In modern life, there are more and more leftover women, because most women’s aesthetics have improved, and their standards for choosing a mate have also improved, resulting in them becoming leftover longer and longer. Often these leftover women have their own reasons, and they feel that these are all reasons for being left behind. So what are some silly excuses for not having a boyfriend? Do you want to understand women’s sexual psychology? Follow the editor below to take a look at the excuses that women give when they can't find a boyfriend.

1. She is resigned to her fate Reason: “I can’t meet my other half”

Behind the reason: She was right. She didn't meet the right person. Because she was unwilling to take risks, she had already told herself that she would lose before going to the battlefield. She refuses to face the dangers that relationships may bring. Her rejection of feelings is a cover-up for her lack of self-confidence.

Moreover, if someone persuades her to start a relationship, she will quickly admit: "No matter what, I am a loser!" What kind of mother does such a self-deprecating woman have? Is her mother saying more often: You can only find a man if you lose weight, stop cutting your hair, become more feminine, and go out to more social situations? Or does she begin two-thirds of her sentences with "my poor daughter?" In order to get out of the pain of self-abasement, a resigned woman may switch from "I am a waste" to "All men are waste". Oh, this is exactly what my mother often said!

How to overcome this fear? Start learning to be confident and aware of your self-worth.

2. As a female warrior, her reason: "Men are afraid of me"

The reason behind it: Of course men are afraid of her because she is strong and confident. No one saw that there was a hurt and crying child inside her. What childhood trauma was she trying to repair as she grew up? What was she resisting? Is it a father, grandfather, brother, boss or ex-boyfriend? Did she see her mother being humiliated so many times that she secretly resolved not to repeat the same mistakes?

Precisely because she rejects the hopes and needs of a love life, she has to make herself more independent. She wants to be in charge of her own life, and she doesn't think anyone can live up to her expectations. Some people may say that she thinks too highly of herself. But in fact, she has been hovering between inferiority and arrogance.

How to overcome this fear? What we need to understand is that before we can conquer men, we must first become our own masters. We must face up to our past.

3. She is independent Reason: "I love my freedom"

The reason behind this: She is busy with work, fitness, seeing exhibitions, attending concerts, meeting friends, and vacationing. But she didn't have a minute to herself. Where in her schedule does she have time for a man? In fact, she makes her life so fulfilling precisely to leave no room for men to have a place in her life.

Where does this extreme desire for self-control and fear of losing control come from? Most likely, her parents like to give orders, always judge her actions, always criticize, and always look at her with scrutiny. If she couldn't say "no" to this kind of scrutiny when she was a little girl, then she won't be able to face men when she grows up. So she chose to close herself off, leaving no gaps.

4. Romantic She Reason: "I'm waiting for the most suitable person"

The reason behind this: She has not grown up as a romantic, and still thinks that she is a superman who can get whatever she wants. She may appear intelligent, capable, and sane in many areas. But once she faces emotional problems, she becomes "blind"! She is waiting for her Prince Charming at the top of the ivory tower. Her fears lie behind romance and pure love. But her life is a challenge to the ordinary.

Unfortunately, she will keep waiting because if she doesn't take the step, no one will come to her. Especially when she doesn't accept the reality that Prince Charming is never a real person, and people all make mistakes, just like herself.

How to overcome this fear? Let’s face it: Go to the cinema alone or chat on a dating site.

5. Plato’s She Reason: “I don’t like sex”

The reason behind this: She likes her job and has many friends around her. All in all, she knows how to manage interpersonal relationships, provided of course that it does not involve sex. What she is afraid of is not love but sex. Many women don't realize this. Before, anyway, she had been able to face this fear in the arms of her partner.

Nowadays, celibacy has been accepted by everyone, and she simply adopts this form to avoid sex. As time goes by, her fear of sex will gradually deepen. At least today's "sexualized" society cannot make her feel comfortable. Additionally, she worried that she would not be able to enjoy sex, which trapped her in an "abnormal" state.

How to overcome this fear? Improve your body's sensory abilities through dance, movement and body therapy.

Warm reminder: The above editor introduces to you five silly excuses for women not to find a boyfriend. I believe you have understood them all! In life, female friends must not blindly pursue romance and miss their own happiness.