Sex between husband and wife is an expression of deep emotions in an intimate relationship, requiring mutual cooperation and mutual satisfaction; enjoying the process and paying attention to each other's sexual feelings. Learning emotional expression and communication, cultivating delicate emotional sensitivity, and expressing one's own needs and feelings will help improve the physical and mental feelings of sex.

Touch: "touching" the emotion of beauty

The most important of all sexual sensations is touch. Graber's decision that the receptor in the center of the sexual system is the skin makes sense.

The total area of ​​adult skin is about 2 square meters, which is covered with nerve endings, which can transmit cold, hot, painful, itchy, soft, hard, sticky, greasy, dry, wet, slippery, rough and other information. Many touch sensations can bring about pleasant sensations, so they are closely related to sexual desire and sexual behavior.

Kissing and hugging can not only arouse sexual desire, but also serve as preparation for sexual intercourse. In fact, sexual intercourse itself is also a kind of touch. Generally speaking, women use and receive touch much more than men. Before marriage, it is often the man who takes the initiative to touch the woman, but after marriage, it is almost always the woman who touches the man first.

In love, the wonderful tactile harmony is the accompaniment, the sweetener. When a man and a woman in love touch, hug, kiss, and cuddle with each other, the joy brought by them will make both parties experience the beauty in their hearts and feel the deep love of both parties.

Touching is the most direct and powerful way to arouse sexual desire. It can not only touch the bodies of both parties, but also explore the inner world of both parties. The contact between soul and body makes both parties feel that they belong to each other without reservation, making the whole body and mind happy and fully understanding the true meaning of love. The nerve endings responsible for feeling and conducting touch are distributed differently in various parts of the body. The most sensitive part to sexual touch is called the erogenous zone or erogenous zone.

The primary erogenous zone refers to those parts with the most nerve endings, such as the genitals, male glans, female clitoris, buttocks, anus, perineal area, nipples, inner thighs, armpits, umbilicus, neck, earlobes, and mouth. wait.

Secondary erogenous zones refer to the parts of the body that become sexually meaningful through learning or training during sexual activities. For example, a couple agreed to grab each other's palms as a signal when they had sexual desire. Over time, the palms of their hands became powerful erogenous zones.

Generally speaking, women have more erogenous zones than men and have greater potential and development value. This is because women are touched more than men, and the female role prescribed by traditional culture is also more willing to be touched. The male erogenous zone is usually more concentrated near the penis.

Although touch is the most important sexual feeling, touch is particularly dependent on psychological emotions. If used improperly, it will produce uncomfortable feelings and disgust, and even destroy sexual desire and sexual behavior.

Men must pay special attention to this. They must be good at grasping the appropriateness during sex to avoid rejection in order to generate attraction. They must master the appropriate timing and method of use.

Vision: Beauty lies in “color”

"Beautiful eyes look forward to it, and it captures the soul." The most popular explanation of beauty is "good-looking". Eyes are the windows to the soul, and beautiful scenery is mostly based on good vision. Vision plays a special role in sexual desire, and it's no wonder that when men and women think about love, they often think about each other's looks.

Most of the beautiful things in nature are related to sexual behavior or sexual instinct. This conclusion is applicable to plants, animals, and humans. The crowing and feathers of the rooster can stimulate the urge of the hen to mate. Both of these things are pleasing to the eyes of ordinary men. When a peacock spreads its wings, it is a "phoenix courting the phoenix", sending out a message of courtship. Interestingly, most of the beautiful animals in the animal kingdom are males, while females play the role of appreciators, which is exactly the opposite of the situation in humans.

In the process of human evolution, vision gradually replaced the status of other senses and became the most important function for receiving impressions from the external world. Because of this, the ancients used "lust" and "lust" as pronouns specifically referring to things related to sex. If translated into modern Chinese, they are "xing" and "sexual desire".

The relationship between vision and sexual desire can be confirmed by blind people. The survey found that men who have been blind since childhood cannot feel visual stimulation. 52 of the 54 respondents were either impotent or had poor sexual function.

Male sexual desire is particularly easily stimulated by vision. If a man sees a naked beauty, his heartbeat will increase, his breathing will increase, and his penis will become erect.

It is a sexual response that involves three elements studied in psychology: the individual, the stimulus, and the response. This explains the real reason why pornographic materials, such as erotic photos, nude paintings, obscene books and periodicals, and pornographic videos, aimed at stimulating male sexual desire, have been repeatedly banned and banned for a long time.

Female secondary sexual characteristics, especially protruding breasts and wide hips, are important factors in visual stimulation for men. This includes affirmation and praise of female fertility. "Women only look good to please themselves." Women express their plump breasts and wide pelvis through clothing, which highlights women's sexiness.

The movement posture of the body is also an important visual stimulation factor. Many of the dances of primitive people have sexual connotations. Although modern dances are not as provocative, they do show the charm of girls' bodies.

Human body beauty is mainly reflected in women, which is an object that men will never tire of admiring. What women appreciate is the physical and inner strength of men. "An ugly man marries a beautiful wife" reflects that women mainly achieve this through visual impressions related to sexual contact.

Hearing: the tenderness of hearing

Hearing is an advanced area of ​​human intellectual development, second only to vision in physiological and psychological functions. During sexual activity, hearing plays an important role in sexual arousal. There is an interesting phenomenon of vocal selection in the animal kingdom, where males are usually endowed with musical talents. Therefore, during the courtship period, this musical talent is fully utilized and is an important means to attract the opposite sex.

"The Book of Songs·Guan Sui" says: "A fair lady is accompanied by the music of harp and harp", "A fair lady is played by bells and drums". The groom plays the harp and harp to get close to the bride, and uses the bells and drums to make her happy.

The listening effect produced by music is unique in stimulating the emotions of men and women. Zhang Sheng admired Yingying with the piano, and Sima Xiangru entertained the newly widowed Zhuo Wenjun with "Feng Qiu Huang", which are all clear proofs of the role of music in love.

Human evaluation development has an element of sexual activity. Swedish phonetician Sperber believes that sexual behavior is the source of speech production. This makes quite a bit of sense.

He believes that there are two situations that can cause instinctive calls in people and cause echoes; one is the cry of a baby when it is hungry, and the mother will feed it with breast milk after hearing it; the other is a man who is in a state of sexual excitement. A voice that calls out and a woman hears it and responds.

Some people have even suggested that the human sense of rhythm mainly comes from the most basic human activity of sexual intercourse. The difference between men and women is that the sound is transmitted to each other's ears, which can cause sexual stimulation in people who are in love.

As Field points out in "The Ideal Marriage": "The voice of love is a magical substance, and its power in the 'lover-the listener' never diminishes, even when the voice is heard on the phone , will also be evoked by memories of all kinds of tenderness.

The role of hearing in sexual activities cannot be underestimated. Whispering before and during sexual activities is essential to promote sexual excitement.

Once you enter the orgasmic stage, the meaning of the language becomes ambiguous, and all that is left is a passionate language, intonation, and it does not matter. When intoxicated by the language or the music of the lover's voice, a person Words that have nothing to do with sex can sometimes become factors that arouse strong sexual desire.

Shakespeare called music "the food of love." The special impact of music on sexual desire is mainly its rhythm and rhythm.

Sexual psychology research has found that music that describes sexual behavior will make most men and women sexually stimulated. Music that is female-initiated or female-centered is most likely to arouse sexual arousal. Educated women are more likely to be sexually aroused by music. excited.

Smell: smell wonderful things

When it first started, the sense of smell and touch were not distinct. The sense of smell was extremely important for the sexual selection and sexual activities of animals. However, in the process of evolution, the importance of the sense of smell for humans has been reduced. Although all men and women emit smell, But only in adolescence does the human body smell like an adult.

It is rare for smell to be the only factor at play in human sexual selection. Because this feeling is no longer driving, and pleasant body scent is often not strong enough.

In addition, the human sense of smell is slower than vision and hearing. In addition, the hygienic habits developed by humans remove and cover up their own smell. Strong-smelling substances such as perfumes and cosmetics further weaken the human sense of smell.

This is not to say that smell is dispensable or that smell is unimportant in sexual selection. Studies have found that certain substances in men's sweat can help women's reproductive systems stay in good condition.

Usually, the fragrance that women like is not the elegant fragrance, but the strongest and most sexy fragrance, such as musk, castoreum and ambergris, which are known as sacred spices.

The fragrance of flowers can affect the feelings of children and is a highly respected thing in love. It is common knowledge that male animals can recognize female animals through their sense of smell.

Human beings are no exception. The scent of millet flowers emitted by men and the delicate violet-like fragrance emitted by women can both make the opposite sex feel good and become emotional towards them. Women are extremely sensitive during the ovulation period. This may be a careful arrangement made by the Creator for the love of husband and wife and the reproduction of offspring.

Taste is a controversial and sensitive topic during sexual activity. But it is certain that the sense of taste is indispensable in sexual feelings. At least in some people's sexual activities, since humans evolved from beasts, there is no need to make a fuss about a little bit of "animal nature" left.

Anyone who has had sexual experience will notice that there is a very strong smell in the semen ejaculated by men. Some people are disgusted by it and say it smells terrible. Some people think it has a delicate fragrance and is said to irritate the heart and spleen.

Different mentalities are related to physiological and psychological factors such as the level of desire and the concentration of spiritual and physical integration between the two parties. The semen ejaculated by patients with prostatitis often cannot smell this smell.

We have long believed that odor may play an important role in human courtship. A group of scientists finally found evidence to prove this statement recently. The research results were published in the internationally authoritative "Nature" magazine in August 2006.

American scientists discovered olfactory "receptors" in mice, which are specifically designed to detect pheromones released by the opposite sex - a hormone that transmits sexual information. The gene for the receptor is also found in humans, which may prove that human courtship activities are indeed affected by chemicals.

Scientists discovered a receptor called TAAR in the nose of mice, which can detect chemicals in mouse urine, including chemicals that indicate stress and mating signals.

Humans and fish also have this receptor gene, and their courtship activities may also be affected by pheromones. Although it is believed that courtship activity is influenced by pheromones, no way has been found for humans to detect pheromones.

Overall, smell and taste play a fairly minor role in human sexual arousal. In fact, they are often intertwined and difficult to separate. What we call "smell" includes both of these factors.

Food and sex are so close that during sexual activities, men and women in love sometimes actually taste each other. For example, kissing, in addition to touch, also stimulates sexual desire through the communication of saliva with its special taste.

6 ways to enhance men’s sexual desire

Appropriate abstinence.

When they first get married, the sexual desire of both husband and wife will be relatively strong. At this time, do not indulge in sexual desire blindly. Proper moderation and regular sexual life will be of great benefit to maintaining the healthy development of sexual ability. People who pursue the frequency of sex excessively will greatly reduce the quality of sex, and the rate of loss of sexual desire will also be accelerated.

Alternate hot and cold baths.

This is a very ancient exercise method to enhance male sexual function, and it is best to exercise in summer. After bathing with warm water, lower the water temperature and allow the vagina to cool for 3 minutes. After the penis and scrotum contract, return the water temperature to normal and rinse, repeat 3 times. This can help men reduce sexual fatigue.

I often think about beautiful women.

Looking at beautiful women and thinking about beautiful women can promote the secretion of male hormones in men, and daydreaming about details can also play a role in increasing sexual sensitivity, making men quickly become "sexually aroused."

Get rid of bad habits.

Smoking, drinking, and staying up late are all fatal killers of sexual performance. If you want to maintain your sexual desire, it is very important to get rid of these bad habits.

Focus on heart health.

“Strengthening sperm must first strengthen the heart.” Sexual ability is closely related to heart function. If cardiovascular problems occur, you must seek medical treatment in time to avoid affecting sexual function.

Wear cotton underwear.

The choice of underwear is very important to men's health. The testicles need a low-temperature and ventilated environment. Therefore, choosing pure cotton underwear with good breathability can help men protect their sexual organs and reduce damage to their reproductive capabilities.