Mayfair is a well-developed girl with a slender figure and plump breasts. When boys are with her, they always like to look at her swollen and elastic breasts. Sometimes, some boys would give her a hand under the guise of helping her get something. Feier was so angry that it was hard to get angry. Some girls even said that her figure was indeed easy for people to have unwanted thoughts.

In order to get rid of the lustful eyes of those malicious boys, Mayfair began to avoid interacting with them. But she often saw the boys who were good friends with her in the past chatting and laughing with other girls, which made her feel extremely uncomfortable, so she pretended to be happy and took the initiative to socialize with them, but she couldn't control the fear of being taken advantage of by them. The tension and worry that arises. In the end, the brain is often in a state of excitement and tension, worry and conflict, and swelling and pain often occur.

After entering high school, Feier fell in love with her classmate Tong, who also had a crush on her. But Feier was also afraid that he would be like those malevolent boys in the past, and that he would be a slut, so she suppressed the passionate desire in her heart, pretended to be extremely calm on the surface, and never talked to him, but Their every move and gesture clearly conveyed each other's feelings to each other. Every time she recalled these subtle tacit understandings, Mayfair was excited, excited, and also felt a little regretful. This was far from the romantic, passionate and passionate love she yearned for, but she was even more afraid that this kind of relationship would bring negative consequences to her. cause trouble.

In order to vent her longing and longing for Tong, and to protect herself from harm, Mayfair had no choice but to live in reverie all day long. Every night, after turning off the lights, she lay in bed and let her thoughts fly, imagining the sweet moments of being loved, cared for, cared for, hugged, caressed, and kissed when she was alone with her children... After waking up, she I feel dizzy, and sometimes my head hurts like an awl. When she saw him again the next day, she tried her best to restrain herself and ignore him. Even when he took the initiative to talk to her, Feier pretended not to hear. She burned the letters written by Tong without even reading them. She suffered both physical and psychological torture and often suffered from insomnia. In the end, Tong fell in love with a girl. Fei'er was in pain and wanted to live.

Classes were separated in the second year of high school, and Fei'er ended her days with Tong Zhaoxi. However, in the new class, she found that another cool boy, Zhou, was secretly in love with her. His free and easy manners, humorous conversation, and cheerful personality all attracted her. However, she was afraid of repeating the same mistake with the first boy and dragging herself into the emotional whirlpool again, and began to avoid Zhou. More importantly, she liked Tong. But Zhou is very smart and knows that if he pursues her blatantly, he will be rejected, so he adopts a silent strategy to get close to Feier. Fei'er doesn't like Zhou, but in order to "retaliate" against Tong, she accepts it. But she had no way to communicate with Zhou. Fei'er thought of children all the time. Before going to bed, she would inevitably have sexual fantasies about children. She would not fall asleep until she was completely exhausted. During the day in class, eating, and walking, I was simply distracted, distracted, and listless. When she was in great pain, Mayfair even had thoughts of committing suicide. She has been unable to get out of this terrible cycle.

Because of these sexual fantasies, Mayfair’s energy has been exhausted, and her academic performance, which was always among the best in the class, has also plummeted. She was really afraid that one day her spirit would collapse. Somehow, she felt as if she was married to Tong Hezhou, and they seemed to be deeply rooted in her heart. Mayfair knew that her emotional entanglement with them was just like a passing cloud that would eventually disappear, but she was worried that with this shadow behind her, would she still have the right to choose a third man?

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Comment: Generally speaking, no matter whether a boy or a girl enters the age of puberty, due to the inevitable physiological and psychological development, it is impossible not to yearn for the opposite sex. possible. However, under the correct guidance and education of schools and parents, most students can make full use of reason or other methods of expression and release to deal with or distract this natural emotional need.

Use reason, that is, correct sexual ethics and social views, to suppress evil thoughts through ideas. But this alone is not enough to meet the needs of growth and development. Therefore, in daily life, especially in interpersonal interactions and emotional exchanges, a certain degree of expression and release is necessary in order to achieve a balance of mentality.

If Feier boldly contacts the male classmate she wants to date, she will not have such sexual fantasies that torture her. Even if the male classmate has some physical contact with her, it will not reach the level of sexual fantasies. To a profound extent. In fact, Mayfair's rationality has been defeated by her emotions.

Actually, Fei'er doesn't have to love Tong or Zhou, because she knows that they don't necessarily want to make friends with her, but she is just "hiding her ears and stealing their bells" mentally. Mayfair is very sensitive. Based on this sensitivity, she is probably wishful thinking, and the other person may not understand her style! In this case, simply give up these two "lover shadows" and get a real boyfriend, that is, a third party. A boyfriend, this boyfriend is not necessarily a boyfriend in the sense of love. Because she is already an adult and should have opposite-sex feelings to enrich her adolescent life. Why should she live in fantasy?

The specific suggestions are as follows:

First, accept yourself and not do it for yourself. Worry about your own mood. One of the questions that Mayfair brings is "How could I become like this?" In the entire process of adjusting her own mentality, Mayfair should first conceptually realize that the series of emotions she has generated are completely normal. It can be said that almost everyone grew up with such an exciting little secret. Therefore, Mayfair should accept herself optimistically, face her emotional needs and changes correctly, and no longer blame herself for having such emotions.

The second is to make a few friends of the opposite sex. Doing this will definitely be of unexpected help to a girl like Fei'er who is buried in a book. At least it would make Fei'er no longer worried and nervous about being caught between a cool guy and a handsome boy, and at the same time, she would feel lost and melancholy. Mayfair has already felt the excitement for the opposite sex in her heart. In this case, it is better to relax her heart and appreciate the beauty of opposite-sex interactions in life.

The third is to decipher the mystery of "hazy love". Those boys who love to stare at her swollen breasts, or the two "so cool" and "handsome" boys that she feels she loves but is afraid of falling in love with, are really cute and annoying at the same time, making Feier eager to be with her. They interacted with each other and were afraid of interacting with them, so they had to worry secretly. If Mayfair doesn't want to be led by this inexplicable trouble and vague love, she can also adopt a positive and generous attitude, talk to him, discuss with him, and interact with him. Among psychotherapy methods, this is a "systematic desensitization" method, which involves gradually contacting and deepening understanding of the things you are afraid of, so as to relieve tension and restore a normal state of mind.

The fourth is to learn to be the master of your own emotions. For girls like Feier, in the experience of emotions, other people's experiences do have something to learn from. On the premise that it does not hinder learning and progress, let all the emotions that pour into the heart become the motivation for learning. , let the passion bursting out from your heart become the beacon of happiness in the journey of life. In this way, Mayfair will slowly develop from a helpless girl with turbulent emotions into an excellent girl who is healthy in body and mind, enthusiastic and lively.

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