Three magic weapons for sexual intercourse between husband and wife

Traditional Chinese medicine believes that excessive lust can harm a person’s essence, energy, and spirit, and essence, energy, and spirit are the three treasures of a person. Improper and excessive sexual life is called excessive lust in traditional Chinese medicine. Excessive lust, in addition to often causing sexual dysfunction, is also an important factor in causing physical weakness, strain, and premature aging.

Because "jing" can generate "qi", and "qi" can generate "spirit", if you want to maintain your health, you should first protect your "jing". If the "jing" is full, your qi will be strong, and if your qi is strong, your spirit will be strong. If the spirit is strong, the body will be healthy, and if the body is healthy, there will be fewer illnesses. Internally, the five internal organs will be enriched, and externally, the skin will be moisturized, the face will be radiant, and the body will be strong. Therefore, health practitioners regard essence, energy and spirit as the three treasures, especially "jing".

To use essence as a treasure, you must first abstain from lust and desire. Predecessors have a lot of practical experience:

Sex skills that harmonious couples must know

A survey report shows that 46.7% of married people in my country sometimes change the way they have sex. 7.7% of people often change the way they have sex, and the two together account for more than half. There are probably far more couples who often try to change sexual positions. It should be said that more and more people now like to try to change sexual positions, and people's attitude towards doing so is also more tolerant. How to make a couple’s sex life more passionate and harmonious, here are some tips for women’s favorite caressing techniques and tips for passionate sex:

1. Use a variety of caressing methods

Touching hands, kissing lips, hugging each other, and rubbing ears and temples. All these ways of intimacy are called caressing. Therefore, caressing has an extremely wide range of activities. Lovers can use their hands, mouth, and Using a variety of caressing methods on any part of the body, including changing the intensity of caressing, will naturally bring people different novel enjoyment and help overcome sexual boredom.

2. Change the time, place and environment of having sex

You can have sex at any time 24 hours a day. Those couples who always have sex at night will occasionally have sex in the morning, noon or even other unexpected times. Having sex at the right time can make a dull sex life novel and interesting. Sexologists say that sex planned in advance often gives people expectations and can enhance sexual excitement, but in the long run it will make people feel monotonous, while sudden and unexpected love can bring more passionate and novel feelings. So combining the two situations is the smartest thing to do.

The place to have sex does not always have to be on the bed in the bedroom. For example, it can occasionally be on the carpet in the bedroom, or on the sofa in the living room, or even in the hallway, kitchen, aisle, or on a covered drying table. . Of course, if you can go to the beach, forest, villa, cabin or even your own private car to have sex without being immoral, it will naturally make people more romantic and passionate. Of course, changes in the lights, smells, sounds and temperatures of the sex environment will also bring new ideas to that warm and passionate moment.

3. Change sexual roles in sexual intimacy

Couples always have to play different sexual roles in sexual life, such as active, passive, aggressive and submissive Types of sexual roles, even men are like a kind and dignified father like a father, naughty and willful like a son, and women are like a mother like a mother who cares and caress her son in every possible way, and weak like a daughter , a delicate daughter-type character.

In long-term sexual interactions, both men and women may tend to focus on one sexual role. If the sexual role is deliberately changed sometimes, the man who is often active will become passive or submissive, and he will often be passive. If women become active or aggressive, they will definitely have more novel feelings and experiences.

4. Change contraceptive methods

Using different contraceptive methods will bring different sexual feelings to your sexual life, and changing these contraceptive methods can bring different new experiences. Couples who usually use condoms for contraception can try the feeling of external contraceptive cream, while those who use contraceptive tools can also switch to oral contraceptives for a period of time to see how they feel. Even if you have been using condoms for contraception, in addition to ordinary domestic condoms, you might as well try imported condoms or condoms with bumps, threads, scents and different colors. In short, only when there is change can there be novelty, and only when there is novelty can we avoid boredom.

5. Couples massage

In recent years, couples massage has become popular all over the world. Many illustrated books on couples massage have been published in European, American and Russian countries. This kind of couples massage integrates fitness, enjoyment and sex, which greatly enriches the content of couples' sexual life. It is a sexual lifestyle worth promoting.

There are actually many ways for couples to have sexual intercourse. Don’t attribute sexual intercourse between couples to the only mode of sexual intercourse. Many new ways of sexual intercourse will make our sexual life rich and colorful, and allow us to find ways to Get back the freshness lost in a single mode over a long period of time. This is what couples massage is all about.

Four pieces of advice from people who have lived in ancient times:

(1) Longevity is inseparable from sex life

Sex life is the normal nature of human beings, and normal sex life makes Men are happy and women are happy, and yin and yang are harmonious, which is beneficial to physical and mental health. "Zun Sheng Ba Jian" says: "The Yellow Emperor said that one yin and one yang are called Tao, and partial yin and partial yang are called diseases. Yin and yang are not in harmony, like spring without autumn, like winter without summer, so harmonizing them is to adjust the sage." There is no perfect way for people to be in harmony, but to be content with being closed and keeping their innocence. That is to say, sexual life between men and women is a normal physiological phenomenon (that is, being yin and yang) can make people feel bad, and even cause depression. All kinds of diseases. The way to a good life is not to have sex between men and women, but not to overdo it, so as to avoid excessive leakage of essence and energy, so as to preserve the innocent energy.

(2) Sexual life should not be too early

Confucius, a great thinker and educator in ancient my country, once said: "When you are young, your blood and energy are not yet determined, so be wary of sex." According to "Suwen?" "Ancient Innocence" discusses the physiological process of human growth and development and the important role of the kidney. When a man reaches the age of eight, the kidney qi begins to become abundant. At the age of 16, the kidney qi is strong. With the kidney essence as the material basis, Tiangui promotes reproductive function. When it is produced, the essence is overflowing and can be leaked out. When the two sexes have intercourse, they can give birth to children. However, if you rely on the strong blood energy at this time, have sexual intercourse too early, or even have an excessive sexual life, your essence and energy will be damaged. Like a flower in the garden, it will wither before it blooms. Therefore, "Four Essentials of Wan Family Health Preservation" points out: "Nowadays, men should be young, and when they are less than 28 years old, they should take care of women to pass through their semen. Then the semen will not be full and will be discharged first, and the five internal organs will be dissatisfied." , there will be difficult-to-shape diseases in the future", and pointed out that "the essence of the kidneys is insufficient, and it is taken from the internal organs. The head will be tilted, the feet will be weak, and the pain in the waist and spine will last for a long time." It means that having sexual intercourse too early will affect the growth and development of other organs and even cause various diseases. The famous gynecological monograph "Women's Complete Prescriptions" in the Song Dynasty said: "Although a man is sixteen and is proficient, he must be married at thirty; although a woman is fourteen and Tiangui (menstruation) is coming, she must be married by twenty." "Yin and Yang are complete If it is true, then you will get pregnant through intercourse, you will get pregnant and you will have a child who will be strong and live a long life..." From the perspective of eugenics and nurturing, it is proposed that sexual intercourse should not be too early, as well as the age of marriage and the benefits of late marriage. This is consistent with the spirit of the marriage age stipulated in my country's Marriage Law, which stipulates that men must not be earlier than 22 years old and women must not be earlier than 20 years old.

(3) Sexual life should not be overindulged

Many health-preserving literature in my country emphasizes that sexual life should not be overindulged. For example, "Sanyuan Counselor's Book of Life Extension" says: "Excessive worry will damage the essence. Life is a treasure, but body is a pity. Essence may be serious. If the liver essence is not solid, the eyes will be dizzy; if the lung essence is not sufficient, the muscles will become thin; the kidneys will lose weight." If the essence is not solid, the spirit will be reduced; if the spleen essence is not strong, the teeth will become loose and painful. If the essence is dissipated, disease and death will follow." It points out the harmful effects of excessive sexual indulgence on the body and internal organs. The book also points out: "The way of yin and yang, the semen is empty, be cautious and peaceful, and you will not grow old the day after tomorrow." It is believed that maintaining vital energy is one of the important measures to prolong life.

(4) Sexual life should be avoided

The ancients believed that entering the room after being drunk, having sex with others, angry, fearful, unhealed sores, new illnesses, etc. It can damage the body and even cause various diseases, so it should be avoided. For example, "Sanyuan Counselor's Book of Life Extension" says: "If you get drunk and enter the room, your energy will be exhausted and your liver will be damaged. The husband will have less semen and become impotent. The woman will have weak menstruation, accumulated bad blood, and malignant sores." In the chamber, the blood and gas are strained, overflowing and infiltrating into the large intestine, sometimes bloody in the stool, abdominal pain, the name of the disease is "intestinal dislocation"; "I try my best to have sex in anger, the essence and qi are exhausted, and carbuncle occurs; I enter the chamber in fear, yin and yang are deficient, convulsions and spontaneous sweating, Night sweats accumulate as a result of overwork." "If you are tired from a long journey and enter the room, it is due to the five kinds of fatigue." "The golden sores meet before they are different, and they move on the blood and Qi, and the golden sores are destroyed." "Those who endure urination and enter the room will suffer from gonorrhea and pain in the stem , the face loses blood color, or causes cell transfer, and death occurs due to acute pain below the navel." "Treatise on Febrile Diseases" also points out: "Severe diseases are new, the blood has not recovered, the residual heat has not been exhausted, and the yin and yang are strong, and the patient is called yin and yang Yi". Some of the above records still have practical significance today.