Many women don’t understand why men who are already in a stable and happy relationship can’t resist the temptations of other women; what exactly are these temptations? Let’s take a look at the top five temptations that men can’t resist.

She is his old girlfriend

An old girlfriend is an unspeakable temptation for many men. Surprisingly, men often want to rekindle their relationship with their old girlfriend just when they are about to enter another phase with their current girlfriend. For this phenomenon, psychologists explain that it has something to do with men's fear of commitment. On the other hand, an old girlfriend (especially a first love) always gives a man a special feeling. Therefore, if they behave in a slightly more intimate manner, the temptation will be easier to unfold.

She needs assistance and comfort

Classic scene: A married man seduces a single girl and says: "My wife doesn't understand me." It turns out that men are also subject to this trick. Faced with a woman crying for sympathy and understanding, a man's heart softens - and some even feel itchy. Another similar situation is that women seek spiritual comfort from men, such as broken love, family, financial problems, etc. The result is that women’s helplessness makes men have wild imaginations...

She is his colleague

There's no denying the dynamism that can arise when men and women work together because they have different perspectives. However, this professional spark can easily turn into an emotional spark!

In fact, getting along with female colleagues will never feel like an ordinary family life. In other words, if a relationship does not involve Credit card bills, household chores, it will naturally be more relaxing and enjoyable, especially when it brings a sense of freshness to regular life. It is not difficult to explain why men have ripples towards summer interns and female colleagues sent by branches to inspect business.

She is nowhere as good as you

Most women think that the temptations that men encounter come from women who are charming or even perfect.

However, surprisingly, many men are tempted by women who are less attractive and attractive than their girlfriends or wives. In fact, these women are not necessarily beautiful; but they are accessible and available. Do you idolize your partner? These women do - that's why men can't resist.

Many men say that some short-term temptations only make them feel that they are still attractive. As long as they persist and are not shaken by temptation, their relationship with their partner will become closer, which can be said to have a positive impact.

Little secrets that make men lose control

1. The foul language of a good gentleman

Man scene: He is recognized by everyone as a representative of the gentleman model, and his performance is as follows; he will always open the door for her considerately when she gets out of the car. He would dress neatly even when dining outdoors. He graduated from a prestigious school. His father was a senior official in a ministry, and his mother was a lady from a well-known family. She took this into consideration when she decided to marry him.

But one day, she witnessed his irritable behavior, which surprised her. She really didn't expect that "gentlemen can be crazy". Such a man will also curse a lot at some point. It was once when he was crossing an intersection and was about to pass a red light. A car suddenly jumped into the way. He braked suddenly. It seemed that unconsciously, he cursed at the driver who was leaving. He had no scruples and looked like an uneducated person. American western cowboy.

She was puzzled as to why a gentleman like him would use foul language?

His secret of losing control:

Samantha in "Sex and the City" once wanted to try what it felt like to have sex with a gentleman. She thought that this gentleman must be polite, gentle and considerate during sex, but she did not expect that the gentleman would suddenly curse at her after getting into bed. This surprised Samantha, but the other person was very sexually happy because of it.

Why do the most gentlemanly men use foul language when they lose control? The reason can be explored by looking at the American Western cowboy, a typical representative of the culture of foul language. Those cowboys like to use foul language to show their masculinity, and so do men in secular life. No matter how gentlemanly a man is, the cultural gene that speaks foul language to prove his masculinity has always been hidden in his heart. Although this gene is suppressed by the efforts to be a gentleman, once he gets the opportunity, it will come out of the cocoon. .

2. He suddenly burst into tears in front of many people

Man scene: He is a strong man and a representative of tough guys in everyone’s eyes. He is the Chinese version of Schwarzenegger, invincible. He was the chairman of a company and his employees had never seen him cry. To him, tears were a sign of weakness. He hates being emotional and feels that only a deep and cold man can look like a good man.

But one day, he suddenly burst into tears in front of many people. It was a regular company meeting. During the meeting, his secretary suddenly walked in and whispered a message to him. As soon as the secretary finished speaking, tears suddenly burst into his eyes. In front of everyone, he burst into tears without any hesitation. His expression frightened everyone. They later learned that the secretary brought the sad news that his grandmother had unfortunately passed away. At that moment, his true feelings were revealed, and his unconcealable sadness made him cry.

His secret of losing control:

Too many theories tell men not to shed tears easily. Over time, men themselves feel that crying is not a sign of a man. That's like pussies, they look down on men who shed tears. Society teaches that men should be serious and deep, and men are also restraining themselves according to such norms. But such norms gradually make men seem to have lost their emotions and become lifeless flesh and blood. In fact, after all, he is a human being of flesh and blood, and there are times when he needs to express his true feelings, so once something touches the critical point of his emotions, he may lose control and cry involuntarily.

This kind of loss of control is a good thing. To a certain extent, this kind of loss of control can make a man more approachable and make him healthier after venting his emotions. A man who has suppressed his emotions for a long time will live longer than the average person. short.

3. His violent behavior

Man scene: He is a university professor and well-educated. No one could imagine that he could be associated with domestic violence, but one day, he hit his wife hard. It was an ordinary quarrel, and his wife blamed him for coming home too late. He initially admitted his mistake, but in his later words, "My wife was really unreasonable." Their quarrel escalated step by step. At first he kept tolerating, but later he felt that there was no other way. The way to silence his wife was to use force. He hit her and slapped her. Both of them were stunned. His wife did not expect that he would hit her, and he did not expect that when he was a child, he hated his father's domestic violence the most, but after he became a husband, he actually repeated his father's old ways.

His secret of losing control:

Why do good men use force in family disputes? It should be said that many men must have hated these acts of violence after witnessing their fathers' violence against their mothers when they were children. But as adults, they unconsciously repeat the same mistakes. Psychological theory believes that this is because the more they grow up in an environment that lacks love from an early age, the less they learn to resolve disputes in a peaceful and loving way.

When they are calm, they may suppress their violent impulses and tell themselves that it is wrong to beat their wives, as this will make others hate them even more. But subconsciously, they still feel that violence is the best way to solve problems. Although many men who have committed violent acts report that after the first punch, they themselves did not believe that they would do such a thing.

4. A good man’s one-night stand

Man scene: He is a good husband in the eyes of his wife, and he is a good father in the eyes of his children. He is gentle, considerate, family-oriented, and even maintains the rare good habit of paying wages on time. He likes to take a walk with his wife after dinner. He has no romantic affairs. In the eyes of others, he is a good man who is hard to find even with a lantern.

But once on a business trip, his friends encouraged him to have fun with a young lady. Those buddies were hugging each other. He originally wanted to resist, but he felt that he was losing face and was not like a man. The key is that the lady with blurry eyes looked as alluring as a snake, and he couldn't help but feel a little distracted. As a result, he got into her bed.

That was the first and only time he had an affair. Afterwards, his wife could not believe that her husband, who was always upright in her eyes, could do such a thing.

His secret of losing control:

Why would a so-called good man be obsessed with a young lady? This has something to do with men’s prostitution culture. Surveys by sociologists have found that some men don’t want to get lost in sensual places, but if his buddies do it but he doesn’t, it will make him feel stressed: First, he doesn’t look like a man. --Most men regard this behavior as a sign of masculinity; secondly, he feels that he has a sense of loneliness, and he does not want to be outside his circle of buddies or be looked down upon by his buddies because he does not engage in prostitution -- A man's greatest fear is to be abandoned by his group.

The loss of control in sensual places is also related to the man's separation from his wife and some moral supervision. Once a man leaves a familiar environment, his so-called sense of indulgence will be particularly strong. This is also the reason why most men who go on business trips tend to lose control.

5. He suddenly became unreasonable at the wine table

Man scene: A group of friends were partying and he drank too much. Only she knew every time that he drank too much, which not only caused trouble, but also hurt his body. So, she went to persuade him. But men tend to use wine to express their passion. After three glasses of wine, he became drunk and insisted on testing his drinking capacity with his buddies. Her girlfriends encouraged her to take care of her husband. She couldn't lose face in front of her girlfriends, so she took her husband's wine glass and prevented him from drinking any more. Her actions made his buddies boo, saying he was afraid of his wife. The most important thing for a man is face. How can he lose face in front of his buddies? He took advantage of the alcohol and insisted on drinking. Not only did he drink, he also pushed her away with one hand to tell her to mind her own business.

As you can imagine, she and he got into a fight. One wanted to win the other's wine glass to prove his "taming skills", while the other wanted to win back the right to drink and prove a man's dignity, but they met again. A bunch of people started booing her, and a shocking scene happened. He yelled at her, "Get out of here!"

His secret of losing control:

If a man has a good face, he may be a good husband who can get down on the ground and ride on you at home, but outside, he must prove that he is a man who can stand upright. This is about dignity and has nothing to do with whether he loves his wife or not. Therefore, persisting in persuading someone to drink may seem like a small matter, but in his opinion, it may be a major matter that hurts his face. Therefore, the more insistent his wife is, the more stubborn he will be. At this time, his loss of control was an act to prove his face. Although he might apologize to his wife with a few days of self-punishment afterwards, at that moment, he must use his loss of control to prove that he was good.

This is very difficult for women to accept. A smart wife should know not to challenge his so-called face issues at that time. You need to let him take advantage of the situation to prevent him from really losing control.

6. He suddenly doesn’t want to work anymore

Man scene: This is something that happened in the United States: He was a bus driver and worked hard for most of his life. In the eyes of everyone, he loves his work and is a model worker. For decades, he has been on his own route, rain or shine. But one day, he did something amazing: for the first time, he did not follow the original route. He abandoned the passengers rebelliously, drove the car to a small river, and faced the swarm of bees. As a media reporter, he said proudly: He hates norms and immutability, and feels that today he finally lives for himself.

Are there many people like this bus driver in life? One day, he suddenly gave up his job. He wanted to resign and go to Tibet. In short, he was like a naughty boy who suddenly wanted to throw away all his responsibilities, abandon his family, and forget about his wife, children, and children.

His secret of losing control:

A man lives a tiring life, with seniors and juniors, so from his youth, he may not have a self. He has given up his ideals and passions and lives for the word "responsibility." For the sake of responsibility, he looks conscientious on the outside, but in his heart he longs for freedom, relaxation and freedom.

As the saying goes, things must turn to their extremes. The heavier the responsibility and the burden on one's body, the stronger the repressed self and resistance. We can often see this typically in middle-aged men. In a study analyzing why middle-aged executives in the IT industry frequently change jobs, experts said that this is a manifestation of middle-aged men's desire to return to themselves.

He was very tired from the responsibility. One day, he suddenly started acting like a willful, out-of-control adolescent. He wants to find the dream he had when he was young, he wants to get rid of his responsibilities and relax for a while. His loss of control is an explosion of pressure. At this time, as a wife, you might as well forgive him and give him appropriate support.