They say it is easy to get married but difficult to get along. Everyone hopes that their marriage will be happy and smooth, but getting along is not easy. For this reason, I have summarized 5 points for you. Here are the secrets of how to get along between husband and wife. Let’s study hard.

1. Don’t make random suspicions

In a relationship, even if you are already familiar with each other, even if you feel that you know your lover's thoughts and feelings well, there will still be times when you make mistakes. In a marital crisis, this scenario often occurs: ghosting suspicions make both people angry, difficult to communicate, and eventually the relationship breaks down.

You might as well take a piece of paper and follow your intuition to complete the sentence "I guess my lover will ____ think of me (to me)". Then, verify the accuracy of your guess with your loved one. As a result, you will find that many of your guesses are wrong. When you have questions, the best way is to ask him directly.

2. Don’t take for granted what your lover does for you

No one should pay for anyone. We should express gratitude for what our loved ones have done for us instead of accepting it for granted. At the same time, we need to eliminate three major negative attitudes: a sense of entitlement, unrealistic expectations, and feigned forgetfulness.

Try writing down the big and small things your lover has done for you. Ask yourself if you have ever expressed gratitude for these things, and how. Keep expressing gratitude for a week and you will notice a change.

3. Don’t blame each other

In life, there will always be many problems. And it's so easy for us to blame each other. And when these words "It's all your fault!" "You asked me to do it, everything is a mess because of you!" When these words are spoken, they have already broken the other person's heart. Words such as "What responsibility should I bear" are rarely uttered. Complaints actually express accusations and threats, and the other party will naturally retaliate in kind, leading to an escalation of the conflict.

When you want to complain, please write down the words you complain about to your lover, then ask yourself, check your responsibility, and finally discuss and find a solution.

4. Don’t explain randomly

The understanding of your lover should be comforting, sincere, and from the heart. Instead of "I now understand why you are so picky, you are just like your dad." This kind of analysis that seems to understand the motivations of your lover's behavior will only lead to anger.

First understand the reason for your anger, learn to listen to your lover's point of view in an open and loving way, use non-verbal means such as eyes to let your lover know that you are listening carefully, and finally make constructive suggestions.

5. Don’t be afraid to say “no”

In sex, you have to be brave enough to say no, rather than blindly satisfying the other person. Perfect sex is about pleasing each other, not just satisfying one partner. So, during sex, if you don’t want to, be brave enough to say no. Sincere expressions will make your marriage closer and stronger.

Telling the truth can win the trust of your lover and deepen the relationship between husband and wife. Consider making a list, in order of difficulty, of all the things you are afraid to tell your loved one. After that, start with the simplest thing and try to tell your lover the truth.

3 principles to make marriage not "bitter"

Don’t be pretentious

In today's fierce social competition, not being able to fully reveal yourself is a way of survival. However, this way of survival does not apply between you and your lover.

If you still pretend to be hypocritical in front of your lover, instead of being honest with the other person, you let the other person guess. This can only mean one thing - you don't love him. If you live together for a lifetime, work hard all day, and guess you like riddles when you get home, and you have to keep a certain distance from you at all times, wouldn't that be wrong? Too tired?

Don’t have no bottom line

A woman without a bottom line of principles is a woman without dignity and charm. Such a woman often does not arouse the interest of men. Remember, this is not ancient times, and there is no need for "good wives and loving mothers" with no bottom line.

It’s different now. Women don’t need to rely on men for life, and they don’t need to compromise. A woman with a principled bottom line cannot tolerate other women sharing this man with her. A woman who has no bottom line of principles must be a woman who does not take dignity seriously, and will also be a woman without self. Do you think it will be miserable for a man to live with such a woman for his whole life?

Don’t be your parents’ good boy

There are many men and women who "obey" their parents without a trace of resistance. No matter it is big or small, they even have the final say on what socks to wear. Such people will not have a good marriage.

Such people live a relatively depressed life, have no self, and are even less likely to give their partner a happy married life. Therefore, whether you are a man or a woman, you must not be your parents' "good baby", let alone choose a partner who is like a "good baby". Otherwise, your marriage will always be under the control of your parents, and natural marriage will be impossible. happiness.

Experts point out that two people in a marriage need to be honest with each other, but without dignity or bottom line principles, let alone letting your marriage be controlled by your parents. Otherwise, it will not only affect the relationship between you, but also affect your harmonious sex life.