Understanding his conversational thinking and mastering his conversational skills and style will make your conversation smooth and natural. What should you do if you unintentionally ruin the mood of a conversation? It doesn't matter, here are some tips for your reference, maybe it can help you and make your conversation turn around.

1. After get off work, you still ask about his work situation

You and the man are happily communicating together, but you suddenly ask, "How was your work today?" He just grumbles. He said "Let's make peace" and just stared at the sports program and ignored you. Before you discover why you're being left out, you should be aware that his reluctance to talk to you is temporary and excusable.

Because right after get off work is not a good time to talk to a man about serious business. Women think that chatting after get off work is a good way to enhance their relationship with men, but men are willing to just enjoy the silent tranquility and warmth with you.

This kind of silent behavior also has physiological reasons: a man’s brain is relatively focused when processing something. When a man is deep in thought at work or focused on a football game, his brain is busy with logical thinking, while his language functions are dormant.

Giving him time to calm down can get him back into a conversational mood. Hong Ying, 28, discovered: "My boyfriend came home, turned on the TV, and was in a semi-sleep state. I still remember the first time we lived together, I tried my best to talk to him, but he didn't seem to recognize me. I was simply shocked. But then I found that as long as I let him stay quietly for an hour or so, he would take the initiative to tell me what happened at his work, so that we would have something to talk about. ”

2. When you speak, stare into his eyes

Have you ever noticed this phenomenon: If you stare straight into the eyes of a dog, it may think you are hostile and avoid you, or even pounce on you and bite you. The man's reaction was much the same. Men and women sit differently and make eye contact differently when talking to people of the same sex.

Women sit face to face, leaning on the sofa, looking directly at each other; men sit side by side or diagonally, looking around. It’s hard for a woman to open up to a man who’s constantly looking at the peeling paint on the ceiling, and it’s hard for a man to open up to a man who’s staring at him during a conversation, making it difficult for him to relax.

In order to avoid this special habit of men, you can take advantage of the opportunity to talk to him when you are next to him, such as in the car, in a movie theater, etc. As long as you don’t stare into his eyes, he will He will be comfortable and relaxed to talk to you.

26-year-old Ye Xiao said: "The happiest conversation between my boyfriend and me was during one of our trips. He talked about interesting things about his childhood and our bright future. This is something he doesn't often talk about. We talked very passionately and didn’t want to stop until we reached the destination.”

3. You expect to have a long conversation

A man’s conversation is both practical and purposeful. So when you get into small talk, he will try his best to find an excuse to stop your conversation. Men think and talk in syllables. This is one of the basic differences between men and women.

Women use conversation as a softening agent in their relationship. They talk about everything to men in order to gain intimacy. Men, on the other hand, like conversations with a stated purpose. When you are just intoxicated in the state of chatting with something to say, he may be confused and completely uninterested because he cannot grasp the main points of your conversation.

When you and your lover are doing something together, it is a good time for you two to talk. Men are usually more talkative and willing to open up when they are under no pressure and are highly motivated.

29-year-old An Rui always uses this opportunity to make conversations between himself and his lover warm and harmonious. She said: "My boyfriend and I always exchange ideas and discuss weekend plans while cooking dinner together. Because we are used to chatting and working in this small space, we feel comfortable at this time and the conversation is natural. Harmony.”

Another little “trick” to get a man to talk is to not cram every silent moment. Talking for too long can bore a man. Women feel uncomfortable in silence, men don't. Therefore, if you want to break the silence, don't keep chattering. This will make men avoid you and keep silent, which is counterproductive.

4. You try to keep the relationship hot by constantly mentioning your relationship

All women in the world will ask their boyfriends on different occasions, "Our relationship is good." "Do you love me?" However, constantly asking your boyfriend similar questions will make him stay away from you. Only when a woman keeps mentioning her relationship with her boyfriend will she feel that the relationship between them is normal and harmonious. A man, on the other hand, won't mention it if he thinks the relationship is normal.

Men know that you are looking for a verbal commitment, but using the indirect method of asking questions may cause problems. As 29-year-old Wu Hui said: "My relationship with my girlfriend started going very smoothly, and then she started asking me constantly: Are you happy? In fact, I had always been happy before, and she kept asking me again and again. One question makes me bored and makes me no longer happy."

5. You are too honest

You unexpectedly received an email from your ex-boyfriend expressing regret for losing you and hoping to reconcile. After you flirted slightly but resolutely rejected his request, after thinking about it again and again, you still Think that as an honest partner, you have a responsibility to tell your current boyfriend all this. If you do this, you are making a big mistake.

While honesty and trust are the foundation of a relationship, sometimes it's best to let go of the idea that not telling him will hurt him. "Women tend to think that if they don't tell each other, the relationship will be more or less destroyed." But men will only tell you the truth when they have certain and necessary reasons.

So when you mention your ex-boyfriend, he may speculate that your relationship is still extraordinary. While you're convinced that your relationship is just an email, your boyfriend might be wondering, is there something more going on between them?

Another reason for advocating self-criticism rather than telling your partner everything is that honestly telling the whole story is much more harmful to your boyfriend than keeping a few innocuous secrets.

So: "Absolute honesty can also be very cruel." 31-year-old Xiaojing feels deeply about this. She said: "I met my current boyfriend when I was still dating my ex-boyfriend, and he heard about how ecstatic I was with my ex-boyfriend."