In the minds of women, love is the main psychological factor that triggers sexual desire. Her husband's passionate love and tenderness for her, as well as his undivided consideration and concern, are often more important than satisfying sexual desire. Therefore, the depth of the relationship between husband and wife is the basis for the strength of female sexual desire. Only a sex life based on love can bring true happiness.

Women's psychological state during sexual life is much more complex than men's. When a certain sexual desire occurs and there is a desire to have sex in the heart, sometimes the inner passion cannot be fully expressed. Instead, there is shyness, rejection, or the opposite expression. Giving the other party an illusion, such women often hold a repressed attitude towards their sexual desire. In their psychology, it is somewhat caused by the negative sexual conditioning caused by traditional old ideas. They believe that too much exposure of their sexual requirements will be regarded as frivolous and lewd behavior. Women with this kind of mentality are prone to sexual frigidity over time.

The unpleasantness that occurs in daily life also has a great impact on women’s sexual desire. Difficulties or carelessness at work, excessive family pressure, illness, children's education, husband and wife quarrels, and some unexpected events in life can cause women's emotions to fluctuate greatly and distract them. The sexual desire is suppressed and sexual sensitivity is reduced. Especially when there is a rift in the relationship between couples, it is common for sexual desire to decrease, and it does not return to normal quickly.

From the perspective of the process of sexual impulse generation and development, women develop it more slowly than men. Therefore, women need a preparation stage in their sexual life. The length of this stage varies from person to person. Otherwise, it will be difficult for women to reach climax and sexual satisfaction, and they will gradually develop a sense of sexual disgust.

There are many objective factors that affect the occurrence of female orgasm, such as poor living conditions, unsafe environment, noisy beds, multiple generations living together, excessive indoor light, and external noise, etc., which can significantly reduce women's sexual desire. Excitement, delaying the arrival of climax or not having climax, especially for unwanted sexual life.

Among the factors that stimulate female sexual excitement, physical touch is often stronger than visual effects. Especially when the sexually sensitive areas of the body are touched, the sexual stimulation becomes more intense.

When stimulating women's sexual desire, sweet and friendly verbal conversations are also a great sexual feeling for women, especially when they are busy with housework, nervous at work, or encountering things that make their mood low, understanding and exciting conversations , is the greatest satisfaction. Comfortable verbal communication can improve and induce sexual desire, and fully enjoy the warmth of love.

9 sexual issues that women are most concerned about

Question 1: Do we have too little sex?

The survey shows that the average number of people in the world who have sex per year is 103 times, and the Chinese have 96 times. If you care too much about this data, the answer is probably "yes". In fact, the key question is not how often to do it, but why it takes so long to do it. In these days when we are stuffed to the brim and out of breath, the reduction in the frequency of sex actually has little to do with sex itself.

Question 2: Do others take longer to have sex than us?

The sexual descriptions in porn films or novels can be regarded as "sex marathons". If compared with this, the men around us may have premature ejaculation, but the truth is that the individual differences in sexual intercourse time are very large, about 2-15 minutes or so.

If the intercourse time is relatively short, you cannot conclude that you have premature ejaculation. Consider removing the pressure from your body first. In addition, sometimes changing positions can also help so that the stimulation to the penis is not too strong. In terms of age, younger men will finish faster, but as they grow older, their experience and skills have improved, and they are better at controlling time.

Question 3: The clitoris is too small, does this affect orgasm

If someone says to you: "Your nose is small, it will affect your olfactory function." You will definitely laugh at him. The same goes for the clitoris, size has little effect on the ability to experience orgasm. The clitoris becomes congested, swollen, and significantly enlarged after sexual arousal. Many women need to stimulate the clitoris to reach orgasm, so they believe that orgasm is only related to the clitoris. In fact, when orgasm occurs, the uterus, vagina and the entire pelvic muscles will undergo a series of rhythmic contractions, so there is no need to focus on the clitoris. .

Many scholars believe that the largest sexual organ is the brain, which is especially important for women.

Question 4: Is it shameful to fantasize about other men during sex?

Sexual fantasies are very common. Experts point out that when you fantasize about a handsome guy during sex, if you forcefully drive him out of your mind, the quality of sex will undoubtedly be compromised. Especially for some people, sexual fantasies can help increase sexual pleasure, and can also help you discover what excites you most, so you can try some new ways in your sex life.

Question 5: Is the private part really that important in foreplay?

The private parts of both men and women are extremely rich in nerve endings, and touching them can definitely help stimulate sexual desire. Sex therapy experts suggest that during sex, both men and women should gently caress these extremely sensitive areas as if they were babies, and the movements must not be rough.

Question 6: Will trimming women’s pubic hair make men more interested?

There is no conclusion on whether this is good or bad. Some men feel that they feel better during sex after shaving their pubic hair, while others feel that there is no difference. Generally speaking, men are more or less fresh and exciting, and may be more willing to try new ways of having sex.

Question 7: Why does the vagina make a sound similar to spanking during sex

Vaginal blowing, also called "vaginal blowing", is caused by the penis pressing air into the vagina during sexual intercourse. When the gas is discharged, it will make a sound similar to fart. This moment is embarrassing, especially if it's your first time. when. In the past, there was a view that this meant that women's vaginas were loose, but now some experts have put forward a new view. If vaginal blowing occurs, it at least means that the process of sexual life is pleasurable, because this situation usually occurs when the vagina is very lubricated. .

Question 8: Why is it always not wet enough down there

Not enough moisturization is also a problem that many women find confusing. This is a common problem for women who are going through menopause because estrogen levels in the body are declining. Appropriate estrogen supplementation or the use of lubricants is a simple and feasible solution. If a young woman encounters this problem, it may be that she is not excited enough or has not been excited for long enough. However, it can also occur when there is inflammation of the vagina, and certain medications such as birth control pills can also cause a decrease in discharge.

Question 9: Why do I cry after orgasm

Orgasm is a process of great psychological and physical release. Different people will express themselves in different ways, including moaning, screaming, and even crying. If you are extremely happy and relaxed mentally, it is not surprising at all to cry. Don't be embarrassed, this at least shows one thing, your sex is not boring at all.