Most couples look forward to being parents and long for children to add fun to their marriage. But the arrival of a new life is an important period in a marriage, which will change the structure of the marriage and require both parties to adapt to new roles. While having a baby, neither husband nor wife should forget to meet the needs of their partner.

After three years of marriage, Jiaqi and his wife finally welcomed the fruit of their love. After the baby was born, Jiaqi did not feel happy. She said: "When I first fell in love and got married, I felt that my husband was very responsible and kind to me. Therefore, I always thought that he would be a good father. But the birth of the child changed my perspective. He said he loved the child, but he didn't He rarely takes the initiative to change diapers and feed the child. Sometimes he says that it is better for two people to live together, because the child is too troublesome. "Jia Qi's problem exists in many young couples.

Due to pregnancy, the wife’s body and mind grew along with the fetus, and gradually transformed and adapted to the role of mother. Although a man knows from a conscious level that he is going to be a father, due to the lack of physical changes and lack of psychological adjustment, he is still only immersed in the role of "husband" on a sensory level. After the child was born, the husband did not really feel like a "mother". Therefore, we say that the mother's role is natural and the father's role is artificial; the mother has a strong sense of responsibility for her children, while the father is slightly less aware. The result of this difference may be that mothers devote all their energy to their children. Although the husband is also happy and hardworking, he still longs for his wife's attention and caress.

This kind of asynchronous role change causes both parties to ignore each other's feelings and needs. If there is no good communication, it will cause misunderstandings and suspicions. Just like Jiaqi, she thinks her husband doesn't care about her. The husband feels that after having a child, he is no longer important in his wife's mind. Therefore, this is also one of the periods when men are most likely to cheat.

During the period of pregnancy and the birth of a child, both husband and wife need to beware of "marital hazards" that may arise unintentionally. If this issue is not handled well, it may become a trigger for divorce many years later.