Sex is indispensable between men and women, and sexual harmony is an important factor related to the relationship between husband and wife. Sex can not only help couples connect emotionally, but also contribute to the physical and mental health of men and women. In fact, many people think that the longer sex is, the better. Is this really the case? Below, the editor of Seeking Medical Questions and Medicine will learn about it together with everyone.

According to a survey, the most suitable time for substantive love (from the time when sexual organs begin to contact each other) is 7-13 minutes. If the actual love time exceeds 13 minutes, the feeling of fatigue will increase and it will be difficult to recover physical strength; if it is less than 7 minutes, you will feel that you have not finished it.

In reality, some people always have unrealistic "assumptions" about sex. For example, men should have a thick penis, have a strong erection, and have tireless lovemaking all night long. These are all people’s wishful thinking and ‘daydreams’. In addition, the idea that perfect sex requires longer and longer is pure nonsense.

Traditional Chinese medicine believes that the human body and the surrounding environment are an integral whole. Whatever changes occur in nature, the human body will also change accordingly. Therefore, as the natural climate changes, sexual health should also be different. If the climate changes drastically and exceeds the ability of the human body to regulate its functions, the balance of yin and yang will be disrupted and Qi and blood will be reversed. At this time, having sex is not good for the body. If pregnancy occurs at this time, it is not good for both men and women and the baby. On the contrary, a peaceful climate, suitable temperature, comfortable environment, and physical and mental comfort are conducive to sexual intercourse and health preservation.

Winter intercourse and health

Hundreds of insects are dormant, and Yang Qi is trapped and sealed. At this time, people's sexual life should be strictly controlled and the frequency of sexual life should be reduced as much as possible. If you frequently indulge in sexual activities during this season, it will easily lead to weak Qi and kidney deficiency, and you will inevitably get sick.

Talk about foreplay

As the name suggests, foreplay is a game. Falling in love, hugging, caressing, teasing and kissing are indispensable actions before making love, because sex is a psychological, emotional and physical combination of both parties. The important thing is that when lovers are preparing to make love, both parties have entered the state mentally. As simple as walking together, sitting next to each other quietly reading a book or listening to music, holding hands or hugging each other, all of these can instantly build trust between two people, allowing them to melt together in a moment. This teaches us why dates such as eating, dancing, talking and walking are so popular.

I would like to advise all men: Since men’s climax comes faster than women’s, you need to give some time to create an intimate feeling of sex for women. It is important to know that both parties can enjoy sex.

Emotional foreplay

Before sex, both parties must be emotionally prepared. But for some people, after a hard day at work, they can no longer think about sex because they can't detach themselves from what happened during the day, let alone focus on it. Something about being intimate with your lover.

You can help your partner detach from the stress of the day by talking about the day, giving him or her a back rub or massage, or sitting together reading, listening to music, or watching TV .

The point is really to spend time together with your partner in a way that helps build trust and intimacy. This should give you both the relaxation you need to create the elements you need for great sex.

Physical foreplay

This includes actions such as kissing, cuddling, caressing and massaging. Caressing the erogenous zone can increase one's arousal, which is important for women because it means the vaginal walls have enough time to secrete lubricant.

Clock: five minutes for men, fifteen minutes for women

Men can reach orgasm in no more than five minutes, and sometimes even faster—where maintaining an erection and delaying orgasm requires concentration and skill. For women, it takes about fifteen minutes to reach orgasm. As a result, every time after climax, men leave with satisfaction (or fall asleep), while women feel very disappointed or even cheated.

Note:

To ensure that women's needs are met in a healthy relationship, men must remember to give their partners enough attention and time so that both parties can enjoy sex.

Teenagers spend the most time on foreplay. Teenagers aged 16-20 spend an average of 21.6 minutes on foreplay; those aged 21-24 spend an average of 19.1 minutes on foreplay; and those over 55 spend an average of 21.6 minutes on foreplay. The average is 17.3 minutes.

Britons spend the longest average time on foreplay (22.5 minutes), followed by Germans (22.2 minutes), Irish (21.8 minutes) and Spanish (21.7 minutes).

Thais spent the shortest average time on foreplay (11.5 minutes), followed by Hong Kong Chinese (14.2 minutes) and Vietnamese (15.2 minutes).

How much is enough for intercourse?

Both sexes have different requirements and expectations for sexual interest, and it is normal for it to be high and low sometimes. Men's sexual interest is more urgent, undistracted, and targeted. They are more focused during lovemaking and can easily achieve physiological satisfaction. Women’s sexual interests are often thought to be scattered and they urgently need emotional intimacy. The difference in sexual interest between the sexes is not quantity, but quality.

The sexual interest of men and women can be equally high, but generally the sexual interest of men is higher than that of women. This is because testosterone is at work, and the stimulation of the acquired erotic environment also has an impact.

Women want romance, men want pornography, and the structures of their sexual interests are very different. Sexual interest actually comes from the brain, not technology. It is necessary to withdraw from daily life and concentrate on thinking about sex, or use sexual fantasies to generate sexual interest.

Ways to increase women's sexual interest: romantic gestures (such as sending cards, flowers, gifts, compliments), more communication and intimacy, satisfying sensual needs, partners willing to spend quality time together, and reducing disputes.

Ways to promote male sexual interest: more variety or more dramatic sex, sudden sex, naked stimulation, sexy inner beauty, positive response from partner, erotic and erotic stimulation.

It only takes 3 seconds for men to have sexual impulses, and it takes 15 to 20 minutes for women to have sexual feelings.

How much sex is enough?

Medical journal surveys show that one-third of couples have sex two or three times a month. Another survey shows that one-third of couples have not had sex for a long time, or have sex once every two months. These couples are under 38 years old.

Genders have different interests in sex, just like food, so it's best to adopt an attitude of "it's ok for you and it's ok for me too".

True sexual compatibility does not refer to the same sexual interests of both sexes, but the same expectations for sexual interests, or the same views on what is normal/abnormal sexual interests. Despite differences in sexual interest, any disparity in sexual interest can be overcome as long as expectations and attitudes are the same.

What are the most common sexual complaints from men and women?

Men always feel that sex is not enough and expect more. At the same time, he is worried that his sexual performance will not be as good as his wife expects, and he will gradually lose his sexual interest.

Women complain about insufficient communication with their husbands and expect more emotional communication and intimacy. The more a woman talks, the stronger her desire for sex becomes. Women can speak up to 12,000 words a day, while men can only speak 4,000 words a day.

For men, sex = love; for women, love = emotional communication and intimacy.