Recently, the latest issue of "Yueji" magazine in the United States invited a number of American sexology experts to comment and guide different sexual frequency.

Once a night

Expert comments: I admire your extraordinary energy, but don’t “have sex for the sake of sex” and ignore emotions. John Gagnon, professor of sociology at the State University of New York at Stony Brook, suggests that in the past month, pay attention to the time and frequency of sex, and discuss with your partner whether the frequency of sex is appropriate, and strive to satisfy both the physical and mental aspects. .

Twice a week

Expert comments: This is the "standard sex frequency" that many people stick to, but Dr. Eric Jensen, an expert at the Institute of Sexology at Indiana University, said, This is actually not scientific. The truly scientific frequency of sex is determined based on physical needs and the emotions of both parties. After a couple has lived together for a long time, the frequency of sex will form a habit, and it is easy to become more form than substance. At this time, couples should learn to break the routine, such as changing the fixed time and place.

Two or three times a month

Expert comments: If both of you accept this frequency, then don’t worry too much. Mary Urapini, a psychosexual therapist in Houston, USA, said that for some couples, quality trumps quantity in their sex life. Especially after the age of 40, a quality sex session is better than daily passion. Activities such as learning new things and going on adventures together will bring the couple closer together, improve intimacy, and make sex happen naturally.

Once a month

Expert comments: When a couple only has sex once a month, both parties need to have a frank sex conversation. Experts point out that at this time it is likely that one party has a physical or emotional problem, but the relationship between the couple can still be maintained. Both parties should solve the problem through communication, such as the wife making greater efforts in sex and the husband being willing to lower his sex requirements.

A few times a year

Expert comments: Mary Urapini said that low sexual desire at this time may be the main reason. In fact, it is mostly men who suffer from sexual problems. There are many “causes” such as hormone levels, stress, etc. Men are often taboo about talking about their reduced libido because it is an integral part of "masculinity." In fact, regardless of whether men or women experience reduced sexual desire, they should face the reality and seek medical treatment in time.