Remember, there is a saying that perfect sex is the most important component of a happy marriage, and a happy marriage is the protective circle of perfect sex. Fully agree with this. In marriage, we will always encounter many problems and trivial matters, some of which we cannot adapt to and handle, which eventually lead to the separation of lovers. And some people can solve problems very well and make the relationship between husband and wife more consistent and stronger.

In our extensive consulting practice, we have found that there are five major hidden dangers in marriage, which are the most dangerous. The five major hidden dangers are control, care, respect, commitment, and loyalty.

Control and Counter-Control

Control and counter-control are the most disputed issues between couples. It is like an invisible bomb. It usually happens like an explosion beneath some seemingly safe, flat patch of ground, catching us off guard. There are often people who have experienced this and tell us sincerely: In a marriage, it doesn’t matter whether a man is the head of the house or a woman is the head of the house, but both must not compete to be the head of the house. That will lead to chaos. This also explains the concept of power and control. question.

Care

Family trivial matters are another cause of quarrels between some couples. In fact, in fact, the superficial issue in the quarrel is housework, but the hidden issue is that one party longs for the other party's care. When he cannot feel the other party's concern for him, men tend to be more closed and withdrawn, while women tend to pursue their husbands. Hit hard.

Respect

No matter who you get along with, respect is the first condition. The desire for respect is an important part of people's emotional needs, which is reflected in marriage, such as "Didn't you hear what I said?" "You didn't listen to me at all!" "Have I talked all this time in vain?" Clearly, he or she is fighting for the right to respect.

Commitment

A happy marriage requires a sense of security. The promise is like a reassurance. This is particularly important for couples who have experienced unsafe marriage changes. A sense of security is often the foundation for remarried couples to establish and maintain their marriage, and the wedding ceremony is one of them.

Loyalty

Fidelity, a topic that we take as a vow when we get married, is rarely brought to the table for discussion by couples. Because discussing this issue itself is full of suspicion and trial, the result of not discussing it is to generalize and expand the issue, leading to negative interpretations of "disloyalty". Looking at the five major focuses in marriage, what will be our thinking about love?

When a person understands too little about marriage and love, he will not be able to deal with various problems in marriage; when he understands too much, he will lack expectations and a harmonious life will be easy to achieve, but the joy, passion and enjoyment in marriage and love There are correspondingly fewer things. Therefore, marriage is a science that requires us to continue to learn and understand.

A harmonious sex life is a solid backing for marriage

If love is the cornerstone of marriage, then sex life is the solid backing for maintaining the sexual happiness of a couple. Because sex life is an act of raising inner love to physical friction. Only with love can there be sex. A harmonious sex life can make love sweeter and warmer, and perfectly integrate the body and soul of a couple, so that they can grow old together.

Sex life is a way of communicating feelings

If couples lack cordial and friendly emotional communication, loneliness will arise spontaneously. And sex is the best way to communicate. Some scholars have found that if one spouse devotes all his energy to work. And neglecting to care about your spouse will result in your spouse becoming indifferent to the sexual relationship between the couple. Whenever possible, new sexual relationships are sought. Sex life between husband and wife is the bond that maintains the love between husband and wife. It is not only physical collision and friction, but also accompanied by emotional communication.

A colorful sex life makes marriage happier

A colorful married life requires the addition of fresh elements, but material things are too vulgar and cannot meet emotional and physical needs. Therefore, a rich sex life is key. After a few years of marriage, the passion of some couples begins to cool down, and there is no longer a mysterious temptation for each other physically and mentally. If the couple cannot explore and find a new and more satisfying way of life, some people who are unwilling to be lonely will look for outsiders. moment of joy.

Therefore, if you want to maintain a happy marriage, you must enhance the passion and fun of your sexual life and keep it wonderful, warm, and happy for a long time. Such couples are the sweetest and most loving.

Reach a harmonious sexual life consensus

Although the couple lives together, their understanding and acceptance of sex are different. When the sexual desire and needs of two people deviate too much and are not properly adjusted, problems will inevitably arise. Therefore, couples must reach a sexual life formula. The strong partner must control himself, and the cold partner must improve himself, so that the sexual life is in a balanced state.

Husband and wife should communicate frequently about sexual life, treat it with a rational attitude, innovate it with emotional ideas, and use sex life as a tool to maintain happiness, so that each other can experience each other's love in it. Only in this way can Ensure harmony between husband and wife.