Flirting in the era of Weibo

At this dinner, I had to be cautious. Next to me on the left was a beautiful woman with a background in philosophy. She brought a PhD supervisor who was engaged in biological evolution. The woman on the right is a blogger celebrity right now. She coughs and clears her throat every morning and is always responded to on the Internet. The food is Cantonese cuisine, refreshing and delicate. While eating, we chatted. The topic was first about work, then national affairs. By the time we were waiting for dessert, we were heading towards love between men and women without hesitation.

Needless to say, love gossip is the greatest social lubricant of all time.

At the beginning, the biology professor was quite dissatisfied with my description of a relationship that had just ended, pointing out that I had made a big mistake of mechanical materialism. "Girl, according to you, the other person doesn't respond to your delicate side and likes to go straight to the subject. So you directly concluded that males from low to high are all highly purposeful animals, and you drew inferences about men's personalities. "That's the case." He felt sad and continued, "But have you ever thought that what makes humans human is that they are different from animals. Those ancient habits have been modified by modern society and have already undergone many changes. , you didn’t explore those possibilities.”

The female celebrity blogger was a little careless at first, but when she heard this, she was inspired. She put down her spoon and asked to speak: "I have had this trouble before. I had a dull boyfriend, and it often took more than 12 hours to reply to text messages. , I never remembered that I liked matcha cakes and purple underwear, and I even misremembered my age once."

The philosophical beauty nodded and smiled: "I seem to have encountered the same problem, and I once tried to use Plato to solve it. It was finally handed over to Schopenhauer."

I think any woman would "have the heart to kill" in this situation, but how will the blogger respond?

"The first thought was to kick him away, but this guy is really the one I like very much, and I am not willing to let him go easily."

Fortunately, when we are in a dilemma, having friends is like an angel. When the time comes, he reminds her: the lack of interaction with her lover can only be improved by changing the way of flirting. This is a question of to be or not to be, otherwise she will break up. Enlightened, she worked hard to investigate various feasibility between the two.

Flirting plays an important role in a relationship. I think this is a topic that needs to be reminded to everyone again and again. A lover who knows how to flirt will make the other person miss him many years later, while an ex who doesn't know how to flirt will be unrecognizable in his mind in a short time. As one of the most puzzling human behaviors, it is a technical activity that must be learned in an era of increasingly complex social relations. During the cave-dwelling period, mating did not need to be so troublesome. The man could achieve his goal by putting in a little effort to carry the woman back to the cave. However, with the expansion of the number of groups and the expansion of communication methods, both sexes have more space to choose a mate, which increases the uncertainty in the relationship. Women with the ability to give birth to offspring hope to obtain a way to get pregnant without risking their virginity. Flirting was born as a way to test a man's reliability (to raise offspring with him), prolonging the process of sex. Everyone knows that flirting makes people happy, and women get a feeling of being valued from it. Naturally, they want this process to be as long as possible. But in fact, except for a few Don Juan-like characters, few men can maintain their initial enthusiasm to the end. Don’t blame them for being utilitarian. According to Dr. Antonio Darmasio, a neurologist at the University of Iowa, flirting is actually very hard. For the brain, the area that tells you “that person is attractive” is in The limbic system - which governs people's emotions - is often out of control during flirting, which is like experiencing a brain injury. It's amazing! Therefore, dullness is probably a protective mechanism in men.

The blogger girl finally discovered that the place where her boyfriend regained his enthusiasm was Twitter. When they follow each other, naturally get each other's messages every day, respond or share witty and relaxed, without bothering to ask about trivial matters, they realize that flirting can be so simple. A word spoken intentionally or unintentionally can bring up a lot of thoughts, whether it is about jealousy, desire or rejection. The Internet, as the world's largest "flirting laboratory", has lowered the threshold for this technology and further changed its role and tasks.

“I often feel that I can occupy his spiritual world, even for a short while,” she confided affectionately. “Although he still mistakes matcha and cheese, violets and roses, he will also have sudden whims, and in Under the photo I uploaded, type "You are so beautiful" in Morse code."

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