Most of the imperfect marriages in the world are caused by disharmony between husband and wife. Disharmony between husband and wife can easily produce dissatisfaction, loss, worry, resentment and other emotions, and ultimately conflict. Unable to resolve the road to strangers. Therefore, if you want a happy marriage, you must ensure harmony between husband and wife. So, how can we ensure harmony between husband and wife?

A famous American psychologist summarized the psychological needs of human beings and concluded that harmony between husband and wife must satisfy the five psychological needs of both parties.

1. The need for respect

People have self-esteem since childhood. Once it is damaged, it will be painful. If you are respected, you will feel gratified and satisfied. Mutual respect and trust between husband and wife are the basic guarantee for deepening love and success in career. Any reprimand or belittling that belittles your loved one will damage your partner's self-esteem.

2. Hobbies and emotional needs

Everyone has different hobbies, so we should try our best to meet each other's psychological needs and provide convenience for each other. Emotional needs are centered on love, and lasting love will bring the other party the greatest psychological satisfaction. Otherwise, a sense of loss will arise spontaneously, and dissatisfaction, worry, and resentment will follow.

3. The need for communication

Society is the source of the joy of life. The practice of not allowing the lover to interact with others not only fails to ensure the exclusive love, but also destroys the other person's psychological balance, makes the other person tired of family life, and becomes disgusted with the lover. The result can only lead to the breakdown of the marriage.

4. The need for autonomy and performance

Everyone wants to act according to their own thoughts and will. This is the need for autonomy. Everyone hopes to express themselves in front of others, use their talents as much as possible, use their wisdom to create considerable results of labor, and satisfy their performance psychology. Husbands and wives should always use words or actions to make each other happy, surprised, and fascinated, and then appreciate themselves.

5. The need for catharsis

When your lover is unhappy, he always wants to find someone to talk to and express his feelings. The object of this kind of catharsis is of course one's lover, and both husband and wife take each other as the best person to vent their feelings to. Therefore, neither party should blame the other party for being narrow-minded or nagging the other party. Instead, you should take the initiative to accept the other party's venting, and further comfort and guide them to relieve their inner pain, so that the other party can be freed from inner conflicts and establish a new psychological balance. In this way, the inner pain will disappear and the relationship between husband and wife will be further strengthened.

Editor’s note: If a couple wants to achieve heart-to-heart and intimacy, they must understand the psychological needs of both parties. Only when the psychological needs of both parties are met can a marriage be harmonious and happy.