“The post-80s generation’s marriage peak is here. Experts point out that this year the city will enter the peak period for the “post-80s” generation to get married.

It is understood that the number of marriages registered among those born after 1980s was high in the first quarter, mainly due to three reasons. Firstly, the vast majority of people born in the 1980s in this city have entered the marriageable age. Women born before 1989 and men born before 1987 can register for marriage. Secondly, young people born in the 1980s have a more open concept of marriage and love. Some "post-80s" young people no longer value the "wedding room" and "wedding car" that must be prepared before marriage, and instead choose to rent a house to get married, which objectively lowers the threshold for marriage; thirdly, the number of "flash marriages" and "married people" is increasing , in many "post-80s" families, couples register for marriage after they have left school or have not known each other for a long time. The love cycle is generally short.

Pang Qiang, the person in charge of the Hexi District Marriage Registration Office who has been engaged in marriage surveys and research in this city for many years, said that young couples born in the 1980s who have recently registered for marriage should become familiar with their new roles in the family as soon as possible and interact with each other. Be considerate, enhance understanding, and run your own "little family" together.

60% of the respondents do not want to become house slaves too early and prefer to rent a house to get married

Young newlyweds must manage their finances well when renting a house

Expert advice: Young couples should Buy your first home 3 to 6 years after marriage

26-year-old Wei Lin registered her marriage before the Spring Festival this year and is currently renting with her husband on Huayuan Street. She told reporters that they did not want to put financial pressure on their parents by getting married, so they chose to rent a house to get married, and planned to work together to save money to buy a house after marriage. During the interview, the reporter learned that there are still many young couples like Wei Lin who choose to rent a house to get married. According to survey data provided by the civil affairs department, more than 60% of the respondents expressed their willingness to accept or are preparing to rent a house to get married.

It is understood that in Western developed countries such as Europe and the United States, the vast majority of young people start by renting a house and getting married. After marriage, the couple works together to buy a house and improve their living standards. Nowadays in this city, the vast majority of young couples who choose to rent a house to get married belong to the "post-80s generation". They have received higher education, have a fixed income and a certain amount of savings, and have a strong sense of openness and independence, and do not want to fall into the trap of being married too early. "House slaves". Many couples choose to rent houses that are close to each other's workplaces, have complete supporting facilities, and have moderate housing sizes and rental prices.

In this regard, Han Zhen, chairman of the Municipal Wedding Association, suggested that the domestic housing rental market is not yet mature, and young couples who choose to rent a house to get married need to further strengthen their financial management concepts after marriage, allocate consumption rationally, and rationally For investment, it is best to buy your first house within 3 to 6 years after marriage. Otherwise, the "wandering life" of renting a house will affect the relationship between husband and wife.

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Over 40% often quarreled, 113 couples divorced in the first quarter

Small conflicts between "post-80s" couples are easy to escalate

Expert tips: "Cold War" couples can use small props to make peace

After a quarrel, no one ignores the other, which leads to the escalation of small conflicts and a "red light" in the marriage. This situation is in " It is not uncommon to see couples born in the 1980s. A sample survey provided by the civil affairs department also shows that nowadays, more than 40% of "post-80s" couples often quarrel in daily life, and the relationship between husband and wife is also cracked. Statistics show that since the first quarter, 113 "post-80s + post-80s" families have divorced by agreement in this city. This number is more than five times the number of "post-70s + post-80s" family divorces by agreement, and has increased nearly compared with the same period last year. 50%.

It is understood that there are three main reasons why couples born in the 1980s frequently have emotional problems in their daily lives. First of all, couples born in the 1980s are mostly only children and have always been consistent at home since childhood. Therefore, after marriage, they do not know how to compromise with their spouses. After minor quarrels and disputes occur, it is difficult to "find steps" for each other in an appropriate way. Time First, it is easy to cause resentment; secondly, the "post-80s generation" has a more perceptual understanding of marriage and family, but lacks rational understanding, which can easily form a psychological gap between pre-marital love and post-marital life. Once the husband and wife's energy investment in the family is not equal, then When the romantic atmosphere similar to that during love is not created for a long time, it is easy to cause psychological imbalance and cause conflicts between husband and wife; thirdly, for some "post-80s" families with "complete marriages" and "flash marriages", the couple has left campus or met each other. Registering marriage not long ago, lack of in-depth understanding before marriage, and unstable emotional foundation after marriage, resulting in frequent conflicts.

In this regard, Pang Qiang, who has been engaged in marriage survey research in this city for many years, suggested that after a quarrel occurs in a small family with a "post-80s + post-80s" structure, the husband and wife should especially strengthen communication, even if there is a "cold war" ", you should also take the initiative to seek peace. Couples can use "confidence notes" and family notepads as props, write down your thoughts in euphemistic language and hand them to each other. This can not only create a romantic atmosphere, but also Helps repair couples' relationships.

To circumvent unspoken rules in the workplace, some married young people pretend to be single

“Hidden marriage” hurts love

At work, some married young people do not publicize their marital status, carefully avoid talking about it, and reduce the "exposure" of their spouses. A sample survey shows that 13% of "post-80s" couples have at least one party who has lived or is living such a "hidden marriage" life at their workplace.

It is understood that avoiding the "hidden rules" in the workplace is an important reason for young couples to live a "hidden marriage" life. During the interview, Shen Jiajia, who works for a foreign company in the city's development zone, said that the many matters faced by married women such as pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding, maternity leave, etc. will cause problems such as not being reused at work. This is an "unspoken rule" in the current workplace. "one. For this reason, she can only try to avoid talking about family issues with her colleagues and give the company the illusion that she is still single. In addition, there are some young men who live in "hidden marriages" for the purpose of improving their popularity among female colleagues and making it easier to carry out their daily work.

In this regard, Pang Qiang, who has been engaged in marriage survey research in this city for many years, pointed out that the most important thing in the workplace is still the ability of employees, rather than marital status, and young couples should work hard to improve their own abilities. Living a "hidden marriage" life for a long time makes the spouse live "underground", which is not only detrimental to the development of the couple's relationship, but also casts a shadow on the relationship, and also leaves a bad impression on colleagues in the unit.

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