Around us, some people divorce because they no longer love each other, or because one party cheated and betrayed. Very few people get divorced when they clearly love each other. However, loving each other does not mean that there will be no noises in life. When some "little things" between couples accumulate to a certain extent, they can also lead to the breakdown of a marriage.

Lu Yang and Xu Qian are a couple who have been married for ten years. They were in a free relationship and once eloped because of the obstruction of their parents. Lu Yang, handsome Fang Gang, and Xu Qian, beautiful and petite, registered their marriage not long after they eloped. In this way, the two people lived a fairy-like life in a foreign land.

Many people believe that marriage is the grave of love. Love will either stop or die in marriage. The same is true for the love between Lu Yang and Xu Qian. Although they fell in love passionately and even chose to elope in order to be together, they did not escape the ending of the broken marriage.

In the ninth year of their marriage, Lu Yang, who had already established a career, began to look different from before. Now that he sees the colorful world outside, he always feels that his wife needs to improve in many areas. He always talks to his wife about other women after returning home, either saying that they are highly educated or that they know how to take care of themselves. At the same age, he not only knows a lot more than her, but is also much younger and more fashionable than her. When Xu Qian first heard that her husband was dissatisfied with her, she began to work hard to learn and change herself. However, who knew that her husband not only failed to see her efforts, but instead became a bastard and praised other women in front of Xu Qian almost every day.

In this way, Xu Qian felt more and more inferior and aggrieved under Lu Yang's constant comparisons. She didn't understand why her husband couldn't see her own advantages, but always compared others with herself. Over time, Xu Qian gradually became tired of her husband, and finally left Lu Yang in anger when she had a quarrel with her husband.

Husbands and wives should not compare themselves to each other

There is nothing wrong with people pursuing beauty, but if we are constantly pursuing beauty in our marriage, then such a marriage will definitely not last long. No one is perfect, and everyone has shortcomings to some extent, but we cannot always compare these shortcomings with others. The results of such comparisons may bring some reminders or improvement information to the place, but more often than not, It will cause psychological harm to the other party.

These hurt people often make the decision to break up or divorce out of low self-esteem and disappointment in the other person. They may still love each other deeply, but they cannot bear this endless contrast and have to leave each other while loving each other.