The Family Health Promotion Center of the Hong Kong Young Women's Christian Association interviewed a total of 1,114 married men and women from December to January, and rated the three most touching and damaging words and behaviors between couples, hoping to use this Remind couples to pay more attention to the impact of their words and actions on their spouses, learn to say more words to enhance feelings, and engage in more interactions that are helpful for feelings.

Everyone wants to be appreciated by their spouse, but if they hear the above three sentences, they will inevitably feel that their status, value and image in the other person's mind have plummeted, and they will also be judged and "labeled" by those who make rash judgments. "hurt by the words.

Now that you are getting married, you should treat your partner with care. You can say more touching words, but never say hurtful words. So, which words between husband and wife are the most touching, and which words are the most hurtful?

The Family Health Promotion Center of the Hong Kong Young Women’s Christian Association interviewed a total of 1,114 people from December to January. Married men and women respectively rated the three most touching and damaging words and behaviors between couples, hoping to remind couples to pay more attention to the impact of their words and actions on their spouses, and learn to say more words to enhance feelings. Engage in more emotionally supportive interactions.

The survey showed that 60.1% of the respondents ranked the sentence "No matter what happens to you, I will be by your side" as the first place in the "most touching words list", together with "Marrying you, I will be by your side". "I feel very happy" and "You are very important to me" ranked in the top three. This result reflects that both husband and wife long for each other's eternal support and hope to be accepted, affirmed and valued in marriage, and they care very much about their position in the heart of their spouse.

Unexpectedly, the most touching action is a simple expression of love from a partner. "Do a small thing for you that I have said a long time ago and even forgot about", "kiss or hug you passionately" and "make special arrangements to spend time with you", ranking among the top three. “Buy a house” or “Put the financial reins in your hands” were not ranked highly. This reflects that when couples get along, what they need most is their partner's care and attentiveness, and this should be expressed at the right time.

As for the "three most damaging words", 58.5% of people chose "I really married you wrong"; "Look at others, they are much better than you" and "I I’ve been patient for a long time, you’re always like this” followed closely. Everyone hopes to be appreciated by their spouse, but if they hear the above three sentences, they will inevitably feel that their status, value and image in the other person's heart have plummeted, and they will also be hurt by those words that judge and "label" them. Among the most emotionally damaging behaviors, "publicly humiliating you", "manipulating you in public" and "ignoring" ranked in the top three.

Li Wenshan, the supervisory director of the center, said that the survey showed that what couples value most in their relationship is not material gifts, but care, respect and attention to their spouses. She suggested that couples should calm down first when they are angry, reflect on their behavior, and then find an opportunity to say "I'm sorry" to each other, so that the other party can understand that they were irrational before, and it is not difficult to reconcile as before.