In college, you can love purely. I graduated, but I can’t do it purely for love. Among the students on campus, the most talked about topic besides where to work is probably how to deal with this campus romance. Because of graduation, various factors that must be considered such as work, family, and future have been added to the original pure love. Faced with love and career, should graduating college students choose the former or the latter, or will they be lucky enough to get both? Last week, reporters conducted a survey among college graduates in this city, and their situation was very representative of those on campus.

[Breakup Type]

All the roommates broke up and the couple was not left behind

Zhang Hao, a fresh graduate from a university in this city, just "broke up" with his girlfriend , "In the past few years, we spent a lot of time together. This year we are facing graduation, writing papers, submitting resumes, and looking for jobs... The pressure is overwhelming. Our opportunities to be together are few and far between. Facing the future, We have to be realistic."

There are many "Bi Fen clan" like Zhang Hao in this city. “All four of us in the dormitory have girlfriends, and now they have all broken up, and none of them are left.” Xiao Liu, a fresh graduate from Gansu who came to Tianjin to study, said, “Students like me from rural areas don’t know how much work they have to do. You can’t buy a house until 2019. There’s no reason to ask others to live with you, so I respect her choice.”

No one likes her if her values ​​change.

For Huizhen, the main reason for breaking up with her boyfriend of three years on the occasion of graduation was due to different "values". "My boyfriend and I participated in internships at the company this year. In order to strive for employment opportunities, we both devoted ourselves to work, and our daily contact gradually decreased." This was not a problem. The problem was that she found that her boyfriend had changed. There are always words like success, getting rich, and taking shortcuts. I understand that he wants to enter society as soon as possible, but I think why should he rush to change? Language? "After the internship, Huizhen decided to break up with her boyfriend.

[Trend type] In order to experience, "surprise love" Zhatui

This summer, Ye Zi, who just received his diploma, also became single. But when faced with the breakup, she did not shed tears, but admitted that her experience in the past few months had been wonderful. "I just wanted to experience the feeling of falling in love, so I was already prepared to break up." It turned out that Ye Zi had never been in love until the first semester of her senior year. This made her feel that something was missing. When school started this year, she clamored for her roommate to introduce her boyfriend. "It didn't take long before I fell in love. He was a nice boy and agreed with my idea. He felt that this kind of love is easy to get together and break up." Ye Zi regarded this "tacit understanding" of love as the last lesson before graduation. .

In Ye Zi’s view of love, love is love and marriage is marriage. The two are not the same concept.

[Persistence type] Give up a good job and carry love to the end

"Graduation is not a watershed in love. As long as you have a dream, there is hope." Zhou Wu and Huang Juan, who have graduated three years ago , has now entered the marriage hall. They were college classmates. After graduation, Zhou Wu went to Beijing to develop, while Huang Juan worked as a teacher in this city. Zhou Wu said: "My father advised me and hoped that we would be more realistic. Xiao Huang's family also suggested that we separate. During the two years after graduation, we were not favored by others."

But their actual actions surprised everyone around them. In the third year, Zhou Wu resigned from his stable job in Beijing and returned to Tianjin for development. Soon, they held a wedding. "Between work and love, I chose love and will work tirelessly for love."

The reporter found during the interview that although college couples have a higher breakup rate after graduation, couples like Zhou Wu and Huang Juan There are many examples of people holding on to love like that. In interviews, the consensus among graduates is that after all, the relationships in school are the purest and most precious, and love will not "graduate" with graduation from college.

Graduation Love in Graduation Season

[Cause Investigation]

70% of college students are sober when facing the reality

What is the reason for the beautiful campus romance? Overshadowed by graduation? How do we choose when faced with the pressure of work and survival? The reporter recently conducted a survey among 80 fresh graduates from a university in this city. Among the graduates surveyed, 30% of the girls had considered their romantic destination after graduation during their relationship, while less than 10% of the boys had considered it. At the same time, more than 70% of graduates are confused about where their love will go after graduation - maintaining the status quo is because both parties have no clear answer for the future; if they want to continue, it seems powerless. The interviewees who chose to break up said that "separation between the two places", "working environment" and "disparity in family background" were the most difficult obstacles to overcome.

As for the question of “which is more important, love or work?”, the interviewees said that love and work are not necessarily contradictory, but continued to ask whether they would give up love for a better job. Most of them responded People expressed their affirmation. At the crossroads between love and work, most of the respondents rushed to work, while less than 30% were willing to stay for love.

In addition, two-thirds of the 80 graduates surveyed suggested falling in love before graduation. This group of interviewees believe that love in college is pure and it would be a pity not to fall in love. Others believe that falling in love before graduation is more like "practicing" love, a practice for future love. The article is written by Xinbao reporter Liu Desheng and intern Liu Da

Before falling in love, please question yourself most cruelly

Many times, college couples are like two pieces of metal with different expansion rates. In the big oven of society, two pieces of metal that were originally equal in size have gradually become unequal. The pure campus environment makes their communication simple and direct, while the complex society truly tempers human nature. This is also a major "killer" that causes college students to break up after graduation.

More importantly, many college students do not consider the personality, family background, values ​​and living habits of the two people when choosing a lover, and economic conditions are out of the question. Married life is too real. We can't just eat in canteens and small fry shops, nor can we take a walk on the trails every day in addition to classes. Therefore, campus love often becomes vulnerable when encountering graduation. If you really want to fall in love in school, you should consider it more comprehensively. If not, then speak with reason. Otherwise, when love affects career development and we talk about breaking up, the loss will be even greater.

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