After many failed blind dates, 32-year-old Chen Yong (pseudonym) changed his introduction from "handsome, humorous, and considerate" to "I don't have a house or a car, and I'm willing to treat each other sincerely." He laughed at himself that it would appear more sincere and looked forward to getting true love as soon as possible. In some matchmaking agencies in Jinan, there are many job seekers like Chen Yong who write "disadvantageous conditions" in their profiles. Some netizens even regard this behavior as a trendy way of seeking marriage.

A grassroots man said he had no choice but to admit his "disadvantage"

As Singles Day approaches, there are more and more posts about marriage and dating in many local forums in Jinan. However, compared with the past, many people take the initiative to admit that they are typical "grassroots men" without houses or cars. "Please stop contacting me if you ask for beautiful women who own cars and houses. I am just an ordinary person!" A netizen listed this in a post on a forum in Jinan. This method seems to be supported by many netizens, and stating that one does not have a house has almost become a trendy way to introduce oneself.

In some matchmaking agencies in Jinan, male members no longer "avoid the important and take the easy" when filling out their information. Instead, they write "I don't have a house, please don't disturb me if you are the one" in the marriage requirements. "If you don't have a house or a car, it's hard for a girl to have the idea of ​​getting married." In a matchmaking agency on Jingqi Road, Chen Yong said that having a house to get married has almost become a necessary condition for two people to fall in love. Although he was dissatisfied, Chen Yong could only hope to meet true love as soon as possible. After experiencing many failed blind dates, he simply changed his personal introduction from "handsome, humorous, and considerate" to "I don't have a house or a car, and I want to treat each other sincerely." "Speaking the truth calmly will make a man appear more real in this case, and it will also be an inspiration to himself. Maybe this way he can get true love." Chen Yong said.

Citizens: You still have to consider the house before getting married

"Can a man with no money, no house, and no car ask for marriage?" On the Tianya Forum, netizen mrjks posed this question to everyone, but the answers he received were almost all negative. In interviews, most citizens said that although choosing a spouse mainly depends on the relationship between the two parties, the issue of housing still has to be considered.

Wang Rong worked in a public institution and fell in love on campus. She felt that the house, car and money were not important as long as two people could be together. But as time went by, she discovered that marriage still had to have material conditions as a basis. Wang Rong said that the house does not need to be a villa, but it must have one. How can one settle down without a house? How to make your lover happy? Marriage is about building a home and having a safe haven to shelter from wind and rain.

Qina, who has graduated from college for two years, and her boyfriend are college classmates, but her family always asks her to go on blind dates. "My boyfriend is from a rural area, and with his current salary, he can't even afford a down payment." She said that she and her boyfriend have a close relationship, but the thought of their future life as a "house slave" gives her a headache.

Internet post: Male netizens declare that they will never marry "house slaves"

Many men seeking marriage are blocked from love because they do not have housing. Recently, a post titled "Post-80s Male Declaration: Marry a Wife, Not a House Slave Girl" became popular online. The author declared in the post that when love encounters a house, he hopes that all men born in the 1980s will solemnly declare that they will never marry a "house slave"! The definition of the term "house slave" in the post is that a woman who requires her husband to buy a house before she is willing to get married has a derogatory connotation.

"Emotions measured by material things will eventually fail." This post immediately received approval from many male netizens. Many netizens also believe that girls more often need a sense of security, and "without a house, there is no feeling of home." Most netizens hold a neutral attitude and believe that "it's right for women to want a house, and it's right for men to not be able to buy a house. The fault lies in the ridiculously high housing prices."

Experts: The main thing is to adjust social orientation

"House should not be an obstacle to marriage." Du Yifen, a sociology expert at Jinan University, believes that this is not one person's fault, but that excessive housing prices have changed many people's values. In fact, it’s not that you can’t get a wife if you don’t have a house. You can still get a wife if you don’t have a house. You just need to adapt to the development of the times with a newer lifestyle.

Gemology expert Tian Meiying believes that huge work and life pressure, potential competition, etc. make people lack a sense of security. Houses, betrothal gifts, as well as the family conditions of the marriage partner and the work status of the parents have all become considerations when dating. Factors, it is normal not to get married without a house. High housing prices and a blind comparison mentality have caused problems with the values ​​​​of many young people. The excessive pursuit of material things brings a sense of vanity. This phenomenon does not exist only among girls. Although the male resistance to "house slave girls" in the post seems too extreme, it shows dissatisfaction with society. It’s just that this phenomenon cannot be changed by individuals, but requires the efforts of all members of society. Adjusting social orientation is the most important thing, rather than discussing some minutiae one-sidedly.

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