When it comes to domestic violence, many people immediately think of scenes of fistfights and bloody blows between husband and wife. However, in family life, there is also a kind of "hidden violence" called cold violence.

One spouse begins to show coldness, contempt, laissez-faire and alienation, and is indifferent to the other party, reducing verbal communication to a minimum, stopping or perfunctory sex life, being lazy to do all housework, etc., commonly known as "coldness" Violence".

Marriage experts said, "'Cold violence' is a kind of torture and destruction of people's spirit, and it is a kind of spiritual violence." To some extent, mental violence is more harmful to people than physical violence. For serious. Physical injuries and disabilities can still be cured, but mental injuries and disabilities are difficult to treat.

If "cold violence" exists for a long time and cannot be resolved, the family will become a "place of pain" and the stability of the family will inevitably be threatened. At the same time, it will also have a negative impact on the growth of teenagers in the family.

Coping with "cold violence" and making your home warm

Most people who experience "cold violence" in their families have the feeling that there is no one to complain to and nowhere to stop. , there is no way to rely on it. In this case, experts have introduced several ways to deal with "cold violence" in the family.

Calm If you find that your spouse has begun to show cold violence, do not make a fuss at any time, as that will be counterproductive. You must stay calm so that you can have enough mood to analyze The conflict between you.

For analysis, you need a pen and a piece of paper, and list the issues in your life that may trigger cold violence from the other person, even the smallest possibility, and then talk to you. Irrelevant factors are also listed, and at the same time, write down the personality characteristics of your spouse to see what motivates him or her to commit cold violence against you.

Writing letters is another option to deal with cold violence. Everyone's living habits, thinking consciousness and ideas are unique. Only by extending an olive branch to the other party through the most traditional and gentle way of writing a letter can the friendly hand that is actively extended avoid the danger of cold water or gunpowder. harm.

Treating “cold” with “hot” can solve this kind of problem only if the parties concerned communicate candidly and thoroughly. The best way is to turn it from "cold" to "hot". That is to get rid of the cold aspects, such as cold words, cold expressions, etc., resurrect (heat) the emotions between the two people, and bring the relationship closer. Never use "cold" to "cold". Of course, if there is really no substantive marital relationship, it is better to divorce early and find a new family.