A man who behaves like a gentleman outside the house no longer cares about his demeanor when he is alone with his wife, and acts according to his own temperament regardless of his wife's feelings. Such behavior is a lack of sexual cultivation. Recently, many experts have mentioned the issue of sexual cultivation and called on men, who are often in a dominant position in married life, to improve their sexual cultivation and give their spouses full respect and love.

There are reasons for divorce during the honeymoon period

In the sexual psychology clinic of a hospital in this city, Joan, who had just been married for a month, insisted on negotiating a divorce with her husband. Her husband tried to persuade her for several days to no avail and hoped to get help from a sexual psychology expert.

In the eyes of outsiders, this is a pretty perfect marriage. The man is a middle-level cadre of a large unit, and he is personable. The woman is a foreign language teacher in a key middle school. She is beautiful and feminine. However, after repeated guidance from the experts, the actual quality of marriage that Joan told them made the experts understand her choice at once.

It turns out that Joan could no longer stand her husband during the wedding trip. Every time he went to a place, as long as he opened the hotel room, his husband would not care whether she was in a good or bad mood, whether she accepted it or not. As long as she had "sexual interest", he would have to have some intimacy with her. Even Qiong every month She would also make unreasonable demands during her menstrual period, not respecting her at all, and sometimes even being rude. If you obey him, you will wrong yourself; if you resist him, you will be afraid of hurting the relationship between the couple. It made her physically and mentally exhausted and miserable, and the sweet feeling of newlyweds was washed away. As time went by, she even felt disgusted with her husband, and gradually began to think about divorce.

Increase sexual cultivation to add points to relationships

There is a type of people in life who are self-centered in everything they do, never consider or take into account the feelings of others, and always live in their own inner world. Such people can only be selfish and stubborn in their sexual life. Yes, I don’t care or be considerate of others too much. Therefore, Professor Zhu Rongshen, a sexual psychology expert from the No. 10 Hospital in the city, raised a question: Men, do you have sexual accomplishment?

In the sexual life of couples, men often play the role of initiator. If a man knows how to be considerate of his wife, respect his wife's wishes, and care about her feelings, it is crucial to enhance the relationship between husband and wife and promote family harmony. According to experts, in daily life, a person who is polite, respects and cares for others always gives people a good impression and is more likely to win the love and closeness of others. His interpersonal relationships and social interactions will naturally be better. rapport. In private life, those who are sexually cultivated can also add points to the harmony and sweetness between husband and wife.

Sexual cultivation requires attention to "little details"

Among men's sexual cultivation issues, the first thing to bear the brunt of is respecting his wife and listening to his wife's thoughts. Only when two people have the same idea and work together can they achieve true harmony. Other more "small sections" also need to be practiced slowly in daily life.

It's important to keep it clean. Many couples in Western countries will carefully rinse their entire bodies before having sex. The degree of harshness of disinfection is simply amazing. Although you don’t have to follow the rules, you can’t let your partner smell bad breath; you can’t kiss your partner right after eating garlic.

Civilized behavior is also a must for sexual cultivation. Many men know how to behave like a gentleman in life. For example, he will take off her coat diligently for her, he will carefully spread the tablecloth for her, he will considerately open the door for her, and he will even be considerate when she suddenly has something to do. buy her sanitary napkins. But when it comes to bed, he may be anything but gentlemanly. He only cares about his own feelings and does not consider yours at all. He doesn't know how to caress, flirt, or speak softly. This is something women cannot tolerate.

Six criteria for judging a happy sex life

1. The connection of love

Rather than separating "sex" and "love," they insist that "the mind" occupies a central position in sexual life as well as in other areas. They regard sex life as an extremely important part of the couple's relationship, and they are both willing and committed to their own and each other's sexual satisfaction.

2. There is no right or wrong

Couples who have a harmonious and happy sexual life understand that there should be no absolute standards for sexual life that everyone should abide by, and there should be no questions about what is right and what is wrong. As long as both parties are satisfied, there is sexual happiness.

3. Overcoming Saying “No”

Some women often say "no" to their husbands' sexual requests. In a couple with a harmonious sexual life, both parties focus on satisfying each other's sexual requirements and will try to overcome their original resistance and say "no".

4. Make up for the gap

Couples with a happy sex life will also encounter the problem of "male and female gap". However, because their relationship is full of a spirit of mutual satisfaction for the sake of each other, they will take the initiative to make up for the possible gap.

5. Dare to talk about taboos

There have long been taboos in society against talking about sex. Couples who have a successful sex life never regard each other as a god who can read other people's thoughts, but open up their hearts to have frank discussions about their sex life. They also understand that expecting the other person or both parties to perform a new behavior, action, posture or method does not mean that there is anything wrong with the past.

6. Beautiful balance

In sexual life, each party has to give and receive, and both men and women need to serve and receive services from each other. A wonderful balance of mutual joyful, active, and complete giving and receiving between a couple will make their sex life always pleasurable for both parties.