A thousand-mile dike breaks in an ant nest. Some small problems in life, if not corrected in time, are likely to turn into a marital crisis. Recently, the "Women's Day" website in the United States invited experts to write articles to remind men and women to be wary of some bad signs in marriage.

Never argue. Research from the University of Michigan found that when couples disagree, silence means a lack of sincerity. Positive discussion and communication between husband and wife is very important. It allows each other to discuss matters and solve problems on the premise of loving each other.

Relatives and friends are getting divorced. When you discover betrayal in someone else's marriage, it can also shake your own trust in your partner. To avoid the domino effect, don't regard other people's marriages as your primary reference. The most important thing is that you and your partner can stick to your own happiness.

Always use electronic devices to communicate. Research from the University of Oxford found that partners who frequently communicate through electronic devices such as text messages, emails, and social networks are less satisfied with their marriages. Because electronic devices cannot completely and accurately convey the emotions of both parties, only direct communication and expression of feelings will make it easier for partners to miss each other.

could not sleep well. Adequate sleep is a "must" for a good marriage. Research from the University of California, Berkeley, found that couples who don't sleep well are more likely to have violent arguments. If one party snores seriously, it is best to seek medical treatment promptly or sleep in separate beds.

Ignore small tenderness. A large bouquet of roses and a box of exquisite chocolates are certainly exciting, but a little bit of love in life is also enough to make you very happy. A survey launched by the National Marriage Project in the United States found that small details in couples' lives, such as pouring coffee for each other, slapping each other on the back, and hugging each other, will reduce the divorce rate.

Just apologize and don't change. After a quarrel, you need to apologize, but what is even more important is mutual understanding, consensus, and even compromise. When a woman complains that her husband doesn't do housework, the response she wants most is not an apology, but a change from him.

There is always disagreement. It's the weekend, you like to go out and watch a movie, while the other person likes to watch TV at home. Disagreements will cause frustration in their ideas and frustration. In order to avoid such problems, you might as well make a compromise and watch TV together at home sometimes, and go out to watch a movie sometimes. There is never a winner or lose in marriage, only win-win or lose-lose.

Dreaming about your partner's bad behavior. Dreaming about your partner being rough or cheating may also lead to war in real life. Dylan Seltman, a Ph.D. in psychology at Maryland State University, believes that this kind of dream may stem from inner insecurity. Discuss the root of this thought with your partner, relieve anxiety, and let the sweet dreams accompany you.

Remove the stumbling blocks to a happy marriage

Intimate killer one: lying. When they know that their partner's attitude towards something is different from their own, some people think that telling the truth will only cause quarrels, so they choose to find reasons and make up excuses to avoid differences and avoid problems. In the end, ten lies are often used to cover up one lie, causing the problem to snowball. However, paper cannot stop the fire. When your partner discovers that he has been cheated, all the problems will still have to be faced again, and it will become more difficult to sort out. Therefore, couples should try to be as honest as possible. When facing differences, they should explain their respective reasons, highlight good purposes, express that their actions are for family considerations, and let the other party understand and be considerate.

Intimate Killer 2: Technology Products. The rapid development of science and technology is changing people's lifestyles. Many people are overly dependent on technology products, which can even seriously affect the relationship between couples. Mobile phones, tablets, and online games have become the most common "third parties", occupying people's spare time and not conducive to communication. To solve this problem, couples can discuss and stipulate that they stay away from technology products for a fixed period of time, go to the movies or go to the park together, and maintain the sweetness of the marriage.

Intimate Killer Three: Not Listening. In terms of gender, there are differences in the attitudes of men and women when facing problems. Husbands often have to bear the heavy responsibility of making money to support the family. When facing problems, they usually think about how to solve the problems and focus on focusing on the key points. When facing problems, wives are more inclined to express themselves, eager to be listened to, and need an audience. In urban life, where life is fast-paced and stressful, it is particularly important for couples to listen to each other. This not only helps resolve worries, but also helps maintain the relationship between husband and wife. Both husband and wife should think more about the problem from each other's perspective. If the husband is busy at work, it is best for the wife not to force her husband to stop. The husband knows that his wife has something to say, so he should listen patiently and be at ease with her.

Intimate Killer 4: Separation. If a husband and wife are separated for a long time and do not pay attention to communication, the relationship will inevitably fade. Over time, the marital relationship will be submerged in dullness and cause an emotional crisis. Separation should be avoided as much as possible. If it is unavoidable, communication should be strengthened through various methods. In addition to phone calls, online videos can also be used to visually and auditorily feel the other person's presence and love.

Intimacy Killer Five: Self-centeredness. Only children have lived with the meticulous care of their elders since childhood, and have been in a single competitive relationship in school for a long time. This makes it very easy for only children to develop bad habits of being self-centered and disregarding the feelings of others. Husband and wife should pay attention to and be considerate of each other, and cultivate common life hobbies, such as self-guided travel, reading, etc. The two can share experiences and insights and rekindle the spark of love.

Intimate killer six: fierce quarrel. When a couple has serious disagreements about an issue, they are prone to fierce quarrels or personal attacks, or even physical conflicts. This has a devastating impact on the emotional intimacy of the couple. When you find that the other person's voice has become louder and his emotions become aroused, you should stay calm, separate quickly, achieve spatial isolation, and wait an hour or two before sitting down to talk. At the same time, three principles should be followed: 1. Accept the other person’s point of view and think from their perspective; 2. Express your thoughts and let the other party understand; 3. Find the middle path and eliminate inner barriers.

Intimacy Killer 7: Lack of Contact. The pressure of life is high, the time between husband and wife is getting shorter and shorter, and the contact is less, which is very easy to induce "skin hunger syndrome". Modern science has discovered that when the skin is in a state of hunger and thirst, the mind is prone to loneliness. If there is a lack of skin contact between husband and wife, over time, the husband will become indifferent to his wife, and the wife's temperament will also become impulsive. Therefore, couples should pay attention to their sex life and hug and caress each other more.