The host said that the company's physical examination actually detected the "hidden marriage clan" in the city. Most of them are women. They are clearly "married", but in order to prevent their colleagues and bosses from finding out, they will tell the doctor, "Let's fill it out as unmarried." It is said that today's professional women often hide their "married status" on their resumes in order to work. Marriage" status. There are also married men around who are hiding their "true identities" intentionally or unintentionally. Are you a "hidden marriage" person in the city? What's your reason for hiding your "married" status?

Don’t deliberately conceal, don’t deliberately disclose

□Mr. Yan, 25-year-old sales representative

I have a lot of entertainment at work. In this kind of situation, it is most taboo for everyone to get a phone call suddenly and ask you to go home before you have finished enjoying yourself. Then the other people will look disappointed, and even if they know that the caller is a girlfriend or wife, they will ridicule you, in case of ridicule. Your people are customers, so you have to be prepared for your business to fail. Sometimes they simply exclude married men from being invited to such parties, cutting off your connections without any reason.

I think this is the reason why, rationally, I will not deliberately disclose the information that I am married to my colleagues or clients. Colleagues are all running around, and rarely talk about anything other than official matters when they have free time. My principle is that they don’t ask questions, and I don’t tell them. Men, don't be so gossipy and reveal all your details. Moreover, my wife and I have received our marriage certificate but have not yet held a banquet. So when people ask me, I always respond by saying, "We haven't held a banquet yet." My wife and I both have the same idea, to accumulate more connections and wealth while we are young. The real mortgage loan pressure is so great. In order to work and make more money, I will not announce loudly that I am married for at least the next two to three years. I plan to become a small leader, and when I am confident, I can invite guests and tell them that I am married.

Being a hidden marriage partner for a friend

□Ms. Cai, a 29-year-old accountant

When I heard about "hidden marriage", I thought it was quite boring. Is it necessary to hide such a happy thing? Unexpectedly, after being married for more than a year, I would end up in a secret marriage for the sake of my friends.

My friend's conditions are pretty good in all aspects, but she is still single after she is over 27 years old. People around her, including herself, are starting to get anxious. In desperation, she decided to participate in a "white-collar group blind date." But being shy by nature, she didn't dare to go alone and wanted to find a "hook-up". After many choices, she actually "riveted" me. She said that because I was married, going with her would not pose a threat to her. And he can also give her advice as a "experienced person". I really couldn't resist her, so I softened my heart and went with her. That day, I tried to be as low-key as possible and didn't dress up deliberately. The usually eloquent me became less talkative. But sometimes it's just "unintentional planting of willows and willows". Before my friends could gain anything, I was already attracted by a 30-year-old man. In order to avoid unnecessary trouble, I rejected him immediately.

Afterwards, I felt quite ashamed when I thought about this experience. Having a "hidden marriage" for any reason is risky and will ultimately hurt you.

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“Hidden marriage” just because the husband is a former client

□JUDY28-year-old marketing

A recent class reunion , I brought my husband over, and my classmates complained about me, saying that I was really good at keeping secrets and didn't even tell them about my marriage. I looked at them all making a fuss and thought to myself: "If they knew that I had been married for more than a year, their jaws might drop."

I have a lot of problems at work. We have regular clients, some of whom we can talk to relatively well, and have developed personal relationships. However, in our company, it is strictly prohibited to bring personal feelings to work, even office romances are not allowed, and developing more than friendship relationships with customers is expressly prohibited. However, fate could not be stopped when it came to it. My husband and I held hands like this, and the process of falling in love also happened "underground". When the relationship matured, the two of us naturally thought of getting married. My husband is also very considerate of my situation. In order not to affect my work, we decided to get the certificate first and hold the wedding later.

On the surface, my husband and I still have a working relationship. Once, a colleague and I went to discuss a business deal, and the person sent by the other company happened to be my husband. The three of us sat in Starbucks and chatted. Because my colleague knew my husband first, he kept trying to establish a relationship with him and acted like he was very loyal to my husband in front of me. A colleague said that my husband loves drinking XX brand beer and swimming. I thought to myself, did you know that he grinds his teeth while sleeping? Although similar things make people laugh, at the same time we also feel that it is difficult to keep secrets, and what if the secret is exposed. In order to get rid of this "pretend life" as soon as possible, I decided to change companies, but my boss expressed deep regret for my sudden resignation. He said that he could increase my salary and hoped that I would stay based on our joint efforts for several years. Thinking that my career had just started to improve, I was reluctant to resign. My husband and I are still "sneaky".

Fortunately, within a few months, my husband's contract expired. In order to make things easier for me, he changed companies, and the two of us came to the surface. I have been busy preparing for a wedding recently, and my colleagues thought we were about to get married, but in fact we are already an old married couple. It's just that they have no chance to see the date on the marriage certificate.

I haven’t finished my studies and don’t want to expose my marriage

□Xiao Liu is a 26-year-old graduate student

I got married at the end of last year. Although our marriage is completely legal, I still The fact that I was married was not made public.

Originally, I didn’t plan to get married while I was studying, but because my boyfriend was going to go abroad for a year of training, in order to make a promise to me, he said he would get a marriage certificate first before leaving. Although graduate students are allowed to get married, I still don't want to get married in school in a big way.

On the one hand, the research direction set by my tutor has just begun. I don’t want the teacher to think that I will be distracted from my studies because of marriage. In addition, we happened to be working on a project at the time. If we were to get married, even if we didn’t hold a wedding reception on a large scale, we would at least have to do it on a small scale. Neither my husband nor I had the time. On the other hand, I am two or three years older than my classmates. When I am with these little girls, we talk about student topics. I don’t want them to look at me as a “lady girl” in a different light. After all, I am already very popular among students. Those who get married are still in the minority. Now I don’t need a school certificate to get married, which also brings convenience to my “hidden marriage”. During the winter vacation last year, we took a long time to get the marriage certificate quickly.

Now, in front of teachers and classmates, I still call my husband "boyfriend". We can't see each other often anyway, so there is almost no worry about cheating. Although we are already married, I still live my student life. In terms of mentality, it seems that it is not much different from not being married.

The suspected character has questionable character

□ Ms. Zhou’s 29-year-old event planner

Many of my friends have lost the chance of being reused because of the fetters of being "married." Learning from the past, I never carry family photos of me, my husband, and my son in my wallet, and I never wear a wedding ring at work. I always hang out with unmarried girls in the office, and some people talk about marriage, family, and children. I avoid them all.

I don’t think there is anything wrong with doing this. Originally, marriage or not is a personal privacy. Unfortunately, the new colleague in our department is the niece of our next-door neighbor, and she has seen my husband and me. As soon as I saw her, I knew something was wrong. Sure enough, as soon as she saw me, she asked if our baby had caught a cold recently, and she revealed my married status. Then, soon the little girls who usually hung out with me began to talk about me secretly and no longer came to me when they had nothing to do. My colleagues felt that I deliberately concealed my marriage, and there must be some bad reason for it, so they speculated behind my back. Finally, my boss also came to see me. She said that she had heard all the recent rumors and believed that I had integrity issues by concealing the fact that I was married. She also expressed doubts about my other behaviors. Now I was bored. I didn’t expect that the hidden marriage would actually cause my character problems.

Knowing that I couldn’t survive here, I found a company and quit as soon as possible. But I still feel that I have been wronged. My secret marriage did not mean to harm the company or others. On the contrary, I will be more strict with myself at work. The company should not completely deny my work and character. I hope they can be more considerate. Let’s look at the helplessness of professional women.

【I have something to say】

●In our company, being "married" is a kind of capital, especially for men. It means that you are responsible and more mature, and in turn you There are more opportunities for advancement.

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