When you fall in love with a man and want to marry him, you must be mentally prepared. You are not just marrying him, you are marrying his living habits, family background and social background. Be clear that the man you are facing is not an individual, but the group of people behind his family environment and social interactions. In addition, you are still under the pressure of daily necessities in your married life. Therefore, the sweet feeling of love before marriage may slowly disappear, so many women will have some abnormal psychology after marriage.

Reverse psychology. The so-called reverse psychology is a reverse experience that occurs when similar things that act on an individual exceed the threshold of individual sensory acceptance and saturate the individual's senses.

The performance is as follows: the more unavailable things are, the more they want to get them; the more inaccessible things are, the more they want to get in touch with them. But once you get it and come into contact with it, you won’t cherish it. The greater the external resistance and obstacles, the stronger the rebellious psychology and the more powerful the pursuit. And once they are truly combined, the original eagerness and desire to compete that failed to achieve their goals will disappear.

Gap psychology. It refers to the inner imbalance caused by the distance between ideal and reality. Some psychologists have formulated this formula: happy life = reality - expectation. What it means is that the degree of happiness in life depends on the difference between actual value and expected value. When the difference is positive, life is happy and joyful; when the difference is zero, life appears relatively stable; when the difference is negative, life is pessimistic and disappointing.

Marriage has transformed the simple emotional relationship between the sexes into an interdependent survival relationship. In the past, when they were in love, it was cafes, restaurants, and teahouses, but now it is the clinking of pots and pans. The problem of survival also brings about new interpersonal relationships based on living together, such as the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, father-in-law and son-in-law, sister-in-law and sister-in-law, etc. All of this greatly reduces the actual score value. , and there is a long distance between it and the expected value, which makes people feel disappointed and disappointed.

The mystery is gone. Mystery is an important factor in emotional attraction. It makes people feel hazy and beautiful, like looking at flowers in the mist or looking at the moon in the water. It triggers lovers' imaginative interest after parting, and they have great interest in exploring the answers to each other's personality.

The contact between lovers is intermittent and loose, and the distance in time and space often causes infatuated men and women to idealize and perfect each other. After getting married, the couple lives together almost every day. At this time, the contact is continuous and close. Both of them are extremely real in front of each other. The shortcomings that they had previously concealed in order to gain the other's favor are also exposed, and it is easy to become dissatisfied with each other. .