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Children’s sexual psychology affects life-long effects

American sex education expert Dr. Mary Calderon believes that establishing a healthy sexual psychology It should be done in the early years, "especially before the age of five", which is "a particularly critical and effective period." Sexual psychologists believe that the sexual psychology formed in children in early childhood has an impact that lasts for decades; the distortion of sexual psychology in childhood often reveals its negative consequences after adults grow up.

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Sex roles are misplaced

Infants and young children first establish their sexual role identity. In the process of socialization, children must understand that people are divided into men and women; they must recognize and accept their own gender; they must regulate the speech and behavior of their gender in accordance with society's requirements for gender roles. Most parents give their children names, buy clothes, toys, and dress them up according to the requirements of boys or girls, so that their children can smoothly establish their sexual role identity. However, some parents use their own likes and dislikes to give boys feminine names, dress and dress according to girls' standards, toys and games for girls, and talk and walk in a feminine tone and posture. As a result, boys' sexual psychology is distorted. When they grow up, they become "nursery boys". In some cases, they become homosexuals, and in more severe cases, they suffer from heterosexuality or transsexuality. Similarly, some parents favor boys over girls and dress up girls as boys. There is no shortage of people who turn out to be sexual perverts when they grow up.

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Distorted sexual cognition

Sexual curiosity in infants and young children is part of their sexual cognition. Traditional sexual concepts are closed, repressed, and mysterious. Once the baby appears to play with the external sexual organs to satisfy his curiosity, the parents stop him angrily and say: "It's so dirty!" When the baby raises questions about sex such as why the external sexual organs of men and women are different, where the child is born, etc., the parents not only refuse to He explained it and scolded him: "Shameless." This is very harmful to children's early development of sexual psychology. This will undoubtedly make children form the concept that external sexual organs are dirty and sexual activities are ugly from an early age. Once distorted sexual psychology, sexual repression, and sexual fear are formed, they can have adverse effects on a person's life. Sexual dysfunctions such as frigidity and low libido in women, and sexual dysfunctions such as impotence, sexual fear, and premature ejaculation in men are all closely related to sexual experiences in childhood. Children's sexual curiosity is beyond reproach, and parents should create more opportunities to expand and deepen children's sexual cognition.

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[Expert opinion]

Whether it is a foreign child or a Chinese child, generally speaking, from 2 Sexual awareness begins at the age of 18, which can be detected from the words and deeds of children. For example, children will ask: "Where do I come from?" "How was I born?" "What is the difference between boys and girls?" "Why am I a girl?" "Why are the uncles and aunts on TV doing this?" Kiss?" and other questions. In addition, you can also see that some children will actively explore their own bodies, such as touching their own sexual organs with their hands, spying on their parents' bodies; they will also imitate the behavior of adults by touching and hugging their peers, etc. It can be said that these are some manifestations of children's sexual consciousness. As parents, you should know that these behaviors of children are due to nature and curiosity. Since parents cannot avoid it, they should satisfy their children's "exploration" psychology through answers and explanations.

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[Parental Strategies]

The emergence of sexual awareness indicates that children have taken the first step to understand themselves and others. step. This is very important and gratifying. As a parent, when faced with the expression of children's sexual consciousness, you should avoid scolding (how can you ask such a question?) and ignoring (ask your dad/ask your mom); nor should you make up random things to deceive your children. Because such consequences will cause children to have wrong sexual awareness; or they may become more mysterious about "sex" and may try to get answers from other ways; in addition, it is easy for children to reduce their trust and respect for their parents. In fact, children just want to know an answer. Once they get it, they will stop asking.