In 2009, a TV drama called "Small House" made mistresses famous, and the mysterious veil was finally unveiled, pushing the topic of mistresses to the forefront and becoming the focus of public opinion after dinner. It has to be said that among girls, there are those who are greedy for money and power, and there are those who love vanity. These women can easily become mistresses or mistresses, and they are willing to give full play to their so-called age advantage in this role. However, some simple and kind-hearted A girl only seeks her true love and has no intention of acting as a third party. However, because of her pure and kind nature and longing for protection, she unknowingly falls for a mistress without knowing it. After she wakes up, she suddenly realizes that the true love she firmly believes in is actually a love affair. "Fuck", I was "being mistressed"...

What is "being mistressed"?

Everyone knows about the mistress, but "being mistressed" may be a bit confusing. The difference between being a mistress and being mistressed lies in the word "bei", the difference between active and passive. "Being mistressed" means being raped without knowing it. What should you do if you become a mistress by defrauding your feelings?

Listen to the chatter of the girls

"I will leave angrily and never have any contact with him again." This is what a rare rational girl does. She knows that there will be no results between herself and this so-called lover, and she will never have any contact with him again. I don’t allow others to deceive me, so I choose to leave, shake my hair, stride away, and start chasing my own life again. However, what I see more is that most girls look confused after learning that they have been cheated on by a mistress, and most of their answers are "I don't know..." because they can't believe that the relationship that seems to be true love has been deceived by the other party. What can be done? manage? Leave? Not willing to give in; stay? How to stay? Force him to divorce? She still couldn't get rid of her dependence on him and chose to continue her life as a mistress. Women seemed to be weak emotionally. If they didn't love them, they would be fine. Once they fell in love, they would give up everything. When they learned that they were being mistressed, they would feel a mixture of love and hate. That was the first reaction in their hearts. Almost all: "Why did you lie to me?" We feel a little sympathy for these "innocent people", but we should also reflect on ourselves, why did we get mistressed? Is it really for no reason? The answer is: NO!

Let’s look at the experts’ analysis - the psychological characteristics of being easily mistressed

(Note: The following analysis comes from the psychologist Mr. Li Tao)

1. Having a love Girls with a father complex

Such a girl will easily have the qualities of her father in her future mate selection consciousness, such as tenderness, love, strength, accommodation, etc. They like to be in front of their father The feeling of acting coquettishly and doing whatever they want, and the man they want to seek usually has a family, so they involuntarily become the third party for no reason.

2. Girls who are strong on the outside but capable on the inside, and girls with extremely low self-esteem on the inside are prone to become third parties

Girls with extremely low self-esteem lack self-confidence on the inside and tend to be passive towards relationships. They cannot believe that their charm is enough to win a true love. , often use their victory in the battle to cover up their inner inferiority.

3. Aggressive girls who are the same on the outside are also likely to become the third party in marriage

This type of girl is not only in her studies or work, but also in her life. When it comes to choosing a mate, they all prefer or are used to competing with others. They can always imagine their opponents in their minds. Comparing and struggling, they still enjoy a kind of inexplicable happiness. They think it is a sense of accomplishment, but they don't know that in the end, they have also been involved in the struggle.

4. Utilitarian and impetuous people

Needless to say more about this, their profit-seeking nature makes them easy to lose themselves, so they cannot resist the temptation of interested people and become other people's mistresses. .

Editor: Girls, raise your heads, have enough confidence in yourself, build up your self-confidence, show your charm, and strive to be self-reliant, self-confident, and self-reliant. It’s unfortunate that you were told by a mistress. It doesn’t matter, keep your eyes open. Raise your head, bravely put aside the past, end this ridiculous relationship of yours, and don't let your feelings continue to be "bad".

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