Emotional columnists are usually the lowest vulnerable group among freelance writers. Even if they write Lian Yue, they will inevitably be criticized: So they write emotional columns! This kind of discrimination seems not unreasonable. Human beings have detected water on Mars, but the questions in the letters from readers are still the same: "Should I forgive my husband for cheating on him?" "I am so good to him, why doesn't she love me?" ? "Why am I still single when I'm so good?"

Faced with these "low-level problems", most columnists have the mentality of "being angry and sad for their misfortune", either trying to get rid of them or not. , a wake-up call, but if the secret of love can really be cracked, it is estimated that Nobel will come back to life and award him the ultimate Nobel Prize. So in a sense, the emotional articles written all over the place seem suspicious.

The "Experimental Report on Love and Sex" written by scientific young man Xiaozhuang completely breaks out of the emotional guide quadrant and provides a refreshing interpretation of the emotional world from a scientific perspective. Compared with articles about prescriptions and drinks, this book is more like an "appreciation" or "exploration" series.

For example, the issue of "husband cheating" is actually related to male loyalty genes: when a male vole is injected with vasopressin, he begins to become strongly dependent on the female vole. Or add the AVPRLA gene to the brains of meadow voles, and the latter will become loyal. If humans carry a mutated copy of this gene, men will be less loyal to their partners.

The reasons for "she doesn't love me" can be very biological, and MHC (major histocompatibility complex) may be a key factor. This substance determines a person's immune system and will Integrated into body odor and facial appearance, women often choose men with different MHC to provide their offspring with better selection of immune system characteristics. So wearing some perfume to destroy the influence of MHC on women may be a good way...

As for "a good man is single", it can be interpreted as "good man behavior", which is probably a kind of testosterone deficiency Or a manifestation of repression. Girls indirectly obtain this crucial information in mate selection through their own feelings. The task that men must perform as hunters may not have been forgotten by women in the long process of evolution.

The scientific basis provided for emotional issues makes this book look "very popular science". If that were all, then this book would not be an "appreciation series" but a "popular science series" . Fortunately, the author Xiaozhuang's status as a "literary young woman" makes her writing emotional and beautiful. Behind every piece of scientific evidence is actually a story or memory that seems familiar to you.

In "Indecent Thoughts", on his 30th birthday, M was on an icebreaker in Greenland late at night and received a text message from his first love boyfriend thousands of miles away through the Iridium satellite signal - nearly nine months after they broke up. Years later, there is only one sentence: Until now, when I have sex with others, I still imagine that it is you. Although love psychologists have conducted a lot of research on sexual fantasies to identify differences in sexual psychology between men and women, no amount of research results can erase the memory of nine years ago.

In the book, Dunaway drives to meet her boyfriend who is "7.63" years younger than herself in the middle of the night. "The light seeping through the rear window has been frozen into bunches." When they meet, they are silent and slightly desperate. . Stories about older women and younger boyfriends are common, and there is no exact scientific basis. Only a large-scale survey showed that the mortality rate of women who marry men who are 7 to 9 years younger than themselves is 2 percentage points higher than that of women who marry women of the same age. Perhaps because they bear the burden of The mental pressure will be greater.

So, you see, science can only analyze some phenomena, but it cannot eliminate sadness and create happiness. Just like scientists can clearly pin down the impact of a certain faulty gene carried in 23 pairs of chromosomes on certain aspects, but they can never provide a complex algorithm for emotional relationships. Therefore, "Experimental Report on Love and Sex" is not a study on relationship success, nor is it an inspirational book for single women. But it is this objective perspective that gives another possibility of life - emotional mentors often make a firm stance, as if all emotional problems in the world have solutions. But the jealousy, loneliness, and fragility of human nature are largely written in genes. In fact, no one can defeat them. How to accept our emotions rationally may be the homework we need to do.

Everyone has a tangled and painful past, and we usually tend to choose reasons that are beneficial to us to avoid our own hearts. The most common lament among older single women is that "all good men are dead." The reason why they refuse to break up even though they know the other person doesn't love them is usually "it's not like he doesn't love me." At this point, "Experimental Report on Love and Sex" almost achieves full marks. Xiaozhuang only narrates and presents emotional issues or stories, using scientific explanations to provide reference, but never makes value or moral judgments. Moreover, the stories are full of emotions and touch people's hearts. So in the process of reading, the extreme and self-interested reasons she made up to protect herself were dispelled one by one by her relaxed and interesting words.

This may be the smartest way to approach emotional articles. In the emotional world, there is no good doctor, and the only doctor is yourself. Looking at emotional issues with a more rational and tolerant attitude does not prevent us from sincerely and passionately investing in love. This may be the final conclusion of the "Experimental Report on Love and Sex".

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