One winter, every time I walked by the large shopping mall next to the community where I lived, I would be aroused by a huge full-color poster: on the billboard several meters high, it was so eye-catching, Gillian (also classmate Zhong Xintong) was taking a selfie with her mobile phone, with an innocent but not silly smile on her face... Well, this, how much courage does this require?

I don’t know exactly what method most girls are willing to use to forget an unpleasant past (of course, very few are as unhappy as Gillian), and whether they have any unique magic weapon. ? But they are very aware that they usually achieve their goals through blocking - when they decide to delete someone, they must form "selective amnesia" in the shortest possible time, just like hitting their head against a hard object and throwing out a certain part of it. Thorough, fierce and merciless.

But that may only be a temporary feasible treatment. Mo Fei, one of the opposition best friends, once doubted the effectiveness of this approach. "I don't believe you can really do it. Just wipe it off," she said matter-of-factly. asked the question, "Because your brain is not a hard drive after all. What's more, the data recovery ability in the technical world is super strong now, and you can get it back even if you wipe it."

Well, this is a fact, no matter what One can deny. Isn't it precisely this fact that has brought endless disasters to Gillian?

Human memory is definitely a very two-faced thing. On the one hand, it is tenacious as hell. Those scenes or events that are indelible to us may still be vivid and vivid even after decades of washing. Jiang Binliu’s access to Yun Zhifan’s voice, face, and smile Even so, otherwise this "Secret Love", which is as slow as freeze-frame, would not be so tear-jerking; on the other hand, it is extremely fragile, and many things will be completely different in retrospect. When lovers break up, they will Claiming that there was no love at all at that time, and when the couple divorced, they had to emphasize that we were very discordant at the beginning, so Jennifer Aniston had reason to compile a lot of Brad Pitt's faults.

But whether it is a good memory or a not-so-good memory, in the final analysis, it may be very different from the previous time. If there had been Yun Zhifan in history, was she really that beautiful and gentle? God knows. When Jennifer and Brad were together, they would never allow anyone to say that there was actually something wrong with their marriage. In short, the facts are nothing more than what the parties believe, and others can only listen to them.

Is this wrong? Scientific research will tell you that we use our own methods to repair memories and add parts that have nothing to do with reality in order to maintain the integrity of our personality and prevent our cognition from splitting.

How to deal with those memories that have caused serious harm? Want to patch it up? What if repair can’t be done? To answer these questions, you need to ask experts about the key points in the treatment of PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder). The most fundamental thing is that you have to believe that no matter how bad the situation is, there is always a way. Gillian is smiling again! Therefore, her advertising shoot, in my interpretation, is a real exposure therapy - a relatively fierce and cruel psychological treatment method that faces pain directly. "During the treatment process, in a safe and controllable environment, The therapist will ask you to retell the traumatic process again and again until you no longer have the fear of recalling it. The purpose is to teach you to face and control your fear. "I think when Gillian repeated the humiliating shooting action again and again, You will feel that, in fact, it is nothing more than that, there is nothing painful.

Forget some things if you can. If you can’t forget, twist them into something you can accept. To be honest, I am not that grateful for every ex-boyfriend who adds "I will remember your kindness" when saying goodbye. I always feel that there is too much of a performance element in it. Because my judgment is this, if you can remember it, just say it silently in your heart, don't turn it into words. You must know that language is the intangible thing that disappears most easily, worse than memory that can be transformed.

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