Sexual intercourse between husband and wife is a comprehensive physical contact with each other, while obtaining sexual pleasure and contentment. The ideal sex life is satisfying, pleasant, voluntary, full of physical and psychological catharsis, and has pleasant spiritual enjoyment. For this reason, satisfactory sexual intercourse between husband and wife requires both parties to have good emotions, physical strength and sexual skills; they need to have sufficient sexual foreplay (flirting) and increase sexual excitement to a certain level.

What is caressing: Sexual caressing (massage before sexual intercourse) is a foreplay of the "five kinds" of touching, holding, massaging, kissing, hugging, and shaking each other to make both parties feel erotic and coordinate sexual intercourse. Caressing between husband and wife before sex is very important to eliminate tension and anxiety, relax each other, arouse sexual pleasure, and gradually "enter the state".

Expanding the erogenous zone requires touching

The erogenous zone is the area on the body surface that can show sexual excitement after receiving sexual stimulation. This kind of excitement manifests itself as: pelvic heating and swelling, increased vaginal secretions, general pleasure, and requests for sexual intercourse. Women’s erogenous zones are more widely distributed than men’s, including hair, cheeks, lips, tongue, ears, neck, breasts, hands, lower abdomen, buttocks, inner thighs, etc. The most erotic parts of a woman are the reproductive organs, namely the clitoris, labia minora, the area around the labia majora, and the vaginal opening. Touching the clitoris can not only stimulate a woman's sexual desire, but also cause her pleasure. It can be said that the clitoris is the main "lever" that controls female sexual behavior.

In addition to the above estrous sensitive areas, any part of the female body surface can become an erogenous area after repeated stimulation and combined with sexual intercourse activities to form a conditioned reflex. On the contrary, surface stimulation and sexual intercourse activities are interrupted, and the established erogenous zones can also disappear. It can be seen that in order to expand and enhance the sexy parts of women, stroking is necessary.

Psychological need for care

Touching is a silent communication of emotion that avoids the embarrassment caused by shyness or inappropriate choice of words when expressing feelings. Women are more sensitive to touch, more prone to emotion, and they also hope to enjoy the joy of touch more often. When girls are sexually awakened, their desire for hugs and kisses is stronger than sexual intercourse. Among lovers, women instinctively understand the importance of touching, especially before they are used to sexual intercourse. Touching often makes them feel extremely happy and comfortable, and obtains emotional and physical satisfaction. It can be said that the outstanding characteristics of women are that they are very needy, very sensitive and very careful about caressing. In terms of sexual expression, most women are introverted. Due to their natural shyness, many wives are ashamed to publicly express their sexual needs. She hopes to use her husband's touch, especially when touching sexy and sensitive parts, she shows " "Speechless" and "accept" to express her request for sexual intercourse.

Touching can increase sexual arousal

Sexual excitement is caused by physical or mental sexual stimulation. The duration of sexual excitement depends on many factors, such as psychological status, emotional impact, fatigue level, and the effective intensity of sexual stimulation. Men generally reach the excitement stage quickly and sharply before women. Women's sexual requirements are generally weaker than men's, and their sexual desire and excitement are not easily aroused, so women's sexual behavior is generally passive.

Human sexual response, from the beginning of the excitement period to the subsidence of orgasm, is artificially divided into four stages: excitement period, duration period, climax period and subsidence period. Whether a woman can reach orgasm depends on many factors, but the degree of "preparation" during the excitement period is very critical. For women, in addition to warm love words, warm hugs and kisses from men during the excitement period, sexy touch is more important.

A study of the erogenous zones of 200 normal women of childbearing age showed that 167 of them (83.5%) showed positive sexual arousal reactions after receiving sexual stimulation, including vaginal discharge, pelvic distension and desire for sexual intercourse. Touching, caressing, scratching, kneading or squeezing the breasts, the main erogenous point, with your hands will produce special pleasure. The sexual response of the breasts is the same as that of the male penis. It becomes erect during rubbing or sucking stimulation. The vulva is the core part of sexual stimulation, especially the clitoris. Once it is massaged and stimulated, women can feel the greatest pleasure outside of sexual intercourse. Satisfaction, and at the same time, make physical and psychological preparations before sexual intercourse - the labia majora are flat and swollen, the vagina is congested and exudes a large amount of secretions to lubricate the vagina. Only then will the woman achieve full sexual excitement, will she have a request for sexual intercourse, and will both parties have the possibility of reaching climax and obtaining sexual satisfaction.

Touching the clitoris is a "prelude"

In the process of sexual life, touching the clitoris is the prelude to the entire sexual life, just like touching the nipples, inner thighs, etc. can trigger sexual impulses. Of course this touch must be gentle and affectionate. During the peak of a woman's sexual response cycle, the glans clitoris is particularly sensitive to direct stimulation. Why do women like to touch their clitoris?

We know that the clitoris is rich in sensitive nerve endings, and its density is 6 to 10 times higher than that of surrounding tissues or the glans of the penis. The innervation of the clitoris is the dorsal clitoral nerve, which is a very small branch at the end of the pudendal nerve and terminates in the plexus of nerve endings in the glans and body of the clitoris.

The larger nerve bundles of the dorsal clitoral nerve are irregularly distributed with circumlaminar corpuscles related to proprioceptive stimulation, which play an important role in transmitting afferent impulses caused by somatoform stimulation. The circumlaminar corpuscles are responsible for deep pressure sensation and proprioception, and their quantity and quality vary greatly, which can explain why the stimulation techniques and intensity required by women during masturbation vary so much.

The clitoris is also rich in free nerve endings that are very sensitive to touch. This shows why the clitoris is so sensitive to touch. If the clitoris is stimulated skillfully, it is often easy to stimulate women's sexual desire, and it can often arouse women without the need for sexual intercourse. Reach an orgasm.

Generally speaking, stimulating the body of the clitoris is more effective than directly stimulating the head of the clitoris. In addition, clitoral orgasm often requires continuous strong stimulation for a long time. After all, it is separated by a layer of foreskin, so it is well tolerated. Especially when orgasm is approaching, it needs to be stimulated vigorously and greatly. The process of stimulating the clitoris is not only a moment to mobilize a woman's subjective initiative and sexual desire, but also a moment for the woman to quickly transition from the excitement stage to the plateau stage. The woman must actively participate, be a good guide and commander, and clearly indicate to the man her most sensitive parts and Favorite stimulation method, and have full communication at any time to correct deviations or deficiencies in the man's stimulation methods. Otherwise, letting the blind man ride a blind horse and ask random questions will not only waste time and energy in vain, but will also make the woman feel disappointed and irritable.

Different women sometimes experience very different feelings when their clitoris is touched. Some people like the man to gently touch their clitoris before sexual intercourse, which makes them feel comfortable; others are afraid of men touching their clitoris and feel very uncomfortable. In fact, this is mainly due to psychological reasons. Generally speaking, many people who are afraid of men touching their clitoris lack sexual knowledge or have a low cultural level. Although they do not lack physical pleasure, most of them think that this pleasure is sexual pleasure. Abnormal, some even think it is directly related to pregnancy. In terms of quantity, there are not many people who do not want men to touch them. According to statistics, 2/3 of women are more willing to accept clitoral stimulation, while only 1/3 of women prefer vaginal stimulation. Women who are willing to accept clitoral stimulation believe that the pleasure brought by clitoral stimulation is far stronger than the pleasure brought by vaginal stimulation.

In most sexual intercourse positions, the penis cannot directly stimulate the clitoris. Moreover, when the sexual response reaches a plateau, due to the contraction of the female perineal muscles, the clitoris will retreat from its usual hanging position to the depth of the clitoral foreskin, close to the pubic symphysis. the anterior boundary, thus away from the vaginal opening. This withdrawal makes it more difficult for the penis to make direct contact with the clitoris. In fact, during pure vaginal intercourse, the twitching of the penis in the vagina will indirectly stimulate the clitoris by pulling back and forth on the labia minora and the clitoral hood connected to it, especially When the penis twitches outward, the foreskin of the penis returns to the glans or coronal sulcus, increasing the diameter of the penis by a few millimeters, making it easier for the clitoris to be indirectly stimulated. Since there is no corresponding lubrication function in and around the clitoris, if the stimulation is strong, a woman's clitoris will experience pain. If rough movements or foreign objects are used to stimulate, not only will it fail to cause pleasure, but it may also gradually produce a sense of disgust towards the opposite sex, thus affecting the sexual life between husband and wife.

Flirting is a must

In order to improve the quality of sexual life and make both parties closer spiritually and emotionally harmonious, flirting behavior is particularly important for the woman. Some people say: Women don’t like marathon sexual intercourse, but they like marathon flirting. The main content of flirting is caressing and comforting. This stage makes the male's sexual excitement progress slower, makes the female's sexual excitement come faster, and narrows the time difference between "men are faster and women are slower" in sexual response.

Weiwei Sexual Health Expert Tips: With sufficient preparation before sexual intercourse, sexual intercourse will often go smoothly and both men and women will reach climax and satisfaction.