In modern life, it is not easy to maintain a happy marriage. It is inevitable that couples will encounter some small frictions in their lives. Only by treating the noise as the spice of life will they live a happier life. In marriage, a woman should not be too dominant and should give her husband enough face. So how should women maintain a happy marriage? The following is a detailed introduction, come and learn about it.

Strength or weakness is not determined by words, a woman who is too smart is not cute

The kind of man that people despise the most is the so-called "wimp outside but a hero on the stove". That’s right, it’s okay for a good man to be incapable of making achievements, but to show off his power in front of his wife and children, what kind of hero is he? The same is true for women. In modern society, men and women get equal pay for equal work. It is normal to have some strongman demeanor in the workplace, but at home, you still have to maintain your true nature as a woman. Those clever things that know the beginning and the end, and those watertight logic should be spared in front of your husband.

Men are most afraid of women being scheming and too sharp. No matter how mature a man is, he hopes that the woman he loves will give him tolerance and understanding. He also hopes that she will have a childlike innocence and be able to get along with him innocently and truly. With this kind of "silly" woman, men feel safe and warm.

Private communication with family and friends is different from the workplace, and being too serious can make people feel boring. Try to show your smile to show that you enjoy relaxing and accept humor. Women's pure qualities are definitely advantages in the eyes of men, and they are also the best motivation for them to work hard.

Never misunderstand a man! The "stupid" used by stupid women that men like definitely does not refer to their IQ. A woman like that will become unattractive to men over time. The "silly" girls that men like are the kind of girls who look silly but have a lot of sense in their hearts. Men always have self-esteem or vanity, so those women who pretend to be smart and very exposed cannot capture the hearts of men; but women who are wise and foolish can charm men.

Treat your husband as the most important person in the family

I have heard too many stories about women who succeed in their careers but fail in their marriages. Strong women and highly educated women in society often become obstacles to a good marriage. Career is of course important, but don’t forget that women also have another important role - someone’s wife. Don’t say that you are alone outside, you are an indispensable backbone of the company. Even if your status is supreme, you have to know it. who you are. Maybe everyone has heard the following story, so let us review it again.

It is every woman's responsibility to understand her family role, maintain her husband's dignity and keep her husband's heart. Women who have successful careers and significantly improved social status should especially cherish women's unique nature and be good at helping their husbands reduce or eliminate unnecessary psychological distress.

Realize from the bottom of your heart that your success today is inseparable from the direct or indirect support and help of your husband. You must not take credit and be arrogant in front of your husband; even if your husband has some irrational words and deeds due to inner troubles, you should put yourself in his shoes and tell your heart. You should comfort, persuade and explain to your husband in every possible way, and try your best to make your husband believe that although you have a successful career, your role and status in family life and the relationship between husband and wife are still the same as before. The only difference is that you love and love your husband more. grateful!

She often confesses her inner difficulties and troubles to her husband, talks about all the pressures, hardships and embarrassments she encounters outside, and asks her husband to make suggestions and solve problems for her. Doing so can shorten the gap between husband and wife and shorten the psychological distance, thereby continuously enhancing the husband's sense of self-worth and reducing his psychological pressure.

Women are women after all, and success alone will not bring us real happiness. Only with a happy family and a loving husband can we find a sense of belonging in life. It is not difficult to get all this, the key is to let your husband know your attachment to him.

Please don’t overstep your authority when it comes to men’s matters

Nowadays, there are many capable women. They give orders and take charge of themselves at work. They are also in trouble at home and take charge of all matters, no matter how big or small. But husbands may not appreciate this kind of dedication. So the woman felt aggrieved: I gave my whole heart for this family, why does he still have so many opinions?

In married life, it is not enough to have a good character of hard work and no complaints. Men have different personalities, temperaments, and accomplishments. For women, when you choose marriage, you must at least have an understanding of your husband and have the mentality and ability to be a wife that meets your husband's requirements. Not all men like and adapt to the life of reaching out for clothes and opening their mouths for food. This will seriously damage their male self-esteem. Marriage is a tango between two people, and you need to think about how to dance it well. If you only dance to the beat of your own drum, you will inevitably get stepped on by the other person.

No matter whether a man looks strong or weak, in his heart he hopes that he can give women the sense of security they crave. He believes that it is natural to protect the woman he loves, and therefore women should also be submissive. Protecting the woman he loves is a bit of a man's vain self-esteem. If a woman shows her desire for a man's love and power, based on this alone, he will be willing to pay for her and will always be immersed in the wonderful feeling of being upright.

We spend our whole lives looking for a lover who suits us and form a stable and warm family. To a certain extent, respecting your husband means respecting yourself. Because respecting him means that you have made a wise and careful choice, that is, you have found a man worthy of your love and respect. On the contrary, if you disrespect him, it means that you have made a stupid choice and found someone who is not worthy of your love and respect.

Don’t expose your husband’s white lies

In a happy marriage, we not only need to be honest with each other and speak our innermost thoughts, but also need some white lies as emotional lubricants at certain times. For women, these lies are to encourage their gloomy husbands and add a bright color to their lives; for men, these lies are to protect their own image and appease their wives.

Men are strong and rational, and every adult male will maintain this feeling consciously or unconsciously. This is another layer of clothing for a man. As a wife, even if you know his details well, there is no need to expose him. Otherwise, an irritated man will defend his dignity with more lies and greater temper.

When a man lies for the sake of family peace, the most appropriate attitude for a wife is to be "confused." Men are almost always in trouble when it comes to concealing or expressing themselves. If a woman recognizes the truth, she can completely refute a man with a little research. But smart women are willing to believe and acquiesce in it. They do not criticize the piles of love promises made by men. Instead, they seriously seek the warmth and happiness of being loved. On the one hand, they pretend to be confused, but on the other hand, they appreciate the sweetness of love. If a wife can grasp the heat of this confusion, she must be the happiest and most intelligent.

Our Chinese character for "marriage", if taken apart, is the character for "女" and the character for " faint", which is very interesting. If women were not dizzy and confused, there might be no love and marriage in this world.

5 details of women to capture men’s hearts

1. Tasteful but not luxurious

Female friends love beauty, and they even go to the extent of being extravagant, especially in terms of clothing, skin care, etc. They will think that it is natural for men to give them gifts, so they will use many excuses to let men give them gifts. However, men will think that you are a luxurious, greedy person, a money worshiper, and a spendthrift.

In order for your man to be devoted to you, you must be a tasteful but not extravagant woman. When a boy gives you a gift, you should give it a 40% discount and then give it back. This will first dispel the wariness of many men and don't let them think you are a gold-digger girl. On weekdays, you can let him buy things that are very practical and can be recycled and discounted. You can also induce him to buy flashy but sentimental gifts to establish a romantic and innocent image of himself. In this way, even if he spends more money, he will be able to buy them. I don't think you are trying to make money. Slowly, he will be like a stock investor. The more he holds, the more reluctant he is to sell. At this time, if you give him a little something in return, he will continue to be lucky, continue to invest, and continue to cover his position. At this time, It’s your harvest period. If you want it to be flat, then it will be flat. If you want it to be round, then it will be round. Remember, the more a man spends on you, the less likely he is to leave you.

Of course, after you get married, you have to be a woman who manages the house. It's okay to be extravagant occasionally, but you must pay attention to the luxury.

2. Give him enough space

He didn't go home for dinner at night. He said he was going to socialize and be with friends. But you are skeptical. You think he is with other women, so you keep calling him and asking him where he is and who he is with...

Maybe, you will think that you are caring about him, but a man doesn't think so. He will find you very annoying. Originally, he was telling you the truth, but under your nagging, he made up an excuse at random and said: You deceived.

Don't let him find you annoying, give him some space. When he goes out to socialize, you can give him a call appropriately and ask him to go home early, saying that you have left soup for him, and telling him to be careful when he goes home. Such a thoughtful word makes a man feel warm in his heart. No matter how late it is, he will go home carefully because he knows that there is still a woman waiting for him at home.

It is very important for couples to maintain a certain distance. If you suffocate your man, he will hate you. Keep your feelings fresh for him. If he hangs out with you all day long, one day he will feel bored. If you let him do his own thing and spend 8 hours away or at night with you is enough, then your man will be tightly trapped by you.

3. When we quarrel, cook a meal together

They say it is easier to fall in love than to live with one another. When men and women get along together, it is inevitable that they will quarrel over trivial matters. In family life, it is important to be considerate of each other. You should always think more about each other, and when encountering conflicts, sit down and talk calmly.

If you have a quarrel, you can take the initiative to cook, so that both parties have a way to express their apology. Life is not about romance, it's all about trivial things. It's best to divide the work at home so that you don't quarrel over trivial things. Another point that is also very important is that both parties must have their own circle of friends, otherwise they will get bored if they are tired of being together all day long.

Cook a meal together or do something else together when you're arguing, and you'll find that the little conflicts between you will disappear before you know it. Don't underestimate these small details, they are enough to heat up your relationship.

4. Give him face

After getting married, many women treat their men as their private property, and they will always give him a slap in the face, throwing cups or benches, or they will just get angry and say nothing, play cold war, and run away from home in front of him without looking back. For more serious quarrels, you may curse and discipline him in public, without the gentleness of a woman at all, and looking bossy.

Men may be confused. You were so polite and gentle when you were in love, but why are you like this after we get together? Is this your true nature?

Men love face and have super strong self-esteem, so you must remember to never hurt a man’s self-esteem and always save face for him. If you don't give him face once in public, then even if you cook for him for a year, you won't be able to make up for it, and he may remember it for the rest of his life.

You must give him face when you are out. It doesn't matter if you let him coax you slowly after you get home. If you think about him like this, will he still leave you?

5. I need you

Men like you to lean against him and like to protect women. So you might as well say in front of him that you need him. Even if you don’t need it, you still have to actively create the illusion that you need him (of course it’s not an irreplaceable service, otherwise you’ll be passive). For example, one day, you were beaten by your mother and you went to him to cry and complain. At this time, there are many Men with low IQs will think that a good opportunity has come and that they can create a sense of intimacy with the other person in adversity. Let a man think you need him, which actually gives him a sense of security.

You often show your weak side in front of him, which can easily inspire a man's inner desire for protection. He will often remind himself that he cannot betray you casually or leave you, because he feels that you need him so much. If one day he leaves, then He doesn't know how you should live.

Your heart can be very strong, you can be a strong woman, but in front of a man, no matter how strong you are, you cannot show it all. You must show your weak side. Only in this way, your man will not leave you easily. .