The pressure in modern society has increased, and many couples are busy with work but neglect their relationships, which may lead to rifts in the relationship between husband and wife. Newlyweds can't wait to be together every day. In the seventh year of marriage, the relationship between husband and wife begins to decline. When they reach forty and children become the core of the family, the relationship between husband and wife at this time is easily susceptible to temptation.

Middle-aged couples generally believe that they have passed the passionate years with their lovers, and that family affection and children are the driving force for maintaining their families.

Some middle-aged people have given up the pursuit of career and are content with the status quo, and there are also some middle-aged people whose careers are booming. Faced with temptations and temptations outside the siege, they often forget the difficult journey they have gone through with their lovers.

Normally, middle-aged men with successful careers are more likely to cheat, while their wives will become increasingly insecure due to their aging appearance.

Why do middle-aged couples become emotionally weak?

1. Disputes over trivial matters in life make the relationship between husband and wife drift apart.

In the vast sea of ​​people, it is a rare fate to meet, get acquainted, know each other, and hold hands. For two people to get married and have children, it seems that they are "destined to love you." However, it is precisely the accumulation of trivial incidents that lead to mutual boredom.

Many times, we will feel like this. The deeper the love, the lonelier it becomes. The selfless love carries nagging, questioning and unreasonable troubles. Although the starting point is caring for the lover, it often results in thankless efforts. result.

When love ceases to be romantic and becomes a burden to each other, the relationship between husband and wife will gradually drift apart.

2. The scale of tolerance is getting wider and wider, causing a lack of cohesion between husband and wife.

Before marriage, women act like "aunts" and after marriage, men pretend to be "uncle". The change in emotional roles makes it difficult for many women to adapt and even find a balance. For this reason, they will sigh, "I am really blind and have boarded a pirate ship." , with a complaint, not knowing how to love in a state of unwillingness, dissatisfaction, anxiety, and regret. Therefore, I often comfort myself by pretending not to care, which makes the scale of tolerance towards my lover become larger and larger. The result will be that I become less and less indifferent to all the behaviors of my lover, resulting in a lack of cohesion between husband and wife. .

Many people who have stayed in the siege for a long time will have this feeling: Our marriage is like a piece of chicken ribs, which is boring to eat and a pity to throw away. For this reason, there are more men who are "casual" and women who are less "coquettish", which makes the marriage enter a state of muddling through. .

3. The impact of multiculturalism has disturbed the loyal hearts between husband and wife.

Compare cars, careers, and houses; compete with lovers, mistresses, and mistresses. Human beings all know that those who are content are always happy, but invisibly, they expose their desire for comparison every moment.

Coal's material about extramarital affairs does not seem to make everyone learn to cherish the rare marriage, but instead makes some people with ulterior motives learn how to drift between lovers. People are supposed to be a group that can think rationally and independently, but more people are willing to speak with their lower bodies.

Under the night sky, everyone seems to feel that they are a lonely person, facing temptation and turbulent marital fidelity.

How can middle-aged couples get rid of the marital itch?

1. Give the other party enough trust and free space, and ignore the rumors you hear.

In life, many people like to use "I heard" to deny the warmth of marriage, because more people would rather believe the rumors of strangers than the sincerity of their lover. For this reason, many conflicts between couples arise from 'I heard' the sowing of discord started.

With his own suspicions and the "evaluations he heard about his lover", he made a fuss about his lover's call records, text messages and chat records.

It's harder to be smart than to be stupid. For this reason, couples should give each other enough trust and free space, because when people interact with each other, the tighter they hold on, the easier it is to lose. Don't try to ignore the rumors you hear. Argument, but ignore it.

2. Maintain a good attitude and never use other people's success to compromise your lover's mediocrity.

Other people's lives are stories, and your own life is days. We can envy those who are richer than us; we can sympathize with those who are poorer than us. The most taboo thing is: don't use other people's success and beauty to ridicule your lover as useless.

Husband and wife need a minimum of respect, especially among family, friends or in public. Even if you don't give high praise to your lover, at least you must not be sarcastic or critical of your lover.

3. Keep exercising, cultivate interests and hobbies, and create a good atmosphere for couples to have sex.

People are visual animals, be it men or women. If you don’t develop the habit of exercising, you will definitely gain weight in middle age. Not to mention what your lover thinks of you, at least you will feel uncomfortable and obese people will carry various The birth of this disease, for this reason, if people reach middle age and have not exercised yet, they should hurry up.

Middle-aged men and women should not be overly dependent on their lovers, whether in material or leisure life, and cultivate their own interests and hobbies, so that they will not be lonely, empty and cold when they come home from get off work, nor will they be foolishly thinking while waiting for their lovers to come home.

I am afraid that only sexually blessed couples can truly understand how important sex life is to cultivating the relationship between husband and wife. For this reason, middle-aged men must not let themselves be unable to have sex, and middle-aged women must not let themselves lose interest in sex.

4. Share housework, treat each other's parents equally, and educate their children in a relaxed manner.

Sharing housework is not about doing housework itself, but about allowing both husband and wife to participate in the work of the family, so that each other can experience a sense of family presence.

Although each other's parents are not the core of a new family, they can affect the relationship between husband and wife due to their attitude towards their parents. Therefore, try to be relatively equal when it comes to treating each other's parents. Don't let each other's parents' wealth gap affect them. Demeaning the 'poor' party.

Don't squeeze children's play space with various "make-up lessons". Tell children the importance of knowledge. Give book knowledge to teachers, lead by example, and give children more principles of life.