There are several types of men you cannot choose before marriage

1. Rich men. If you want to have a happy family, don't choose a rich man. You can tell by looking at Brigitte Lin's ending. I think few women can surpass her in beauty and talent. So your ending will definitely not be better than hers.

2. A person who is too passionate. A person who can write beautiful, sentimental letters to you is not a good husband. In other words, a man who is too romantic cannot be married unless you have full confidence and are not afraid that he will always have several good sisters.

3. A man who never grows up. There is a kind of man who is like a child. They don't seem to be looking for a wife, but a mother. They may even cry in front of you sometimes. No matter how passionate he is, you must not marry such a man, otherwise you will be very tired throughout your life.

4. Someone who will use all his money to buy you a very expensive gift. I know many girls like such men because they think it is true love. But in fact, this man is a man without any plans and a man who does not consider the future. If you marry such a man, you will carry many carats of diamonds with you and live a wandering life. Otherwise, there will be no happiness.

5. A self-righteous man, a selfish man. . . . . .

I think it is very important to choose a suitable person before marriage. I think he must at least have the following qualities: kindness, sincerity and responsibility. If you choose such a man, even if the marriage is risky, it will reduce this risk.

In fact, the failure of many people is that they choose the wrong person at the beginning. If a woman discovers this mistake of hers ten years after marriage and wants to change it, the price will be too high. So I advise my sisters to be cautious.

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In marriage:

Marriage is something that needs to be managed and requires a lot of hard work. My husband and I got married not long after we met. When I first met my husband, I felt that there was nothing strange about him. He was a very elegant man. During our short pre-marital relationship, I could feel that he was a very sincere person, but I didn’t know much about him. Thank God, I kept me busy and didn’t go wrong. It turns out that my husband is a very good person. Despite this, I have also experienced marriage trials, quarrels, and disappointments. Until now, I feel that he has become a relative in my life, a relative like a parent, brother, and sister. Think about what you should pay attention to in a marriage.

1. Never try to change the other person. This was the first mistake I made. At the beginning of my marriage, I always wanted to change my husband into the person I liked, but it turned out that I failed miserably. A person has a different growth environment and life experience, so it is impossible for you to change a person. In fact, each personality has its own advantages and disadvantages, and you have to learn to appreciate them. I remember when we were in Europe an American friend of mine there told me to learn to appreciate your husband instead of complaining all the time. Think about how good it is to say it. If you are still complaining about your husband, I suggest you start to learn to appreciate him from today.

2. Two people should each have their own space and trust and respect each other. This is easier for men to do than for women. I always see a lot of articles on the Internet. In fact, in the beginning, I didn't learn to respect each other's space. Just because you are married does not mean that you have the right to look at the other person's mobile phone or even check the other person's phone list. This behavior itself will greatly harm the other party. If you don't know how to respect each other, you will gradually lose each other. The two parties in a marriage cannot be tied together by looking at each other. Only by giving each other freedom can there be happiness.

3. Communicate frequently when encountering problems and never keep a cold war. Every time my husband and I argue about something, we sit down and talk. This is very important and necessary for a marriage. One thing my husband always says is we need to talk. You can find a solution during communication. If it still doesn't work, put the matter aside first. But don’t be cold war. I have two people to thank for this, my mother and my husband.

When we first got married, my mother told me and my husband very seriously that if I ran back home after we got married, as long as this happened, my mother would think that we It's time to ask the elderly to help solve the problem. So my mother said that if you have reached this level, you need to separate for a while and think carefully, so even if my husband picks me up, I can't stay home by myself. For this reason, I never ran back to my parents' home after I got married, because I knew that my mother was a person who kept her word, and it would be a lot of effort for me to run back and come out again. When I went to Europe, my mother only said one thing when sending me off: If I run back, I can't go back. So when I was in Europe, even though I had a quarrel with my husband, I never thought about running back.

And my husband, after we got married, my husband told me that no matter what kind of quarrels we had, we should not separate. He said that if we must separate, then one of us should find a house and move out. If not, there should be no cold war and separation. He does this far better than me.

I like to encounter something, think about it quietly, and then we will talk about it. Basically all problems can be solved.

4. Cherish every day of your life and learn to enjoy life. Don't always complain, everyone should have this attitude towards life. This time I met my aunt's cousin during a family visit. We had a meal together for three hours, and she actually spent almost two hours saying something bad about my cousin. She also told me that my cousin never communicated with her. I was speechless. My cousin used her hard-earned money to buy another house near her workplace because she felt it was too far to go to work. She was still complaining about my cousin not answering her calls, not caring about her, etc. He also said that if my cousin doesn’t like to go home, there must be another woman outside. Oh, what can people say? In fact, it was she who made it impossible for her husband to stay at home.

So if you find that your husband is unwilling to communicate with you, you must calm down and think about what is the problem. Why are so many people in the world having a third party? As my cousin told me, he was just staying out for some peace and quiet.

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5. Learn to get along in marriage. In fact, when two people live together, they often quarrel over small things, so they must learn to pay attention to the little details. If the other person doesn't want to talk after get off work, it doesn't mean that he has something wrong. Maybe he just wants to stay by himself for a while. If you like, you can make him a cup of tea or a cup of coffee, but don't keep asking about what happened at this time. What's up. In fact, it's just that I'm very tired after a day's work. At this time, the other person likes to surf the Internet or be alone in a daze. Just give the other person some space.

Don’t call each other constantly when the other person is at work or busy. This habit is more likely for girls. I personally think this is a bad habit. Because you will make the other person feel very annoyed.

6. Learn to think like an adult. After you get married, you become an adult. No matter how many years older your husband is than you, you cannot ask him to dote on his daughter like a father. You need to support a family together with him. At this point you are equal.

If something unexpected happens in your marriage, you should stay calm. One day my cousin told me an incident that happened in their family. My cousin-in-law received a strange phone call while at work, telling her that my cousin was dating a woman somewhere. My sister-in-law went to that place without even thinking about it. When she got there, she actually saw my cousin having dinner with others. One of them was actually the beautiful lady described on the phone. Originally, my cousin-in-law always suspected that my cousin had a woman outside. You can imagine how she reacted when she saw this scene. But the crux of the problem is that the beautiful lady is the wife of an important client of my cousin. Alas, not to mention how angry my cousin was at the time. After returning home, the two of them had a big fight. So much so that the two almost separated completely.

In fact, we can imagine the kind of person who made that call. It must have been made by someone who didn’t want you to have a good life, no matter what the reason was. So your first reaction should be to do nothing.

7. Economic independence. I absolutely do not agree with being a stay-at-home wife. Because this will make you break away from this society. As a woman, especially a mother of a child, you must strive to become a completely financially independent person. Only in this way can you have a solid material foundation as a foundation in any situation. Maybe we can't guarantee that the relationship between the other person and ourselves will remain unchanged, but we can work hard to live a good life even without the other person. Happiness must be in your own hands.

No matter how successful your husband's career is, you must have your own world and never depend on him.

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