Breaking through the love traps that have addicted countless women

What kind of person will have mature love? What kind of men and women know that they should love each other when they meet, be compatible with each other when they get along, miss each other when they are apart, and rely on each other when they are together? Men and women in the human world are too complicated, and there is basically no answer to this question.

We often hear women say, I love him because he is really good to me...

This sentence does not seem wrong in any way: he is so good to me. Well, if I catch a cold, he will ride his bicycle across half of the city to deliver me medicine; if I lose my mobile phone, he will buy me a new one without saying anything, preferring to eat pickles and steamed buns every day; I will be willful in the middle of the night Call him, and no matter how sleepy or tired he is, he will insist on coaxing me to sleep... How can I not love such a man?

Should she love him just because he is so good to her? If the answer is yes, then for a man, as long as he is so good to a woman, who else can the woman love besides him?

But is this true? Is the essence of love just a comparison of who is better to whom?

Apparently not.

There will always be a foreseeable day in the future: when you catch a cold, he will no longer come all the way to deliver medicine to you, but will tell you to go see a doctor yourself; if you lose your phone, he will still say nothing. Buy you a new mobile phone, because the money is not important to him at this time; if you call him in the middle of the night to let him coax you to sleep, you will find that he never turns on the mobile phone in the middle of the night...

The only constant in this world is change. No one will be good to anyone forever, so if you think he is good to you, you should love him, and the result will be your sorrow.

Pleasing her before hunting her down is a trick that men will never give up and a trap that women will never escape from.

Because once that woman gets used to your kindness to her, she will never be able to leave you again. She has become a prey in your hands. As for whether you will abandon your prey, it all depends on your mood.

It is of no use to say so much. Countless women will still be moved by a man’s kindness towards her and commit themselves to her, and men will still get tired of having to pay so much and finally succeed. Abandon and look for the next target, so there are always so many sad women and so many heartless men in the world.

Now there is a new question. If a man is so good to a woman, the woman should not love him, then who should she love? If being nice to her doesn't count as loving her, then what is love?

My friend gave a pretty good answer: Love is the mutual conquest between two people, and only through conquest can long-lasting love be maintained.

In other words, there must be something unique about each other that makes the other person like it. Otherwise, everyone in the world is different. Why would love happen to you and him?

He is good to you, another person can be better to you, and another person can be even better to you. How can you fall in love easily because of such a characteristic that can be replaced at any time? Got him? How can love be so cheap?

Here is a novel by Milan Kunder called "Living Elsewhere". The poet hero in it had the conditions to fall in love with a beautiful woman, but he chose a not-so-pretty redhead. Girl, the girl felt deeply inferior and felt that she was not worthy of him, so she asked: "I really don't know what you like about me. There are so many beautiful girls around." He replied: "Your breasts are very beautiful." Small, underdeveloped, with large, wrinkled nipples that elicit pity rather than passion. Your face is freckled, your hair is red, and you are thin. These are the reasons why I love you." The girl burst into tears. I love you, so I know every one of your shortcomings better than you do. Of course, I love your advantages even more.

It’s a pity that most women don’t understand such profound love. They are often lost in men's sweet words, lost in the vanity of eternal vows, and cannot see clearly the true face of love.

Sometimes love is beautiful, and sometimes love is very realistic.

I think true mature love is: if you catch a cold, if I am by your side, I will take good care of you; if I am far away from you, I will ask you to see a doctor instead of I come to see you desperately, not because I don’t care about you, but because this is just a cold, and we all need to learn to take care of ourselves when the other person is not around;

Your mobile phone is lost. If I don’t have money, I will give you my mobile phone. I use my old mobile phone myself. It’s not that I am reluctant to spend money for you, but I want to do better for our future. plan, if I have money, then I will buy you a new mobile phone without hesitation. When I have no money, I care about your mood, and when I have money, I also care about your mood; you call me in the middle of the night Me, no matter how tired I am, I will try my best to coax you to sleep, but sometimes I will tell you in advance that you can’t call because there are important things tomorrow...

I will not do anything to you. Okay, but you will always be the person I give the most to in my life.

So, what kind of person will have mature love? What kind of men and women know that they should love each other when they meet, be compatible with each other when they get along, miss each other when they are apart, and rely on each other when they are together?

The world of men and women is too complicated, and there is basically no answer to this question. But it reminds me of something I've seen before.

There is an old saying that boys are poor and girls are rich. It means that a boy cannot be given a good environment to grow up. He must endure hardships, be wronged, and experience hardships. Only in this way can he understand perseverance, learn to be strong, understand responsibilities, and become self-reliant and self-reliant when he grows up. Girls, on the other hand, no matter how poor the conditions are, you should pamper her like a princess, pamper her, and make her happy. Only in this way will she know how to respect herself and love herself when she grows up, and will be immune to the love of others, and will she understand the role of a woman. Only with pride can you discern the happiness you truly want, and will not be easily seduced by other people's kindness to you, and will not be so easily hurt by love.

If it were the other way around, with the boy being rich and the girl being poor, you can already imagine what the outcome would be.