to instructions for change; if what a woman wants to change is some of the man's behavioral habits, and the benefit is that both parties The relationship becomes sweeter, and men are willing to make changes; if the woman's desire to change expresses motherhood, and the gain is the establishment of the woman's protagonist status, wise men will make changes in exchange for peace, and unwise men will Refuse to change because he hates losing his leading role in front of women; if a woman asks for a change in order to realize her "lover's dream", then no man will be willing to make changes. Men are not stupid, and they will definitely feel you Really motivated.

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