Can extramarital affairs make up for an unhappy marriage?

Towards extramarital affairs, everyone’s attitude nowadays is: “It doesn’t matter if it lasts forever, it only matters what you once had.” Maybe life is too dull, maybe people are always not satisfied with the status quo, so they want to find a lover They came to comfort each other, thinking that they could make a terrible married life bearable, but unexpectedly it brought deeper pain. Some people are not happy in their marriages but cannot or are unwilling to give up due to various reasons. The appearance of a lover promptly makes up for the lack of passion.

For men and women who fall in love, their lover must be considerate and have endless love words to say. They can talk about anything all night long, and they will not be willing to hang up the phone. We have so many common interests and similar experiences in life. It's like we have a heart-to-heart connection, and we feel like we've met each other so late.

Perhaps things in the world often have beauty only when there is distance. The man and woman who had an extramarital affair reluctantly said goodbye half an hour ago. Once they got home, they couldn't bear the pain of lovesickness and hurriedly said goodbye. Get on the phone. This is how distance creates imagination, imagination creates beauty, and beauty is exciting. But it's not necessarily that "people are charming", it's just that "people are fascinated by themselves".

At the beginning of an extramarital affair, the lover is considerate, gentle and considerate. But as time goes by, the novelty fades away. That's because passion burns so fiercely that it burns out so quickly. Because many people cannot experience peaceful happiness in their married life, they look for extramarital affairs just to add a little more passion. Unfortunately, passion never lasts. It should be noted that those who play with fire will burn themselves. When the extramarital affair is at its deepest, we might as well think about it calmly: No Having experienced rough seas on a voyage, how do you know the value of a quiet harbor?

Can extramarital affairs make up for an unhappy marriage?

The main channel leading to the surge in extramarital affairs is the Internet, followed by the office. Through text messages on mobile phones, men and women having extramarital affairs can maintain secret channels. There are not only millions of pornographic websites on the Internet, but also chat rooms designed specifically for married men and women. Through the Internet, lonely hearts can chat with strangers and even find lost old lovers. Some people liken the Internet to "a network of confusion" and a "network of evil spirits", which can be said to hit the mark.

The online world gathers tens of millions of people of different ages and backgrounds, including primary school boys and girls, boys and girls, young men and women, adult men and women, and older men and women. There are perverted old men who pretend to be teenagers in their teens and twenties and fall in love with little girls online. Because everyone can post anonymously, the problem is endless, just like in the real world everyone wears a mask and no one can catch you doing anything. There are also many women and men who, under the instigation of words, develop false feelings and naturally find the feeling of love. Online flirting does not require responsibility, there is no time limit, and there is no need to spend money. You can log off at any time when you are unhappy, and you do not need to pay attention to the other party's feelings. Anyway, the other party may be chatting with n online lovers at the same time!

The Internet is virtual, and online dating is also virtual, which just caters to men and women who commit spiritual betrayal at home. The reason why online dating is so popular among married men and women is that they can enjoy romantic and warm feelings without leaving home. After a tiring day, they can easily flirt with others online; men and women who date online usually keep their other half in the dark, because the husband or wife often only cares about whether the other person is at home at night, and most of them ignore what they are doing at home. Many married men and women who fall in love online have already made appointments with netizens and developed relationships beyond friendship.

But whether it is a man or a woman, extramarital affairs involve the issue of extramarital sex. Once the two parties have a physical relationship, they will have a certain degree of guilt and guilt in their hearts. They will be ashamed of their husband, wife and children, and worry about the matter being exposed. As a result, they will be worried all day long, in a state of short-term happiness and long-term fear. The spouse at home will and children also become victims.

Can extramarital affairs make up for an unhappy marriage?

Chinese society is still traditionally dominated by men. Before men engage in extramarital affairs, they have probably done a risk assessment. If unfortunately the incident comes to light, even if the wife is very sad and angry, as long as the husband is willing to change his mind, the couple will still be reconciled as before. In fact, few men who cheat on their wives really want to divorce their wives; those who insist on divorce mostly do it because they are driven out of the house, or they are trapped by a woman with ulterior motives, and they have no choice but to do so. Most of the most optimistic scenarios are that the wife will keep the entire incident as close as possible, as if it has never happened at all, and there is no shame on her face. Even the children do not know what happened; she does this just to preserve her husband’s memory. Dignity and face. She will probably blame the problem on the affair, thinking that the woman seduced her husband.

On the contrary, if a husband finds out that his wife Hongxing is cheating on her, he will almost certainly not tolerate it. Chinese men just can't stand the shame of "cuckolding", and it's hard for their children to accept and sympathize with such mothers. The only outcome is divorce. As a result, the family is destined to break up and the children lose their father or mother. Even if the custody of the child belongs to one of the parents, if the parent remarries, the child will have to face the stepfather or stepmother. Without a harmonious and intimate family atmosphere, their childhood life will definitely be affected and they will easily develop certain character defects.

In February 2008, the scandal of "artist nude photos" broke out in the Hong Kong entertainment industry. As the victim, Nicholas Tse, husband of Cecilia Cheung, behaved under pressure from all parties. His perseverance and tolerance have won the admiration of many people. Ting Fung said that he knew about Cecilia's past when he proposed marriage; he faced the whole incident with the words: "Who doesn't have a past?" As the saying goes: "When a strong wind blows down a sycamore tree, others will criticize it." When the indecent photos first appeared, many people mercilessly criticized the parties involved. While many people were gloating over his misfortune and watching with cold eyes as to when Ting Fung would divorce his wife, many people gave him unlimited sympathy and high praise.

I remember someone once said: It’s empty when you come, it’s empty when you go, life is just a dream. Since you have done such a cause, you should suffer such a result. People are not crazy in all kinds of ways, so how can they make all kinds of mistakes?