In daily life, swearing is a behavior that is spurned by social moral standards. But should this moral principle also extend to private spaces?

Speaking sexual vulgar or dirty words in public is uncivilized and immoral. However, speaking a few foul words in a couple's sexual life should be treated differently. The "crude" and "dirty" words mentioned here are actually neither crude nor dirty. They are often just honest words about reproductive organs or sexual behavior. Due to the long-term influence of thousands of years of feudal ethics, people often mistakenly believe that some words that cannot be said in elegant halls should not be said in the sexual life between husband and wife. In fact, this is a distortion.

Before the scientific terminology of sex spreads throughout society and replaces the folk sayings about sex, these truths in sex life that are regarded as swear words and vulgar words will, in a sense, still have a meaning. to a positive effect.

First, it is reflected in sex education. In the past, our country’s orthodox culture did not have the status or content of sex education. Today's sex education is not widely carried out. Therefore, people can only obtain some sexual knowledge mixed with truth and falsehood through hearsay among relatives and friends, swear words in the fields, and sexual descriptions in pornographic novels. For example, people learn the common sense that mothers and children should not have sex, neither from books nor from teachers, but from the curse words "I x your mother." At first, children only knew how to curse this sentence to relieve their hatred, but did not know its meaning. Later, when everyone heard this sentence and reacted with rage, they gradually realized that juniors and elders cannot do that kind of thing.

Secondly, it can enhance sexual pleasure in individual sexual life. There are a large number of sexual slangs and slangs in ancient Chinese sex books, Fangzhongshu and folk pornographic novels, and "Jin Ping Mei" can be called the complete collection. The writer Cao Yu even wrote a related paper in the 1930s.

Sexual swear words can enhance sexual pleasure for two reasons; first, because they are prohibited by orthodox texts, people will inevitably have a forbidden pleasure when they say them in private. Anthropologists found that more than 76% of people laughed happily after saying these words. This may be the reason why "forbidden fruit is extraordinarily sweet"; secondly, when people say these words, they subconsciously imagine themselves as "no scruples" people, thereby getting rid of the need for husbands to be solemn and wives to be serious during sex. Without the confinement and disguise of etiquette, you can show your true self freely and unrestrainedly, causing excitement and happiness to surge in. Because traditional culture regards any sexual expression other than reproduction as "lewd", including sexual activities between husband and wife for the purpose of pleasure.

The husband or wife is diligent in their pursuit of happiness, and once they taste the sweetness, they will never give up. This is the main reason why men in ancient times who had one wife and several concubines, and even emperors who had thousands of concubines, engaged in prostitution; it is also the reason why some men intellectually dislike, but emotionally long for, coquettish and slutty women. The key point is: the wife will never be able to do the prostitutes and sluts' acts of coquettishness, speaking sexual vulgarities, and being unscrupulous in teasing, and she will not dare to do them.

To this day, some men are obsessed with women who dare to do so but are not necessarily beautiful or virtuous during extramarital sex. Wife is responsible for creating one after another modern marriage tragedy of "infatuated woman and heartless man". This is just as the Qing Dynasty dramatist Li Yu said: Once a man has the right idea for them, "There is nothing to do with the family law, and the official power cannot deter them. They will always fight to the death to make their wishes come true." Among these abandoned women, Some people are clamoring for ground, and they can't figure out "what is better about her than me!"

So, wives should dare to act coquettishly during sex, and speak some foul language appropriately, and don't think that only This is what prostitutes and sluts do, thus giving up their husbands to other women. Husbands should do the same. Since men's sexual desire is mainly triggered by sight, while women's sexual desire is mainly triggered by hearing, most women like men who can speak well. Women are more likely to be fooled by smooth-talking liars than men. Some weak-willed women are more susceptible to the temptation of sexual language from frivolous men.

Nowadays, the role of sexual swear words in sexual life has attracted the attention of scientists, which has brought this issue to the forefront of academic circles. After many experiments, scientists have discovered that no matter how noble a person is, they will have a positive reaction after hearing a series of obscene words.

A recent survey conducted in the UK showed that more than 25% of people admitted that swearing can help increase sexual arousal. Moreover, among people with a higher education level and engaged in "decent" jobs, this proportion is as high as more than 40%. This result shocked the more conservative British people. However, in the eyes of sex psychology experts, swearing during sex is nothing anecdotal.

Julian Slowinsky, a doctor of sexual psychology on the American sexual health website, pointed out that most of the dirty words in daily life are related to sex and are extremely stimulating, provocative and intrusive. Speaking dirty words while engaging in sexual activities will naturally enhance your mood. "It can be said that this is a kind of auditory stimulation during sex, just like music stimulation and sweet words." A survey in the United States shows that for those decent people who never use swear words, a word of swear words will make them experience normal life. Unattainable and forbidden pleasures, and sometimes they ask their partners to express them in the same way.

Slowinsky’s analysis believes that sexual excitement causes the cerebral cortex to temporarily or partially lose its inhibitory effect, which causes the moral reins to collapse instantly, so swear words that would not be uttered in ordinary times will be blurted out. On the other hand, it can also be said that people who blurt out foul language during sex have devoted themselves to sex life.

There are also some people who use foul language intentionally for fun. Most of them are men and very few women. Some people worry, is this a sexual perversion? Slowinsky pointed out that there is indeed a kind of Tourette syndrome in the manifestation of sexual perversion, but it is essentially different from swearing in sexual life: the former likes to say dirty words in front of the opposite sex, but does not necessarily want to have sex; The latter only appears during sex, and the purpose is to arouse sexual emotions.

Slowinski reminds everyone that if the husband likes to talk and the wife likes to listen, then speaking foul language will definitely become a "stimulant" in their sex life. But if a woman doesn’t like to use foul language, it makes no sense for her husband to force her to say it, or for her to accuse her husband of being mentally unhealthy. Only frank communication can make both parties feel comfortable.

American psychologist Julia Hyman also conducted an experiment on the effect of music on the accumulation process of stress-induced sexual desire. The subjects were required to listen to four sets of music. The first group is nauseating sexual music, which is composed by excerpting some obscene words as lyrics from pornographic books or romance novels describing sexual behavior between the sexes; the second group is romantic music; the third group is romantic music. The first group is a mixture of sexual and romantic music; the fourth group is intellectual music. Results: Listening to the first and third sets of music will cause most men and women to have an auditory desire process, resulting in extremely high sexual arousal.

Holland Kechadouin, the world's authority on sexology, also wrote in his famous book "Basics of Human Sexuality - Concepts of Sexology": "Mocking or even obscene humor and 'dirty words'" , will stimulate some people’s sexual desire.”

Some experts often encourage couples whose sex life is too monotonous to try to say obscene words to each other and let provocative words stimulate each other’s sexual desire. When first trying it out, ask them to start talking on the phone so it's easier to get the words out. A wife tried it and found it very effective: "My husband and I often play a game of dirty words. If I have anything to do, I will call him. No matter if he is at work or in a meeting, I will simply say a word and call him immediately." This kind of game often makes us so excited that we can’t wait to go home and make out after work.”

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